I have been dating this girl for almost 5 years now. She was in a car accident four months ago and had severe head trauma. She has been diagnosed with Epilepsy. My first question is, what is it and does it go away? My second question is, would I seem like a total a** if I broke up with her now? I'm sorry but I just can't deal with all of this. I'm not used to her being so dependent on me. She used to work, drive, and have her own life. If I wanted all this I would've had kids by now!
2007-04-17 04:26:20 · 4 answers · asked by dberg075 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Epilepsy is a seizure disorder, and do it does not go away, but can be well controlled with medications. I assume she did not get into the accident on purpose, it was not something she planned. Yes, breaking up with her now, or even wanting to makes you a total jerk. But you know what? Better she should find that out now rather than later. For her sake, tell her the truth.
2007-04-17 04:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 month old grand son named Jacob who was born with Epilepsy. You can be born with it or you can develop it like your girlfriend did through some sort of blow to the head. In any case it can be controlled by medication, but no it does not go away.
Your girlfriend will have to adjust to a new way of life if she is unable to work and drive, she has to figure out a new means of living. You, on the other hand, do not deserve to be with this girl. She is going to need support and all you can think about is yourself. Yes, go on and leave her because she needs someone she can count on and clearly you are not that person!
2007-04-17 11:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by grannys_bible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without going into the medical aspects of what she has, I want to congratulate you for knowing your limitations. Whether you seem like a total a , as you write, by breaking up with her isnt the point. Its that she deserves someone who is truly committed regardless of her condition AND you deserve to live your life as you wish. It will take courage but is best for both of you if you tell her that, the sooner the better. You can blame it on your 'weakness' if you want to not make her feel so bad, but you needn't feel that you are lacking since this lifelong problem is sad to live with. AND you might have broken up with her even if there was no car crash since, as you mention, you would have had kids by now if you wanted that. All will be well eventually,so dont be afraid
2007-04-17 11:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be afriend iam sure that she will appreciate tht for you .if u were instead of her what she was going to do
2007-04-17 11:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by anna k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋