I've been seeing this guy casually on and off for 2 years now, and he asked that this summer, can he have keys to my apartment - am alittle bit scared that he starting to take things too seriously. Any thoughts?
2007-04-17 04:09:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant is he wanting to move things onto the next level - not steal from me!!
2007-04-17 04:14:18 · update #1
well, like you said you've been casually dating on and off for 2 years, i think its completely normal that he asks to have your keys, if you are not comfotable, then tell him hes going to fast and that you dont want to take it so seriously
2007-04-17 04:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. When the time comes to give someone a key, it's you that decided not them!!
If you are only in an on/off relationship, you are not ready for this, make that very clear to him.
Have a good talk about where you are in the relationship, maybe he wants to take it to the next level but just went about it the wrong way.
2007-04-17 04:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is a long time to be seeing someone on and off! If it does not feel natural with him to take things one step further then maybe you want different things to him. You need to think about whether or not you want to share your life with him. He obviously wants to go further with you! Two years??!! That is a long time to fool around! Although, sometimes feeling scared when with someone, butterfly's in the tummy scared not 'oh God he is going to kill me in my sleep scared' (!!) can be a good thing! You could just throw caution to the wind and go with it, you never know, it may be the boldest move you ever make, which turns into something great. You can always get your key back!! xx
2007-04-17 04:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is a fair time to be dating but there is no obligation for you to have to give him a set of keys to your apartment. If you think he is taking things too seriously then you need to discuss that issue. he may well be thinking that you are serious about each other.
And of course there is a trust issue. Would you want him to be able to walk into your flat any time day or night? You might be with your friends or anything when or if he decided to just come on round.
2007-04-17 04:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others on this one. The word "casually" says to me that you cant be serious about the relationship. Its probally why you are posting this question here in the first place due to your doubts in this.
Talk it though with him, deterimine where he is going and see if you share the same goals (as far as the whole commitment thing is going) or if this is something he did on a whim to scare you off intentionally cause he didn't want to break up with you and figured you would break it off if it got serious
2007-04-17 04:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he think that? Are you putting yourself out there a little to much. If you don't want to give him the keys then don't. Maybe you 2 should talk about both of your intentions on any relationship.
2007-04-17 04:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by delnquent24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is a long time for a casual relationship. I think you need to start thinking about where you want this relationship to go. If you can't see a future, then you should stop wasting each other's time. If you can, then you need to do something about it.
2007-04-17 04:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by Danru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really advice you against this. Unless he moves in with your consent, he will not have the keys to the apartment.
Tell him that for security reasons, you will not be able to grant his request. Tell him your mom has keys also and do not want them to suddenly meet under those circumstances.
After all, you are not ready yet, now are you?
2007-04-17 04:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by ★Spotter★ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is long enough for a key. If you don't want to pursue a committed relationship then tell him that.
2007-04-17 04:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 11:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by dunton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋