I have one major fear that is consuming me: the fear of being alone forever. I have been with girls before, but as of late...I just can't see myself being with anyone....I feel like I'm just going to die all by myself, never get married or even have kids. I am 17 and I don't know why I feel this way already. Its strange because I do have lots of good friends and a family! I get a sort of sadness feeling across my chest. I like my life and am not suicidal or anything like that, I just.....feel alone. I just want a girl who loves me with all they got and I will love them....I feel thats the only cure for me...but I don't see it happening....I am a confident guy....but this is.....starting to bring me down from the inside....I know this ain't really a question but could you please help me? (btw I ain't askig for an internet relationship lol I don't think they work tbh) Thanks for the help!
2007-04-17 03:39:33 · 8 answers · asked by E 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like depression to me, You need to see a doctor. He can give you meds to help and you'll feel so much better and happier.
2007-04-17 03:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off you are not going to die alone. You need to try and see if there are any teen clubs or places you can go to meet other people your age and mingle. Find a mall, a bowling alley, there you can meet people and start to show off your confidence. You don't want to be super serious, for sometimes that can scare a girl off I noticed. Be loving and considerate and show that you have respect for a womens feelings and your polite. If you are out, hold the door for a girl or even in school. Join clubs in school, get active. Find something that you and another girl are interested in and see if there is chemistry. Don't worry you have tons of time and high school is one of the most wishy washy years of your life. I hope this helps and feel free to contact me!
2007-04-17 10:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by ozzylvr13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is totally natural. You are at an age when you are expected to act like an adult, make all kinds of decisions about the rest of your life when you barely know what you want to have to lunch, let alone what you will do for the rest of your life as far as a career, family, and all the rest. You need to sit down and take a deep breath and tell yourself - "hey, I'm only 17 and have so many more years to enjoy before I need to find that "forever" someone. I'm going to enjoy my family, my friends and my life in the meantime without the complications an emotional relationship brings with it". My brother was 34 when he got married and I know lots of people who are getting married older instead of younger. It's all about what is right for you and when you find her, you'll know it, and in the meantime you just need to relax and enjoy your life while you are living it. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-17 10:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young sweetie. Now is not the time to worry about this. If you were like 70 or so then I would maybe worry. You have plenty of time to meet girls/women. Please don't rush into a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. Take your time and make sure she's the right girl for you. A lot of people have this feeling. I have a friend who I'm pretty sure is afraid to be alone. You will find your someone special!
2007-04-17 10:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling in your chest is probably anxiety. That happens when you over think something. You are very young, try dating for a while instead of looking for a long term committed relationship. This will give you perspective so you know a truly great woman when she comes into your life. Rushing into a relationship because you fear being alone is nothing but bad bad bad.
2007-04-17 10:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need therapy, seriously. At 17 you're worrying about way too much too soon, you shouldn't be worrying about those things until you're in your 40's. You should be having fun, enjoying your life and finishing high school and college so you can get a job so that you can afford to have a wife and take care of your children.
Maybe you should talk to someone close to you about your feelings and see if your suffering from some type of mental condition or chemical embalance, because that's just not normal.
2007-04-17 10:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by geminig 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are 17.. you have your WHOLE life ahead of you
you need time to grow up and mentally mature
( I read your other questions)
maybe counseling can help
2007-04-17 10:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can find happiness with another, you have to be happy with yourself. Until then, all attempts are futile.
2007-04-17 10:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋