Been with this guy 2 months. We are both are 20. I am a virgin but my problem is my long, gross protruding labia. The idea of my boyfriend seeing me naked mortifies me. I want to sleep with him but I keep letting this hold me back. He hasnt said anything to me but I know he is probaly getting frustrated...what can I do?
2007-04-17 03:14:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him know ahead of time for sure tho
2007-04-17 03:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a virgin I would wait a little while... You have only been with this guy for two months... I think you should be very sure for the first time you have sex... And if you think that your proturding libia wis going to mortify him maybe he isn't someone you should be thinking about having sex... Just think it through my thought about you worry though... I don't think a guy is ever going to notice the flaw you see... If he is with you for you and not the flaw you have found with in yourself he isn't going to care because he should love every inch of you even though you don't like that part of your body... REMEMBER THINK before you act because losing your virginity is something you can't get back...
2007-04-17 11:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule 1. Don't ever let someone pressure you into sex. Are you sure you want to lose your virginity? Trust me he won't be looking at your labia. He is much more interested in what is beyond that point of the vagina. If your not comfortable with him seeing you naked that probably means your not ready. You need to know that when you are naked he'll be pleased with your body because he loves you.
2007-04-17 10:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first off I am sure you are a beautiful lady. You shouldn't let your fear keep you from anything. If your are afraid of what he thinks, he may not be the right one. If he really loves you then it wont matter to him what your body looks like. If he really cares he will also be very passionate about it. So whenever the time is right just relax and go with the flow.
2007-04-17 10:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Scottie_E. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everyones looks different... and yours is probably normal too. go see your Dr and he will tell you if it is normal or if you need to do anything to correct it
by the way... if you are 20 and a virgin... why are you in such a rush to be with someone that you have been going out with for just 2 months.. when you have been waiting all this time...He may not be the right one you know? Think about waiting till you are sure...
2007-04-17 10:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure your labia is as bad as you think? Have a look at pictures on the net or in books and compare what you have to them. Why not have sex at night when its dark the first few times then as you get closer to him you could explain your problem. i bet he wont be bothered though its what makes you individual>
2007-04-17 10:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a virgin, he understands that you arent in any hurry, so dont sweat that, second, women are all differnt there, and guys like"different", so thats cool, not gross. if it really bothers you , take note that that is the third most performed elective surgery behing face lifts, and boob jobs so might consiter that if it really bothers you..... play with the lights out, dim until you are comfortable.
2007-04-17 10:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Joel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was an OB-GYN nurse, and believe me, parts come in all sizes, shapes, configurations, etc. Stop thinking of your body as gross, and just consider it is how God made you.
He is not going to be examining you, for goodness sakes, and just because you have sex with him doesn't mean he is going to see anything you don't want him to see.
There are better reasons to wait for sex than this!
I hope you find them.
2007-04-17 10:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well have to wait until you are ready. what you are going through it for a reason. maybe you are not ready. just because he is frustrated dont you givein. do it it because you wnat to. if the sex is going to ruin the relationship then you two arent meant for 1 another. if he cant wait then hes not the one. if he was a gentlemen he would wait for you.
2007-04-17 10:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by masterdloski 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As what i can see is that you are not conforable enough with him yet. I would not have sex with him until you are. If he likes you he would not care and if not then find yourself a better man. I would not even say anything to him when you do. He may not even notice.
2007-04-17 10:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by tamparav 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a lot of woman have that, i dont think he will be grossed out.
talk to him tell him you want to but feel uncomfortable about your body. and make sure he is the one! you never forget your first good or bad!
2007-04-17 10:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋