I am in a relationship that i no longer want to be in.My partner gives me loads of verbal abuse and i know i should leave but the problem is i moved out my council house 2years ago to be with him and we privatly rent now.if i leave i will have to go back to my mums and wait to be re housed.The housing will want me to go into tempary housing which will be hell.i have to kids.What shall i do?i cant stay with him just for a roof over my head,because i know there is nothing between us anymore.help!!!
2007-04-17 02:31:02 · 26 answers · asked by becx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although it wont be nice to live in a temporary housing, but you got to ask yourself this could it be any worst then spending more wasted years in a loveless relationship which is no good for you and your kids. You owe it to yourself and your kids to be happy and being in a temporary place wont be home for you and your kids but it is after all only temporary! then you can start your lives over again with a fresh start, you never know you could be re -housed quicker then you think, surly that's got to be a better option then staying put as you say for a roof over your heads. If he's being abusive now think how bad it could get later on if you do stay. You only get to live once so you have to make the most of it and be as happy as possible and your kids have only one childhood which should be full of happy memories not bad.No matter what ages they are kids always sense bad atmospheres and could have a bad effect on them growing up. I know it's easier for me to say as I'm not the one in your situation, but unfortunately being a mum we all have to make hard decisions and all we can hope for that is it's the right one. But i couldn't be in that situation your living in so i personally would have to get out asap. good luck what ever you decide to do and hope you all will be happy again soon =) x hope my answer has been some help to you. x
2007-04-17 02:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sentiment of the replies is clearly in favor of moving out, but this is really a financial consideration, since I suspect you don't have thee resources to rent privately on your own. So obviously the only solution is to stay with Mom and Dad for a short time until you can get University housing once again.
And I agree with everyone else. You definitely should go and the sooner the better, because while you are suffering from the verbal abuse, your children are most likely suffering as well. If nothing else, they are being treated to a very poor example of an adult role model.
2007-04-17 03:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Papadoc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you i think you should move out, not just for your sake but for the sake of the children, if your other half is verbally abusive to you and upsetting you can you imagin what it is doing to the children. Would it be so bad back home where it is safe, warm and know that you have your mum for support. As for being rehoused i would rather be in tempary housing than stay with some one who does not really like me . Good luck xxxxx
2007-04-17 02:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie :o)
I think you should leave the verbally abusive pig. He is probably stamping all over your confidence. Leave him and don't look back it's not healthy for you or your children. Don't think twice about him, leave. i know going into temporary housing is a night mare but the council have a responsibility to rehouse you because you have two children. You can go on fast track as well which means they will find you a property quickly. Good luck girl
2007-04-17 02:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right you cant stay with him just for a roof over your head also he is being horrible and saying awlfull stuff you also dont need your kids around that ok its hell having to move back home and being rehoused i know i had to be rehoused from a private rented property and me and my family had to move in with friends it is hard but staying with him will be a lot harder and the longer you stay the harder it will be to leave if there is nothing between you both anymore then you know what to do good luck
2007-04-17 02:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by terihart_46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home to your mom and get away from him. Verbal abuse is still abuse and staying with someone just for a roof will eat at you. When your not happy the kids are'nt either. Good luck to you.
2007-04-17 02:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've answered your own question here hun - you cant stay just for a roof over your head!
The sacrafice of living with your mother or temporary housing is very small compared to spending time with someone you no longer love.
just take a deep breath and think about the possibilities that will be open to you once you are free of this man
xx
2007-04-17 02:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, i am in the same situation with you, but the problem is, i am afraid if i can move on after leaving him... I am also staying at his place but he gave me loads of verbal abuse too... I don't want to make a wrong decision, anyway, i have nowhere to go if i'll leave him...
should i?
2007-04-17 02:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by (sinner*saint) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAITH, I SAY!! Have faith that your highest good will work out for you. your needs will be met. think abundance and expect without question that you will make it through to a beautiful life without him. visualize with good feelings how you want your life to be and if you spend time each day doing this it WILL manifest in your life. Leave him now. it takes courage to change. fake the courage and get out and eventual rea l courage will begin to come to you. you are special. you are loved and protected by the force that loves us all. trust it. GO! YOU CAN DO IT. I promise everything will work out fine. you deserve love and happiness but it's up to you to make it happen.
2007-04-17 02:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by luvspiritnature 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go pack some things Bec and take yourself and the kids to your mums. No one should suffer verbal abuse. You are not happy and you could be in danger. So go and go NOW.
2007-04-17 02:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by Robin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋