Why do i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around my family?

Question

I feel like to keep the peace in my household I have to tiptoe around and keep my mouth close so I won't offend anybody and their so delicate self-esteem. But when it comes to me they can say anything that comes to their minds. But let me say something like that or stand up for something I think is right or I feel comfortable doing and all of a sudden it’s wrong. I understand that I'm only 17 but, I don't ask anybody for anything because I have my own job And I don't need anybody to buy anything for me. Ever since I been up here I bought everything I have now except my cell phone and that was a birthday present from my aunt who is not even here

Answer 1

screw em. Dont go visit. I'm the same way wiht my family. My counselor said if i wasn't getting anything from my relationship with my family why do i bother wasting my time putting stuff into it? Which is kinda true when you think about it. It's waste of time and energy. I assume you have friends, i'd hang out with them more often.

Answer 2

I can soooo relate to your situation. The really sad part is, I am 45 yrs old. It has only been the last 2 years that I decided I would not allow them to make me feel this way. I finally decided that they needed to accept Me for Me, and if they had a problem with Me, it was their problem, not mine. I still consider myself considerate, I just refuse to tip toe anymore. Learn this while you are young, it was a long 43 years, and the last 2, have been so much more pleasant. Good luck, don't let anyone take you down, you look out for number 1!!

Answer 3

If the peace in your household depends of the destruction of your own inner peace that is not a good thing. So consider your options. Can you afford to live on your own? And if you can not, why should you keep their peace if they destroy yours? You can stay respectfull and still fight. If they train you in being walked over, than in the end you will submit. Keep your inner dignity and let them know they get as they give.

Answer 4

You may not ask anybody for anything; but you still need a place to live, which is what they are providing for you. If you don't like the conditions there, save up your money and move out when you turn 18. Otherwise, you'll have to live by their rules.

Answer 5

the only time I had that "egg shell" concern became into with a maximum cancers moon (Sag sunlight)...it incredibly is like countless time I asked him to do something or corrected a mistake he made, the guy might get all dissatisfied and belligerent, then might launch a private attack. i found out later that he became into bipolar and his sleep cycle became into all tousled, so I doubt that his Moon became into the only concern there...

Answer 6

stop being so sensitive. it seems like your parents taught you to take care of yourself and rely on yourself. which is what you have been doing. be proud that you can take care of yourself. bc in the real world noone is going to hand you anything ona silver platter. just be glad when your 18 you can move on and be on your own!

Answer 7

maybe your family eats a lot of eggs, but then they just throw the shells on the floor so you have to walk on them. try cleaning the floor and then you wont have to anymore.

Answer 8

Honey do not feel alone. I am 59 yrs old and still feel like you do around my family.

Answer 9

You only have til your 18 to put up with it.

Answer 10

because some people cant stand to hear someone eltes ideas and critasiumes some people are just that shitie