Ok I broke up with my ex and started dating this new guy who is maaaaad jealous and refuses completely to let me even talk to him. We agreed that I'll just stop talking to him once and for all. So I explained to my ex that I didn't want any kind of relationship...
Month later my ex still tries to stay "friends" with me. I told my BF. He was like, ok go ahead I trust you even though I don't trust HIM.
And so me and my ex became "friends" for a month or two (just phone calls from time to time and Text" no hanging out.. One day he invited me on IM and when the conversation ended and we were about to leave he goes like I LOVE YOU . I was shocked , but he just went offline..
I told my BF who got maaad at me and accused me of cheating :( saying that I gave him a chance to tell me he loved me etc...
IS that cheating????? Why was he mad at me??? and this happened like 5 months ago and the other day he said that he couldnt just forget this incident
:(
2007-04-17 01:17:05 · 34 answers · asked by mimi_hottestchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO IT'S NOT CHEATING BUT YOU NEED TO CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR EX OR YOU WILL RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
2007-04-17 01:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it's not cheating as in getting physical with someone. But it is unfair to Your current bf. Jealousy can be bad, but it is also, like a way of showing he really cares about You and doesn't want to lose You.
Let the current bf know that he is only guy in Your life. Show him that whatever he says is fine with You. If he says no more ex-bf, then that's it. And do not communicate with ex.
Ok, now going on, You have to decide - do You want a guy to be strong and You follow him. That's what Your bf sounds like. He wants more control over You and only You can like decide if thats ok for You. Some of the answers to this question sound like a person that controls someone is sooooo bad, but if it don't bother You, then You can be very very happy with the current bf.
my Girlfriend is very demanding of me and expects me to be just Her guy without any doubts. So i try very hard to not give Her reason to think i'm even looking...
Good luck and by the way, dump the ex no matter what...
2007-04-17 05:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by utob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't consider that cheating. But I don't think you are over your ex completely.
Your boyfriend is the jealous type. I don't think he will ever except you being friends with your ex. Most boyfriends or husbands have a hard time with this.
If you love your boyfriend and you don't want to loose him, I wouldn't be telling him everything in details of what you and your ex talk about. Why would you tell your boyfriend that your ex told you he loved you. Does he really need to know this?
Let me ask you this, what if this was reversed? How would you feel?
2007-04-24 16:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Susie L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new bf said it was alright for you to be friends then he should have meant it. You are not the one who said I love you to your ex.
But, if you had not continued the friendship your ex would not have had the opportunity to say it.
I know it is not right, but some people say it is ok to still be friends with exes when they really don't mean it...they are either testing you to see if there are still feelings there or they are trying to make you happy even if they do not like the idea of you still communicating with your ex.
Most guys...well, girls too can not handle their partner keeping any kind of relationship going with their ex. It is keeping a door open that should be closed when you get a new bf/gf.
If you love your new guy and it does not matter about your ex or your new guy matters more, then get your ex out of the picture. It is plain to see your new guy can not handle him still being a part of your life.
be cool...
2007-04-17 01:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you probley shouldn't have gave him the change to talk to you again. he is probley right.
But if it was just him saying that to you. Then you really never provoked this kind of action.
Its not cheating, and your BF must have an issue of insecurity with himself. This is never a good thing.
Cheating is way more then something as simple as this. You originally didn't want a problem with your ex. But now you find yourself with another problem.
Just think about if how you would approach it if the same thing was done to you. Probley a little more rational.
2007-04-17 01:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a big DRAMA QUEEN. Why was it necessary for you to tell your boyfriend that your ex said "I love you." You wanted to start some sh*t and get him all pissed, which in a dumb way makes you feel wanted. Besides you're kind of silly to let a guy tell you who you can and can't be friends with. Sounds like a Lifetime movie waiting to happen. Stop leading your ex on and get over yourself. You and your new BF both deserve each other: two drama-craving idiots!
2007-04-24 16:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that you are still communicating with your ex, it shows your BF that you still have feelings for him. If you honestly don't, then don't communicate with him. Men are special creatures and it hurts their egos when their woman is told by another man that he loves her. Honesty is the best thing, but with some guys, they take that honesty and run with it, creating bigger problems. You may not be cheating, but in his mind, you are. He feels like he showed that he trusted you enough to say it was okay, and you abused that trust by making the ex fall all over for you again. If you love your BF, then let the ex go.
2007-04-17 01:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not cheating.
You need to get rid of the new boyfriend. Sumone that jealous could turn out to be very dangerous, controlling, possessive & etc. Right now it may be just your "ex" that you can't talk too.....later on he will want you to stop talkin to the opposite sex, since he is soo jealous.
Get out now. Save yourself some pain & hard feelings. And maybe even some friends!
2007-04-17 01:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are emotionally cheating on your ex by having this good of a "friendship" with your ex. To me, it sounds like your bf is a little insecure. I say dump him and get back with your ex if you still have feelings for him. Your bf can sense a lot of feelings between you two.
2007-04-17 02:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in all the chance of you two celebrating 50 years of wedded bliss in 2058 don't look good right now. "Cheating" means having sex outside of marriage. Neither guy sounds like a keeper to me. One made you look bad and the other can't forget something you had no control over FIVE months ago. I'd throw them both back.
2007-04-17 01:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your new boyfriend is extremely insecure and that's why he's acting so jealous. Your not cheating, and sounds like he has no reason to even worry, cause you have told him everything. Defiantly not cheating, you didn't do anything wrong. Tell your new man to grow up, he has some serious trust issues!
2007-04-17 01:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋