BUT i don't like to be so ROUGH with my son,do u think is necesary to be rough ?
2007-04-17 01:14:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I don't think it is necessary to be rough, but being firm at the appropriate times is good. I use time outs and taking toys away from my 5 year old. If he isn't listening take something away from him and let him know it is because he wasn't listening, wait until the next day to give it back and use it to make a big deal when he does listen the next day. Following through with a punishment I think is the best, as long as the punishment is reasonable. Soap in the mouth can get their attention also. I have only done that twice with my 5 year old and after that the threat of soap is all that is needed.
2007-04-17 01:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by elizabeth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I believe in punishment for things that the child knows he shouldn't do. If you tell him do not go out and play until your room is clean, and he does it, then it is time for punishment.
As for you getting rough, I don't necessarily think that's called for. I believe time outs are good. I always say that constructive criticism is the best method. If your child disobeys, tell them in a loving caring way that their behavior is not acceptable, and you are only punishing him because you love him and you want whats best for the child. I do believe in spankings, but only the kind to get the child's attention. Yes I know most do not believe in this, but you can spank a child and they will come more to listening to you the next time you tell them something. (NOT BEATING, spanking. Do not do this just to take your anger out on the child, if you are angry when you discipline, tell the child to go to its room for 30 minutes while you decide his punishment, that way you can cool down and make a constructive decision.)
I can see where your B/F is coming from though. If you let your child do anything without punishment, your going to have a child that is uncontrollable as an adult, plus it isn't fair to the child in the long run because they will be conflicted.
2007-04-17 08:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean rough or firm? You have to be firm and consistent with kids. If you tell them to do something and give them a consequence for not obeying (if they don't pick up their toys they can't watch TV) then you have to follow through. If you don't you child won't take you seriously and won't mind. If that is what your boyfriend means then he's right. I would call that being firm. If he means being physically rough then I don't think that is necessary.
2007-04-17 09:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well depends on how rough. my opinion for that is , to speak to ur children with a firm tone of voice and dont always spank them when they do sumthing wrong, because then they become use to it . so just take tv, toys,and things they like away maybe being tough like that will help. dont reward bad behavior and things of that sort.
2007-04-17 11:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand what you mean by being rough, but no spanking, i mean yes you have to let the child know whos boss so that they will behave, but you can do this with a look, i dont think being rough with a child is ever necessary.
2007-04-17 09:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know what u mean by rough? does he mean he wants u to be more stern with him or not coddle him so much?
if he means not to coddle him so much than i agree. its good to give your child lots of hugs and kisses, but its not too good to over baby them because than they become whiny. its also not good to be too rough either. u need to find a median between coddling and being rough.
2007-04-17 08:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain what being rough is.
2007-04-17 08:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋