she stared in september prior to that she did play group then nursery and 2 afternoons at a private nursery
she hates shool my son who is in the year above loves it
I have spoken to the teacher who says she plays with the boys
she pretends to be ill so that they will send her home
any ideas ?
2007-04-17 00:59:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
she cries
refuses to go into the classroom
its getting to be a battle
i try not to make an issue about it with her but its getting a bit out of hand now
2007-04-17 01:08:51 · update #1
My grandaughter - my daughter`s little girl - also started in september and she is going thru the same stage - not liking school, pretending to be ill. I have 9 kids so have seen all this before. Novelty has worn off, and now it`s just too much hard work, getting up early, getting ready, trailing to school, and such a long day. Remember they are still very young and get tired. They are not used to such a long day. It passes when they realise this is it - they are stuck with it - and basically you just have to wish time on a little. It is hard work, and i know my daughter gets frustrated, but i tell her to hang in there, it will pass. It`s as stressful for the parents as it is for the kids. I know my daughter hates the mornings, as the whole charade begins again - crying, won`t eat breakfast, won`t get dressed, doesn`t feel well etc etc. If you talk to other parents at school you will find others going thru it.You have to be positive, don`t keep explaining why she has to go. Be firm. I used to have a terrible time when my son was that age - my youngest. He wouldn`t get out of bed. He was tired, he didn`t get to sleep last night, he didn`t feel well, he felt sick. I would say,"up, come on, we haven`t time for this. No i don`t want to do it either but we have to. Ok you don`t want breakfast - that`s ok. " I would carry a carton of fresh orange and a breakfast bar in my bag every day, coz he would brighten up sometimes on the way to school and ask for them. I have told my daughter to do the same. You have to be very patient and firm, and let it go over your head. They only play you coz they can. Of course it`s much nicer to stay at home with mummy, but those days are gone now.
I just saw the bit about her refusing to go into the classroom. I hope the teacher is helping you out a little here. If it`s this bad - and i know it can be, i`ve had this - ask the teacher to take over as soon as you get into school, you say bye and go. Don`t get to school early - time it so you get there just nicely for going in time, no time to stand around with the crying going on. The teacher must do her bit here. This is something you conquer between you. One of mine was like this - my daughter who is 21, she was so clingy. Tell the teacher you would like her to take charge of your daughter as soon as you go in, so you can get straight off, no time for all the carry on then. This is all part of the being firm thing. I know it is hard, but say to your daughter the same thing when you leave her, " i am going now, i will see you this afternoon, have a nice day, i love you, bye. " - And go. You will be amazed how quickly she will adjust when she sees you`re not standing around worrying and cajoling. Her playing with the boys has nothing to do with any of this. She has probably just latched onto one boy and is his friend. My boy has a girl for a friend, and they have been friends since they started school five years ago. It`s not unusual. Don`t look for more problems. Who she plays with is not a problem. Getting her into a routine and settled into school is the issue here, not who she plays with. Good luck !
2007-04-17 06:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering if she has run into problems with the girls in her class..teasing, bullying, being deliberately left out. While it happens more frequently in higher grades, even Kindergarden girls are not always nice when they are in a large group. I would ask the teacher if she has noticed any problems between your daughter and the other girls. And ask your daughter as well. If she refuses to answer or says something like "The girls in my class are stupid" you may have your answer. It will then be time to find out what is going on, call in the teacher and the school administrator and check into what the school rules are for bullying.
If that isn't the case, it could be any number of things. If your child went into school already knowing her numbers, letters, beginning math and how to read, she could simply be bored. They are teaching things she knows, so why would she want to go back? You mentioned nursery school two afternoons a week...is the kindergarden class a full day class? If that is the case, she may be having a hard time adjusting to such a huge schedule change and missing out on the time she had with you to do other "fun" things. This happend quite a bit when kids first start an all-day schedule, so you may want to be sure to give her some one to one fun with you as part of the night time routine.
2007-04-17 01:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
most kids hate school i sure did because the school i went was toooo crowded and they really didn't teach you anything you really needed to know besides math and a few other classes and most of my teachers were jerks and the same thing with all the kids i went to school with and that can get on your nerves really quick... The best thing you can do is to talk to you child and find out the reasons why she hates school the teachers principle or any other person cant give you that answer other then your child and she can tell you why and what to do about it....
I drop out of high school when i hit 15 for the simple fact i was making more money then the teachers just by skateboarding as a amateur and the school i went to didn't have time for me so i said fuk it and did my own thing until my mom got pissed at me and we talked it out and i told her what i wanted to do and the reasons and that's when i went to a small continuation school and graduated a year and a half early and the same time i would have if not sooner if i didn't drop out because the school was that much better...
2007-04-17 01:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by micheal p 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There can be a multitude of reasons:
- she misses her old play partners.
- she's stressed out about her new environment due to its social interaction, or demands.
- there's another situation going on at home which she feels a need to participate in.
It will all be a mystery unless both parents provide her a safe environment and gently coax her to inform you what is going on. This will take patience, and you need to let her know that you aren't punishing her, but rather trying to help.
2007-04-17 01:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by voxninerbox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out if there is any problem bw her n children in the school .like fights,u know kids do fight and then some kids r very sensitive and get scared wid fights.talk to ur daughter and ask her politely the reason.
dnt worry that much.even when i was a kid i hated school and my elder brother loved it.sometimes its just coz children dnt want to leave their parents!
2007-04-17 01:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by vanshsa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stereotypes perhaps....gang affiliation, bad grades, no employment....etc. Continue to be a genteman and never ever say a bad word against her mom. She invites you to dinner, you take her a little bouquet of flowers as a hostess gift or take a dessert. Be suave.
2016-05-17 07:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE MAY BE HAVING PROBLEMS WITH ANOTHER STUDENT OR EVEN A TEACHER. BEING TEASED WILL CAUSE HER TO NOT WANT TO GO, OR TO BE SENT HOME. SEE IF YOU CAN GET HER TO TALK ABOUT HER DAY AND FIND OUT IF ANYONE IS BOTHERING HER.
2007-04-17 01:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just ASK you daughter why she doesn't want to go to school? You may just find out. If not, I'd arrange for her to see a counselor.
2007-04-17 01:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She could be bossy and the other girls don't want to play with her - that's quite common.
2007-04-17 03:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cause seriously what kid does like school have you ever heard a kid say ooo i love school
2007-04-17 01:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by lil shortie 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋