The guy I am head over heels for claims that he is in love with me and another female. I tell him it is impossible to be in love with two people at once. What do you think?
2007-04-17 00:53:01 · 17 answers · asked by special k 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it really is impossible to love two people at once. If you really love someone, then there is no other person that can compare to that person when you're really in love. You're totally focused on that person and no other female can get the kind of attention and love that the person you are in love with has when you're TRULY in love. The fact that there is another girl in the picture is evidence that he really doesn't love you like he says he does. The truth is that he's confused and uncertain about who he wants to be with and if he was in love for real that wouldn't even be a question.
2007-04-17 00:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kathy,
I think it is possible especially for men. It is a nature in them even though most seem to chose to love only a woman at a time. Take poligamy as for example. Poligamy is not something where people think as divided love. No, it is not. It is actually one love that being shared with others and of course it takes such a strong will power for one to actually accept a love sharing. I know it sounds crazy but it is actually a spreading of harmony with others.
Also, you should know, it is not something weird of a man love two woman at one time. Why do you think there are so many affairs been going around? It's because a man love more than one woman and we as woman normally cant accept that, I know. We feel like we are being betrayed and such.
However, I have to tell to you here that I myself are in the situation exactly like your guy, except I'm in love with two guys. Few years ago, when I broke up with my boyfriend simply because he loved 2 gals at a time, I cant see the reason why and how such thing can happen when I thought love is so sacred that it can only be shared by two hearts. But now, I'm in his shoes so I can understand how it feel actually. Presently, it's tearing me inside to chose only one of them but of course, I cant simply love them both. I can quite say that one is a flame since my grade school and the other one..well, we had a long distance relationship at the moment so nothing is really being clarify. One is really in love with me and that childhood friend of mine, I think we somewhow know that we had something going on between us even though we never say anything.
Still, the pressure and the longing to be with the right guy is just unpleasant and unbearable. I hope you can understand your guy and give him some space to think. He might come to his sense. Just that, whatever decision he makes, you should openly accept and support him. It's not the end of the world if he chose to be with another girl. That only shows that he's not the right guy for you and you are yet to find your knight in shining armour!
Good luck!
2007-04-17 01:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by countesseka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in case you love him and he loves you that lots... then faith isn't any barrier.. All faith teaches love.. i'm no longer a muslim,, i'm a catholic yet be open minded.. it is your love which will bind you at the same time and not the religion of another.. even nevertheless, make useful, and make it sparkling to him which you incredibly want to stay as a christian even once you get maried and vice versa.. it extremely is that in case you want to be a christian.. As for me there is no longer something incorrect with being switched over to muslim... that's merely dermis deep.. what's significant right it is your conviction, your love for another.. maybe it would additionally be good in case you will permit him study all the solutions right here, so as that he can open up his recommendations. the only subject i will see so a good distance is that, they might marry as much as 7 situations,, whether you're his first spouse... yet once you realize and you will permit him.. you have the completed administration over all the different different halves... it extremely is that in case you are able to shop directly to that.. And merely in case, he will as you he's marrying yet another woman.. The quoran dictates that they marry purely women human beings who're widowed. and not single females, they want to.. study the religion and there is no longer something incorrect with that. good good fortune and God Bless
2016-12-29 03:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to like many people at once but not to love. you may like a person on certain things, and another person on other things. No one is the perfectly the same. When you fall in love with a person that you like, you choose them from others in your head~basically after you have weights every points that you like about them and Bingo! you find the one! because your liking towards this special someone is basically more than others. The intensity is different.
Your man just got to choose. If he isn't sure..means he is not a commited person and may be not mature enough to understand himself
2007-04-17 01:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i don't understand how it can be possible because if he was really in love with you he wouldn't want to be with the other girl. Maybe it's a different type of love but i serously doubt you can be in love with two people at the same time.
2007-04-17 01:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but I've been in that situation and it is possible. It sounds ridiculous, but it is possible. Just remember...when you're in love with 2 people....it's awfully hard (albeit impossible) to let the other one go. Good Luck..
2007-04-17 00:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is impossible you have one love of ur life at a time, not 2 at once,its completely impossible,thats my opinion
2007-04-17 07:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by joel g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its possible to have feelings for two people however it is not a fare expectation for people to accept.He needs to choose so you can get on with your relationship or move on to someone who is serious about you.You should not have to share someones love bad for self esteem and self Image.If he cant choose then you must.
2007-04-17 00:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by suzy b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no it is not possible, it might be that your guy is in infatuation with one of the girl may be you or the other one. now its upto you if u can make him realise this and keep himself to you.
2007-04-17 00:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by tarun.shrm 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he prob just really likes both of you! or loves you and really likes the other girl! i'd lose him if he's actually telling you that!#
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2007-04-17 00:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by x..sarah..x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋