she gets upset over tiny issues very frequently say weekly once or twice and wont speak to me till next day and then sends me sms saying she has done nothing that she has to apolozise to me.She even wont think on why she got upset with me.iam being problem solver always think on the root causes of the problems between us but at the end nothing seem to work.it's becoming so much frustrating for me to handle things like this. can anyone please give advices?
2007-04-17 00:09:19 · 11 answers · asked by littlecrush28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i know she loves me very much,so as me, but this is her typical behaviour as a storyqueen.i've allways been very kind and deeply understanding with her.we have been in this relationship since 3yrs and we are from different cultural backgrounds.also we have successfully managed distance relationship for over 2.5yrs.hope all these details are of help.
2007-04-17 00:40:24 · update #1
Be patient with her.
2007-04-17 00:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Forward 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This sucks big time.
You are being manipulated by a drama queen, you are getting the silent treatment and she can not do anything wrong.
Solution is simple. Be a man. If she upsets you, don't react like an emotional wreck, looking for problems with yourself.
Stand up to her.
So, she upsets you? She can leave, now.
You are with her? You go home.
(nothing permanently. She'll BEG to come back).
She is simply going as far as she can go and you are not setting any limits.
The second you walk out, act cold as ice and DO NOT ANSWER THE PHONE, she will beg for you to come back.
I promise you, leave, don't answer the phone.
When she comes back after a few days, tell her simply that you don't stand for that kind of behaviour. She starts throwing a fit again, because it was all your fault? Byebye, leave again.
Don't go into the how's and the why's and the who-did-what.
Simply tell her that her behaviour is unnacceptable, and ignore her.
After that, she'll be a lot sweeter.
So be understanding, but don't argue. Don't be sucked into arguments!!!
So be firm, don't give in, simply refuse to accept certain behaviour, and you'll both be happier.
2007-04-17 00:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known her and/or been dating her? Has she always been like this? When she is acting normal, do you two have a good relationship? It is really hard to help you on limited information.
The bottom line is this. If you truly love her, and want the best for her, then you will not be confrontational with her when she acts out like that. You will be understanding, sympathetic, and always, always, offer to listen to her to see if she wants to talk about it.
If you notice this trend (of her acting this way) continuing, then you need to determine a few things. 1. Does she need professional help. 2. Is she the right person for you? 3. Are you the right person for her.
If you truly love her though, you will stick with her no matter what.
Good luck with this situation! I hope I helped.
2007-04-17 00:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by jninjacash31 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's getting to be too much...let her know* Be Honest with her that you've tried "talking" like two grown ppl do to resolve issues...and you don't feel you're getting anywhere as she is determined to say she's done nothing wrong..If she's not willing to budge...and be honest....time to move on. You should be living life, having FUN...not in conflicts with your woman all the time.
COmmunication Honesty and Trust are the keys to a long healthy relationship* without those you have nothing*
2007-04-17 00:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are drama queens who over emotionalize everything. Get use to it or get out of the relationship. Life's to short for full time misery that you have no idea what's causing it. If she won't even communicate her thoughts with you, what good is that? Are you suppose to be her friend or the punching bag for her frustrations? If she won't open up and let you know what's going on, I'd say move on.
2007-04-17 00:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her getting upset is a form of control. The issue is in her and her reluctance to take a look at why indicates blamelessness. Until she tackles her problem I recommend keeping your distance.
2007-04-17 01:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* Well every girl is like that , some are more emotional than others , I get upset when i dont get enough attention from bf i always want 100% attention well not always but mostly , hey im a girl , what do ya expect were all like that *
2007-04-17 00:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to consider your behavior and her behavior at the beginning of the relationship.....
was she happy?
did she ever get upset?
did she find you sweet?
did you change towards her?
maybe you should do something to cheer her up?take her for supper?
try and make her happy, so she wont have reasons to be mad at you...
good luck
2007-04-17 00:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by sweet angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 09:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by scafuri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I donot buy that most girls are like that, she donot love you and donot know how to tell you as not to hurt your feelings, she is not the girl for you, dump her.
2007-04-17 00:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just need to be patient, many girld are like this and you wont change her
2007-04-17 00:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋