k for you regulars here - you will know that my best mate is a guy whose girlfriend has been trying it on with another guy that I know - when what she had been doing came out in the open - her bf met up with this guy who showed him text messages with her saying she wanted to be with him etc. During this time she slated me to the other guy - today her bf (my best mate) has told her that he knows what she was doing behind his back and what a surprise - she has tried to blame for it saying she was only talking to him to try and set me up with him and that Im a b!tch that never wanted her going out with my best mate and was trying to break us up from day one. This is total crap as me and her had become friends with me obviously not realising what she was saying behind my back.
My question is this - now that her and the bf have split up - I feel she will hold me as responsible when telling people why they broke up - what is my best way to deal with this?
2007-04-16 23:30:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also me and her bf are genuinely just friends -there is no attraction there and I was genuinely happy when he started dating her. Also I have recently met someone new so its not like Im hard up for male attention or anything.
2007-04-16 23:31:38 · update #1
Emmie - whilst I can totally see why you think this is schoolyard behaviour due to the intense immaturity of it - you're wrong!!! Im 30 - hes 28 and shes 24 - I feel like its something that should not be happening at our ages but Im blaming her as she is that bit younger and extremely immature
2007-04-16 23:47:42 · update #2
Let her tell people what she wants - there's no way to stop it. Is the guy that she wanted to see behind your best mate's back at your school? (I'm presuming you're at school? Sorry if I'm wrong! hehe) If he is at your school, i'm sure he'll be telling everyone how it really is.
You can of course tell people yourself how it really is.
But honestly - all that really matters out of all this is that it hasn't come between you and your best friend. Imagine if he'd believed her and ditched you to be with her?
I know you don't want people to think badly of you, but a) they'll all be talking about something else soon and b) what they think doesn't matter, because you, your best friend, his ex girlfriend and the guy you know ALL know the truth!
If anyone asks you, tell the truth. That's all you can do in this situation.
Hopefully you and your best friend will be friends for a very long time. I'm guessing that this girl will push away everyone around her and end up with no-one! That will be justice for any rumours she spreads about you now.
If you need proof of Karma..... my (male) best friend ditched me because his girlfriend was jealous of us (even though, like with you, nothing was going on). She made up loads of rubbish about me and turned a lot of people against me. Guess what? 4 years on, they are miserable (from what I've heard), she has no real friends because she can never accept that she's done anything wrong... and me? I've got loads of friends! She'll get what's coming to her. You just live your life!
xx Emmie
2007-04-16 23:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
as long as you know whats happened and ya best mate knows then nobody elses oppoinon should count she is obviously very imature and needs to grow up.
when she is telling people they will notice this and she will get carried away telling stories she will end up adding bits on and making it worse for herself and people will notice this and she would of made herself look the fool.
dont lose any sleep over it as long as the important people stick up for you noone else matters.
good luck and remember what goes around comes around
2007-04-17 07:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by terihart_46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says anything about you, just say, "Yea, she is trying to blame it all on me, because she could not keep her boyfriend from finding out that she was cheating on him. I didn't say anything then, but now I wish I had." Then just walk away.
2007-04-17 06:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let people see your friendship, don't hide it. Let people know your love interest is someone other that this guy.
2007-04-17 06:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her comments is the best option.
2007-04-17 06:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋