My wife likes to cook hamburgers because they are quick and easy, but she coats them with a ton of garlic or onion salt. How do I tell her that it tasts horrible.
2007-04-16 23:25:42 · 28 answers · asked by soldierboy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How long you been married? Here's a hint YOU like them or starve. Just kidding. Tell her but use less descriptive words like horrible. The burgers sound damn good to me though, maybe it's just you.
2007-04-17 06:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Eye of Innocence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "hon, I think it would be good to try cooking hamburgers with perhaps just a shake or two of salt and maybe some "garlic pepper" to taste." If she doesn't get it yet, then add, "I just don't have a taste for that much garlic or onion salt anymore, so how about a change??"
Good luck!
2007-04-17 06:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'd like to make them, and do so, without all the onion and garlic. Be frank about it, and tell her you made them a little differently. Ask her if she likes them.
Probably she won't, but that's ok. You can just tell her you thought you'd try something different and you're sorry it didn't work out. (Or maybe you'll get lucky and she'll like them that way.)
Then leave it at that, and let her go back to making them. She may ask you about the garlic, in which case you can be frank but polite saying you might like a bit less. She may just start making them with less. Or she may not.
Either way, I don't recommend bringing it up directly unless she asks, or unless you really think that's a battle worth fighting. Of course only you know your wife well enough to know if a battle of any kind is likely at all, or whether it's just likely to bring hurt feelings.
If your wife is really easy going and takes everything in stride, maybe you can just tell her.
I think that covers all the bases. Do one of those things, or another, or nothing. ;) Seriously, good luck, I hope having some thoughts bouncing back to you helps.
2007-04-17 06:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by JStrat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just come out with it my bf thought he was being nice cooking a "curry" once a month it was horrible after two attempts i had to tell him i just said it was a bit spicey for me. You could use the excuse that the garlic and onion leaves you with a horrible taste in your mouth later on or ask if she'll put less on xxx
2007-04-17 06:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by ali-d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would like less garlic/onion salt on yours the next time she cooks them. Or, beat her to it and start preparing the hamburgers before her!
2007-04-17 06:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by LXC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe say something like, "Hey, you cooking burgers tonight? GREAT! Could you do me a favor though? I think I am liking less seasonings these days.... would you mind making my patties before you finish adding the seasonings that you like to it?"
Then I would hug her & thank her for cooking. It gives the picture that you
1. appreciate her cooking
2. are not trying to "correct her", just making a preference
3. are not trying to stop her from fixing them the way she likes them for herself
4. are not trying to be an inconvenience, because you are asking that some of the meat be taken out before the finished product.
This will not be any extra step on her part. It's like leaving a little potato salad out in a separate dish before adding pickles to the big mixture. I have to do this all the time, and it is NO BIG DEAL.
Good luck!
2007-04-17 06:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by datgirl88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am blown away by most of these answers. I am willing to bet your marriage is newer, by that I mean 3 yrs or less. Your wife needs to know your likes and dislikes. If you don't say anything you will be eating burgers that taste horrible til death do you part. In a marriage you must be able to tell your mate anything and everything honestly. Communication is the key to all of it, and I'm afraid if you can't tell her something that easy, its gonna be a tough road. She would probably appreciate knowing your likes and dislikes. She NEEDS to know to make it a lifetime,dear. Good luck on your journey!
2007-04-17 14:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by White Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my husband that if he doesn't tell me that he dislikes a meal, and I am fixing it the way that I like it, I will continue to fix that meal in that way and it may even become a regular in our household. And it only makes sense - if you don't speak up, and your wife is cooking the things that are quick, easy for her, and the way she likes them - then she will continue to cook them that way, not to spite you, but because she actually likes them that way. However, it sounds like in this case, it could very easily be changed - she could season her burgers the way she likes and not have to do a lot of extra work to season yours less or with a different seasoning than she uses for her own. Honesty is the only policy that will work here. So let her know that you don't like the seasonings, or don't like your burgers seasoned so strongly.
My husband still compliments his mother/grandmother on their cooking, regardless of whether he liked the foods or not. I have learned, that if they cook a recipe that I like, to ask him aside, after the meal, if he truly liked it. If he did, I will get the recipe, and if he tells me honestly, that he didn't, I'll just wait and enjoy it when they prepare it again.
I know a lot of women may be sensitive about their cooking, but personally, I know of no other way than honesty when two people are living together and one has to put up with a lot of the other person's cooking. Just be as kind as possible, and let her know that it's simply not to your taste.
Best of luck!
2007-04-17 11:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T. Just say I seem to be getting indigestion when I have hamburgers. Do you think it could be the garlic or onion salt? Can we try the hamburgers without to see if that is what is upsetting my stomach? I hope its just the condiments I don't want to give humburgers up. That way you won't hurt her feelings. I am sure you won't anyway if you tell her. Good luck!
2007-04-17 09:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you would prefer without the garlic or onion salt, as it doesn't completely agree with you (true). She doesn't need to EVER know that it tastes horrible - just that it isn't your favourite. Also when she makes other things, be sure you tell her how wonderful and delicious they are.
2007-04-17 06:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lineya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you prefer your burgers plain... have you been married for a long time? Tell the truth.
There was a story, but this is my version already. (Oh no, this will be long)
A guy was courting a girl and they went on a date, he made a mistake by putting salt in his coffee and the girl saw it, he wouldn't admit that he made a mistake, he said he likes salt in his coffee because it reminds him of home by the sea and then he started to cry to convince the girl. She was touched.
They got married and everyday the wife puts salt in his coffee and the guy will shed a tear. This happened for 30 years and the guy became sick and about to die, he called for his wife and told her "You know I love you very much but I never really liked salt in my coffee but I made up the story so that I can get closer to you".
The wife replied "Honey, I know, but I was just wondering when you will tell me the truth".
2007-04-17 06:45:00 · answer #11 · answered by joann_xvi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋