Family bust up!?

Question

This morning my step dad and his son had a huge bust up his son is 16, he was meant to be getting ready for school but he start getting lippy towards my step dad and then it all hit off and my step dad punched him a couple times in the face and his son punched him back . My step dad is a police officer and deals with fraud i know what he's done is wrong and my mum and me r wondering if he would lose is job over this? his son has gone crying to his mum and his mum is going to lie saying she gave my step dad the split lip not her son and say that my step dad started on her son for no reason.

My step brother is a pain in the bum most the time, and i believe he has pushed his dad too far , i just spoke to my step dad and he's upset about it and he said he just couldn't take it anymore....theres loads of problems behind why his son is like that and why and his mum split up but im not gettin in to that. And i just found out he's moving out which might be better for him coz all they do is fight and argue its never got this far its normally punching walls and kicking doors down and shouting.

Answer 1

Do policemen think they are beyond the law. How dare he punch a child in the face, I don't blame the son for hitting him back.

I'm sorry but your stepdad disgusts me He could very well lose his job as what he did was ASSUALT. He could have dealt with the situation better. Loads of 16 year olds are cheeky. I don't blame the lad's Mum if she gets the police involved. If I was her I would batter him if he hurt my son.

Answer 2

I do not condone what your step dad did to his son BUT I can see how a parent can be driven that far!!!! Some kidz really do know how to wind folk up and the go crying to the social when they get hit. I thinking punching him in the face was excessive to say the least and him being a police officer then he should know better.
If my husband did that to my son then I'd punch his lights out!!! The worst we have done was grab hold of our son by the scruf of his top when he was threatening to harm his brother with a baseball bat!!!
Kids these days have got little dicipline in schools or even in the home because we are not allowed to smack them else we can get done for assault. Your dad could lose his job over this but as he is in the police then maybe his mates will stick up for him and not charge him. Did your step-brother hit him first? I must say that if my son ever hot me or his father then i would hit back. Sometimes it's an instant reflex reaction to hit back when you get hit.
at end of the day it's sad that father and son resulted to violence as that's not the answer. Maybe some distance between them will be good.
Hope things sort themself out. Am sure your dad was right when he said he just couldn't take any more. Even parents are human. No one seems to bat an eyelid when kids hit parents yet when we hot back there's hell to pay.
However It is probably sensible that the son moves out.
I don;t think his Mum will get far lying and saying she split the dads lip. for starters your step brother may have the knuckle grazes to prove he hit Dad.

Answer 3

Your step-dad can get into serious trouble regardless of his job.
assaulting a minor is an offence and the fact that he is a police officer makes no difference to this fact. I'm not sure of police procedure regarding assault (of anyone, not just a minor) but if your step-brother presses charges i would guess your step-dad will be suspended pending investigation.
if his mum lies for him it may cloud the waters slightly but the fact that he hit his son cannot be denied.
you need to think long and hard about this because you may be called as a witness, when you will have to give an account of what happened, is there someone outside the family you can speak to as if this goes that far your going to need them.

good luck, i hope it all calms down.

Answer 4

You are obviously upset by this, but look - your step dad should not be punching his son. He shouldn`t be punching anyone. What sort of role model is he for his
son ? Or you ? He may well lose his job - it depends if the police decide if there is a case against him to persue. I can`t understand why any man would punch his own son in the face " a couple of times" - he ought to be ashamed of himself. Rather than worrying about him losing his job, your mother should be worried about what sort of man he is. They don`t sound like a great bunch do they - this family your mother`s married into ? Father punching son, son punching father, mother lying about what happened. Leave them to it. It`s not for you to worry about. Let the adults deal with it and you get on with your business as normal.

Answer 5

I wonder if all the the other answerers have a teengage child? This obviously can't have come out of the blue, how has your stepbrother been behaving in recent months? I'm not saying thumping is the answer, but kids can drive their parents mad, and policemen are parents too. The problem with today's society is that kids know more about their rights than how to behave, and the adults need to regain control.

His Mum is totally in the wrong. I bet he told her a great load of lies, and is she the sort of mother to blame everyone else over his behaviour?

If everyone lost their jobs because they lost it with their kid, there would be a great big queue at the job centre! This isn't about abuse, it's about a parent being pushed too far.

Wait and see what happens, and if it does get reported, stick by your stepfather and tell the truth. His mother was not there and her lies will get found out, and she will get into trouble for perverting the course of justice, or even perjury.

Answer 6

He can loose his job only because he can go to jail for this. He is a minor and hitting a minor can take you right to jail. Since he hit him first then that will add more time due to he engaged the fight. If he was 18 that is a different story. In this fight since the father is most definitely over the age of 18 it is automatically his fault even if the younger hit the older first or the other way around. He is a cop and that can get some leniency but not much. I hope everything comes out okay.

Answer 7

um he might lose his job cos she should no what to do in that case. so sorry to hear about taht boy i hope he's ok well tell him don't worry about it things willl get sorted out and i hope it does ye it was wrong to month his step dad off but then again it was wrong to punch his son i'm sorry i'm not very helpfull but if i was the boy or the step dad i would let then settle it and talk it over its ovibously the boy has a problem with him or got a lot of things on his mind.

i hope this helps i am sorry if it don't and good luck i hope it turns out what u'll like it to turn out.

Answer 8

family bust ups are the worst
ok ya stepdad shouldnt of lashed out but his son should do as he is asked when under his dads roof they are both to blame but his mum should not get involved and you say your dad is a police officer what he does in his own house and how he brings up his kid should not effect his job all he has to do is tell his mum that if she puts in that statement she is lieng and she could get in to more trouble for that than what your stepdad and his son could get in things like this just need time apart they will both realise that they have done wrong.
good luck and try not to worry too much

Answer 9

Your step dad committed a crime - battery. He has a self control problem and is not good for law enforcement. If the situation came to light he would probably be ordered to take anger management courses. Under the circumstances this would be a good thing.

Answer 10

I feel sorry for the whole family. Yes there is a chance the Father could lose his job, although that is unlikely as presumably he was of previous good character...I presume you were a witness to what went on and by he sound of it would stand up for your step-dad....16 year old boys can be a pain and there is no easy way out of this, once violence starts, perhaps it is best if he goes to live with his Mum...try and tell everyone that to lie about the circumstances can be worse that the offence itself..there is an offence of conspiracy to pervert the course of justice in the UK which can result in a prison sentence, so make sure everyone tells the truth.