New at a restraunt and often called peers to trade shifts- which led to one host to call daily and consistently to gab for hours. by the time he made his desire for a ralationship clear, we had gotten to know eachother by phone; though not to my satisfaction- I doubted the sincerity of a 19 y.o. who threw parties on weekdays & whom i could hardly distinguish the level of alcohol content @ a given moment. Honestly i by no means tried to lead him on, though it may seem so as i am sometimes naive and friendly. In days follwing his rejection, he began dating a mutual friend- in a relationship of convience (for months). Though even when he's w/ her, shows signs of his attraction to me. However, he is so verbally hostile/angry/aggressive towards when i have to work/talk with him. My question is, is it his damaged ego that makes him act that way, is he still smitten w/ me or does he hate me & find me unbearable? & how can i rise above & communicate effectively & professionally w/ him at work?
2007-04-16 23:01:17 · 3 answers · asked by Natalia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
divorce yourself from all emotional involvement with him.. treat him as a coworker and think if him as a coworker. avoid him if at all possible outside of work, but if you do see him, just act like you two just happen to work at the same place, you're not friends.
2007-04-16 23:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by fippypoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are sorry that it could not work out between you two. Tell him that you think that he is a nice person, but it was just not meant to be. Tell him that bringing bad feelings to work would not be fair to the other employees. Ask him if you both could just act nice to each other at work for the sake of the rest of the employees.
Let that be one good lesson for you. Never date a coworker or boss. It always ends up causing problems.
2007-04-17 06:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always, always, always in situations like this, you'll want to let your supervisor know what is happening. You must protect yourself. Unfortunately, you're a sexual harassment case waiting to happen. It won't be your fault, but it'll certainly be a difficult time for you. :(
Sandy
2007-04-17 06:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋