In other words, is it an appropriate thing to do if you thing its right to propose to your girlfriend in highschool but you both know that you'll get married when your like 20-25 years old? Not saying to avoid doing it later but say you have the money now for an expensive ring and you feel you are at the peak of your relationship, is it acceptable?
2007-04-16 22:52:48 · 13 answers · asked by ProFessa_Connartyst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not. It just seems very insecure and potentially controlling.
True love trusts....
Also, you two will change so very much in the coming years, it is nearly impossible to say whether it will work out. Yes, you may very well change along similar lines so that you are still compatible in 7-10 years time, but you may not. So all you will have done is to (try) to keep her from developing other relationships with other boys/men.
Be honest about your intent here. Is it because you can afford a ring, or is it that you want to keep people away from her? If it is the former, then good for you....you are quite a planner! Go ahead and buy the ring (secretly), put it in a safe and take it out no sooner than 7-10 years from now.
2007-04-16 23:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. Put your money in the bank and let it earn interest. Wait until you are settled into a career before handing out engagement rings. You can, instead, give a nice pre engagement ring. They are not too expensive, and mean a lot. Try something unique like a ruby, emerald, or sapphire with small diamonds on the sides. Give her a card that says--This ring is to show you my intentions for the future. Tell her that you love her, and that once you are in the position to take care of her, this will be replaced by a beautiful engagement ring, with promises for a lifetime.
Make reservations for a nice dinner at a favorite restaurant. Drop off some flowers in advance, and ask the host to place them on the table when they see you arrive. Make it a special date. Place the card and ring on the table just as you are finishing your dinner. Ask her if she will accept this ring as a promise of a future engagement.
2007-04-16 23:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not alright to propose in highschool even if you think you will get married in your 20s. You're still young and alot can change in time.When you reach your mid 20s then you'll know if you're ready to make a commitment. Invest that money you have for that ring. Maybe you might want to get a better ring.
2007-04-16 22:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by MissRoyalT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its acceptable but it doesnt make a helluva lotta sense. how old were you 7-10 years ago? like 7 or 8? did you do a lot of growing up in between the time you were born and 7? what about between the time you were 7 and now? what kind of experiences do you think you will have in another 7-10 years? how much will you grow in that time? i've seen elementary school crushes get married when they get out of college (only 1 couple), so its not impossible, but highly unlikely. (and i'm still waiting that one out). if you are both extremely faithful Christians, that will definitely help your chances of making it work. anything else....good luck!
2007-04-16 22:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by fippypoo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you should propose within a year or so of the marriage date. After proposing marriage it is appropriate to begin wedding plans.
2007-04-16 22:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,if you guys really love each other and you know that you will last for that long well then go for it but if you guys don't think that you will last then think twice about it.Maybe you should sit down with your girlfriend and talk to her and think about where you will see yourself in 7 - 10 years from now.
2007-04-16 23:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by happy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol its not appropriate.. people change, even when they dont want to different situations cause them to. Proposing to get married 10 years in advance is unrealistic haha
2007-04-16 22:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it, it doesn work. people grow up and change, even in a year. and sometimes that growing may mean getting rid of someone. wait to see if you're together in 7-10 years and if you are then maybe consider asking.
2007-04-16 22:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't. 7-10 years is a very very long time in future and you may meet other girls during this time.. Be smart!
2007-04-16 22:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋