I have decided I want to try my best to try and get my ex back. She ended things 3 mths ago as "her feelings had changed". They changed pretty quickly, 3 wks before she was telling me she loved me, she said we should move in etc
I was gutted when things ended. I decided to give her space for a while. She got back into contact with me. She met and she was clearly interested and acting as if she still had feelings for me. The next time I met she was the opposite.
So I decided to write to her and say how I felt. We had a long chat. She said in reply I "was a wonderful person and whoever I ended up with would be as lucky to meet me as she was". I found that weird. She later said that she didn't say that.
I decided that I was getting nowhere talking to her about us so I decided on no contact.
After a mth maybe I will re-contact her. What should I do to try and get her back? I am thinking I don't mention the relationship but just work on getting to know each other again? Tips?
2007-04-16 22:19:08 · 12 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her alone if she wants you she will come and get you and if she dont then your helping yourself to get over her.
2007-04-16 22:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well yes and no really it depend on what kind of guy he is!
ye u should work on ur relationship (mates) maybe she'll trust u more (than before).
the words
"was a wonderful person and whoever I ended up with would be as lucky to meet me as she was"
that mean she still has feeling for u BIG TIME! and she wants u back (thats in a girls eyes lol i no)
thats a bad idea to not to contact with a girl that likes u cos in the end she'll end up seeing u as only a mate and nothing more so if i was u get back on ur feet and contact her a.s.a.p!!!!!!! lol
ask her how's she's doing? what she's been up 2? is she single (not all at once tho lol it may sound a bit forward lol)
i hope this helps if not sorry i'm only 16 and i am trying to help ppl but good luckm and i hope it turns out the way u want it to be!
2007-04-17 05:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it's manipulative but acting like your not interested is the best way to make someone interested. Keep in contact with her but on a casual friendly level, don't tell her how you feel again. Show her you're not needy (v. unattractive) and you can survive without her. Demonstrate all your best features when you do see her - be happy, humerous and fun. She'll soon realise she can't twist you round her little finger and come running back.
2007-04-17 07:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can keep her as a friend do that. If she does'nt want to take you back then don't try to force her to be with you. you never know she might change her mind and try to give things a second try. Just keep your cool about the break up and keep your options open date other women and don't put all your energy in getting her back. But like I said try to keep her as a friend and let things go from there. Better to have her as a friend than not having her in your life at all.
2007-04-17 05:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Uniquea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't she is going between you and another man/ she is with another man. Honestly best thing you can do is never ever ever talk to her again. It will save you being pissed off and doing stupid stuff. I was in the same shoes like 6 month ago i was telling her how much i loved her and all this. She doest care about you no more and she does not love you just f her and move on . Erase her # and get rid of all the things she gave you. Delete your my space and move on go out find another chick cause she will f up your life like my ex did my. Now she is dating one of my friends and if i ever try to talk to her she tells me nothing good can come of this. ( i was trying to get my jeans) so just erase her out man.
2007-04-17 05:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by alrazod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make her want you, all you can do is be prepared to take her back.
Taking her back however means accepting that she might leave you for another 3 months, or 3 years. If you want to wait, and keep on waiting, you could waste your whole life waiting.
A good relationship is one you both want, and you both feel comfortably in, that isn't the case now with you and your ex.
For your own peace of mind, accept it is over, feel the pain, and get on with your life.
2007-04-17 05:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sprinkle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two need to hang out together, not as a date but as friends....Get her interested in the guy she first met, as hard as it will be, you need to pretend you havent had a relationship with her ever before! I dont no why, but it always works better, because we tend to think of all the bad things instead of all the good things! So just show her all the good things for example joke around, offer her a drink etc!
2007-04-17 05:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tamika W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah leave her alone. Yes you can play games trying to trick her into coming back, but if she doesn't want to then don't bother. she probably knows she can have you if she wants anyway and chances are if she does come back, she'll use you and move on again.
2007-04-17 05:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
leaving her alone is the ONLY chance you have, and the odds are not good.
leave her be, and wait it out. After a time, you may find that you also have a change of heart and may find that you really do not want to resume.
2007-04-17 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems she doesn't know what she wants in life. She's trying to let you know to move on and don't wait around for her and that maybe there's someone else out there who will appreciate you more than her.
2007-04-17 05:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by MissRoyalT 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would keep in contact with her, but let her do the chasin she already knows that you are interested in her, but if you stop chasin her, she will think you have got fed up and then she will start chasin you, good luck
2007-04-21 04:41:10 · answer #11 · answered by JOJO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋