my bf is a jehovahs witness.. do i have to be baptized to mary him or can i simply attent the meetings w/ him?

Answer 1

He can marry you even if you do not become one of Jehovah's Witnesses. When someone dedicates themselves to Jehovah and gets baptized they make an agreement to follow a certain code of living as set out in the scriptures. One such agreement is to "marry only in the Lord." I add my voice to one other answerer who explained part of the reason behind the Biblical admonition is because when a household is religiously divided it adds strains on a marriage that could be avoided if the household is not religiously divided. If someone who is a baptized member of the Christian congregation is considering marrying someone who is not a member of the congregation it speaks to his faithfulness to his promises. It's not the best indicator of faithfulness. So I would take this into consideration when deciding for yourself whether you want to marry someone who is considering breaking promises he's made, to God nonetheless - even if you don't personally agree that the promise made is necessary.

I don't say this to say you're a bad person at all. I don't know you and I'm sure you're a wonderful person.

If you ever choose to become one of Jehovah's Witnesses, please let it be because you have studied and believe they have the truth. Don't do it to ease any strain your boyfriend might feel for choosing to go back on a promise he made. However, the choice to marry is between you and him. He would likely be encouraged from the scriptures by mature shepherds in the congregation to choose as a marriage mate someone who is a dedicated servant of God. But the decision would be left up to him to make and it is not a disfellowshipping offense.

I hope I answered you question and I really hope I didn't offend you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Well the first answerer was mostly right. If you wish to be a Witness then learn about us. If you do not, please don't think putting on a pretense will work. Firstly you should talk to your bf. See what he says. There is no hard and fast rule, as long as both of you are free to marry. There are Bible principles which certainly discourage marrying someone of differing beliefs.

Answer 4

The bible clearly instructs a true worshipper to only marry a fellow believer. A person can only be said to be "in the Lord" if he has been baptized into the true Christian congregation.

(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm

Answer 5

If you want to be married in the Kingdom Hall both of you would have to be baptized.
You would show your BF that you trust him and are willing as Ruth said ..your God is my God where ever you go I will go where you lie down I will lie down. She was not a worshiper of Jehovah but since she took up the faith and was so kind to her mother in law, Jehovah blessed her with a good husband. God also blessed her by using her to be in the lineage of Jesus Christ.

Answer 6

Don't know where you got the Idea you need to be Baptised to marry him? Baptism is a public showing of ones showing that there old self is died and buried, and a new life begins with the resurrection of a new birth in Jesus Christ (for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, the penalty of sin is death,you must be born again). Baptism, doesn't do anything, and has nothing to do with marriage. it is one of the two ordanances to "show your faith"he gave to Believers, Baptism, ti show that you are a believer in Christ, and his works on earth, and the second is the LOrds supper ,or communion, which is the wine and bread, as with the disciples for the last supper (Do this in remembrance of me). both are for believers only, and serve no other purpose for marriage or any other purpose.

Answer 7

Hi.

Nope you don't have to be baptized to marry him..... But the Bible says:

(2 Corinthians 6:14-15) 14 Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness? 15 Further, what harmony is there between Christ and Be′li·al? Or what portion does a faithful person have with an unbeliever?

So, it is up to him to decide if he wants to go against the Bible... It is also up to you to decide for yourself if what the Bible says makes sense to you...

Remember, there is no rush.... read the bible.... study it....learn from it..... The best place to do that is at the Kingdom Hall.... Then you can decide.... then you can get married....

Mike

Answer 8

if he is to be in good standing you will have to marry him if not he will be considered "bad association" or "spiritually weak"

i am surprised that a JW is dating a non JW.
they are not supposed to socialize with worldly folks.

are you prepared to give up celebrating your b/day, Xmas, the 4th of July.... even your kids b/days?

are you prepared to attend meetings 5x a week?

JW's must.

keeping folks immersed in activity is one way a cult operates.

it prevents folks from "thinking" and processing info critically.

JW's practice "love bombing" ;
at first they act real nice while you are studying.... until you are baptized then you are expected to walk a narrow line.

if you do nothing else..do not get baptized b4 you are fully sure of the type of life your are getting into.

I strongly urge you to read some of stories on the ex Jehovah witness sites

they truly operate like a cult.
you are considered a rebel if you ask questions or disagree. you are expected to turn in those you suspect of sinning.

as a woman you as a JW wife will be expected to literally obey your husband.
you can only make love in one way; the "missionary" position
to spank your kids as discipline.
to "earn" your way into heaven
to place as many magazines and preach at as many doors as you can.

you cannot read any literature that is not sanctioned by the JW's
to do not read any bible other than the one issued by the JW's
if you do so you will be considered a "aposate" someone who is againist their faith.


The Watchtower and the elders tell you what to think, how to dress, how to make love

You are no longer able to discern info using your own brain.

alll thinking is done by "the elders" or the govening body in NY

you have my prayers either way

Answer 9

You have received some good answers above from witnesses. I would ask that you try to ignore the people who try to degrade the goodness of this organization. If you do a little of your own research, you will note that JWs have the lowest divorce rates of any religion, 50% lower than even the Amish, who you would think would be the lowest. They also have the lowest rates of out of wedlock sexual activity and births.

There have been many very successful marriages involving witnesses and non-witnesses, just as their have been with Jews and Christian, or any of the many other mixes you can think of. But, there are also just as many failures.

I've worked with divorced and single fathers for 20 years and I can tell you that those failures are the hardest on the children. The mixed marriages that work out the best usually don't have children, but not always.

No one can give you any guarantees, but the question you have to ask yourself is whether you want to have children, and do you want to take the gamble with their lives that things will nto work. Yes, it is a gamble in every marriage, but it's looking at all the evidence and seeing which adds up to a better conclusion.

Every religion, not just witnesses, advises their members to marry within the religion. This, in and of itself, is good advice. If you want children from this marriage, than you need to examine if this religion is the right one for you.

Witnesses are not looking to convert people. They are seeking those whose hearts are seeking something more than what they are finding in the churches of Christendom. They are seeking those who look at the churches and see them walking in the shadowy edges of the light of Christ, and they want to walk in the full light of Christ.

Your heart is already seeking something. It has sought out a man who has something you are not finding in others. Being a JW is not something you just do on Sunday and holidays. It is a life style that you live. You live and walk in the light of Christ. So, what you are seeing in him, that you are not seeing in other men, also comes from that life. Perhaps your heart is grasping for more. More than what you are finding in this old world, this old system.

It is not for me or anyone to say. Only you can make that choice, but you cannot make it without knowledge. You can find all the anti-witness material you want from here, but to learn what it is really like to be one, you can only do by studying with them. It is not going to be easy, and there are no guarantees. There is not even any guarantees of an easy life after Armageddon, as it will take the good part of 1000 years to rebuild this old Earth back into a Paradise. But, consider the challenge of doing so, than heading out to those little white dots in the night sky to explore all of God’s creation, and to find other planets for humans with everlasting life to live on.

Answer 10

Why don't you start a study yourself and find out the truth for yourself. You don't want to serve Jehovah for the wrong reasons, you want to serve him because you love him [not because you want to be with your BF] ...

Don't listen to what people tell you about Witnesses, go and see for yourself :)