I love this girl a lot but shes not returning my calls. What should I do?

Question

We met over Facebook and I liked her instantly. We talked for about two months, and then I told her I love her (because I really do), but she didn't say anything. She just said, "I would love to get to know you more. Whats the hurry? Now I'm blushing fully". Anyway, I took her phone number and I called her. We spoke for about two hours and a half on the first day. A week later, I called her again, and we spoke again for two hours, and I thought everything went well.

Maybe I was wrong, but when I called her the next day, she didn't answer. I called her the day after, and still she didn't answer. The next day, I had gotten my own phone, so I called her and left a message with my new number. Still she didn't call. Its been almost eight days and no word from her so far. I am really confused about her because when she talks to me, she sounds interested in me, but then she responds so late - in this case not at all. I really love this girl, but I don't know what to do? Any ideas?

hmm...thanx everyone for your thoughts. Now I realized what I've done wrong. I moved to fast, and I scared her away. I guess this is a learning experience, so the positive thing is that I learned from this mistake. I just have one more question though because I think you guys are helping me out. Its been 9 days since I've spoken with her and she hasn't returned my call. I'm not planning to give her a call because I think I turned her off. Is that the right thing to do, or should I call her once more and apologize for being so fast?

Answer 1

You blew it, dude. You came on too strong too soon. You said yourself that she said, "...what's the hurry?"

People need their space, and if you come on too strong, they will naturally back off. She didn't feel that she knew you well enough to spend that much time with you so she didn't respond back.
Instead of looking like you've got your own life and activities, it looked like your putting everything aside for her by calling her too often. You made yourself look emotionally "needy" or "clingy", instead. Girls like a guy that has his life together, and lives it. By calling so much, you came off as opposite of that. When you called her that third time, she probably thought, "I liked talking with him, but I've got my life and I don't really feel like putting everything off right now to talk another couple hours on the phone two days in a row. He's trying to spend too much time with me like this too soon and I don't feel the same way about it all. I'm not going to answer."

You should have given it a couple days before calling again. I'm sorry to say, once a girl thinks like this of a guy, there's no way to repair it. And by the way you sounded in your question, she's right. You were trying to move too fast, and if you do this in the future, your going to get the same reaction unless the girl you do it to is very emotionally needy herself.

Answer 2

I think you should hang back a bit and give her some space. You really don't know her. If some guy I'd never met in person, whom I'd been chatting with for a couple of months suddenly professed his love I'd be a little nervous too. Wait for her to call you. If she doesn't call back, then you have your answer. Next time, take things slow. I think you are more infatuated than anything else. Real love takes time and you need to really get to know someone. Good luck.

Answer 3

Dude, lay low, you scared her off. The Love word is very Strong. And now your calling, your creeping her out. Lay low don't call for a few days, heck lay low a week, then call, and leave a short message. You did, you sent her packing. Also give her some time, she may have (God forbid) had an emergency where she had to leave town or something you never know. But still lay low give her time, and space.

Answer 4

yes you are being A MEGA WUSSY. girls HATE that mate, slow the feck down. if you dont stop harassing her (and thats what your doing) then your going to lose her forever. with NO come backs. also, the begging? girls dont want a man that has to beg, woman want a strong minded individual, someone that doesnt annoy her as soon as she wakens up, if she wakens at 1pm, dont phone her at 1pm. let her have time to get up, eat her breakfast, go in a shower, get ready etc. she needs and wants her OWN space too. and if you keep bombarding her with messages then pretty soon you wont be part of her life at all. then how would you feel? it isnt flattering to her that your like this with her, its creepy probably, otherwise she would be encouraging it and showing similar levels of affection back. take a break, a wee breather, phone her once a week, randomly, instead of the whole time. then you will have stuff to catch up on and talk about, text her once a day, but not with a question needing an answer, because if she doesnt answer you will get upset. just text her how your thinking of her, or you miss her, and you hope shes good. believe me man, if she wants to talk to you, she will. if she wants to hear your voice, she will phone you, if she wants to know what your upto and how you are, she will text you. its simple really, and if you want to keep this girl a while longer, then i suggest you listen to what i am saying here. hope it all works out for you (P.S. forget about marrying this girl for the time being)

Answer 5

Give her time.... Take a hint.....

Either she is pissed and needs time, or just flat out doesn't feel the same way about you.... either way she will either call or not call,only time will tell.

Call her once more and explain your feelings in a very sincere way and tell her you wont call anymore but you would love it if she calls you back.... even if she doesn't like you, you would like to hear it from her.... after that be patient, live life and wait to see if she calls.... either way you will have your answer.

Answer 6

If a girl likes you, there is nothing you can do about it, she just likes you. If a girl doesn't like you, there is not a thing in the world you can do to change that either. She just doesn't like you. If you are worried about rejection, don't be. you'er looking for the girl who says YES not NO. Sadly, your persistance is just making it worse for you. Right now you'er like a dog at the table side just begging for a scrap. Sorry but, cut her loose if you want to at least TRY to save your manhood form getting completely trampled on.

Answer 7

sori to say...She's not interested. u freak her out and say you love her after 2 month! all she wanna do from the moment u say the 3 words..is run....face it. u blew up ur chance...u shud listen when she said better get to know each other more...

she's sound interested b coz she want to know more about you...and maybe later she think u are not the right person...and ignore u...

sorry dear..but at least u learn from ur mistake...
and wish she can see how much u love her...
gud luck

Answer 8

You rushed it and freaked her out. Even though you had good and probably pure intentions, she didnt respond the way you would have hoped.

Respect her decision and leave her alone. If she wants to contact you, she will. Let her know how you feel and then let her decide.

Calm down.

Answer 9

BACK UP PIMP. LET HER BREATHE. TELLING HER YOU LOVE HER AFTER TWO MONTHS THAT MY FRIEND IS A NO NO. YOU HAVE SCARED THE GIRL OFF. THAT IS WAY TOO EARLY TO LET HER KNOW YOUR TRUE FEELINGS. ME FOR EXAMPLE WHEN I MET MY GIRL I DIDN'T EVEN TELL HER THAT UNTIL ABOUT FIVE MONTHS AFTER WE MET AND THAT WAS FACE TO FACE. YOU MY FRIEND NEED TO CALM DOWN AND JUST WAIT IF SHE CALL BACK IF NOT WALK ON CAUSE SHE IS NOT THE ONLY ONE OUT THERE

Answer 10

she may have gotten creeped out since you only know her over facebook/phone... i know it sounds bad, but she may only be responding to be 'nice'... that's not to say she was never into you, but she may have felt things were moving too fast, especially for being online, and was a little creeped out.