I am adopted, and My only living relative,My brother Matt was sent over to the middle east on the USS NIMITZ. I miss him every day but I know he is doing the Job he loves. He always wanted to be a sailer, and he always went for his dreams...I want to believe that he will be Ok but everyday I turn on the news or flip open the newspaper, I read of another death caused by the war. I have no idea how long he will be in the middle east. I fear he will miss my wedding. How do I learn to deal with him being gone, and move on and live my life? Please HELP!
2007-04-16 17:19:56 · 17 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Each of you has to grow up to be a responsible individual....he can't live your life for you, and you can't have him right with you or live his life for him. That doesn't mean he won't always mean a lot to you.
Since I am a Christian I would say that God loves him even more than you do, and He is able to keep him safe.
You also need to know that everyone in life has an appointed time to live and to die.....and he could be right beside you and be in a car crash, etc.....so he may seem like in a lot more danger, but maybe not...especially since only God decides when someone is going to die....so your fear is not realistic. Actually, a very small number of our troops have died...probably less than would have died at home.
If the news bothers you a lot, just don't spend so much time on it...it probably doesn't help. Just keep in touch with him.
You can only delay your life so long....your groom should be more important and what he wants in your life, or your marriage is going to have problems. Your brother should not take more importance in planning your wedding....you can try for a date he may make it home....if not...video tape everything and he can see it when he gets home.
I understand why you would want him to be in the most important day of your life.....he probably has an idea when he will be coming home....is it realistic to wait for then?
But, I bet he wouldn't want you to plan all of your life depending on him....otherwise, he wouldn't have joined the navy in the first place. So be glad he is where he wants to be, and be sure your groom is as or more important in your own life....that's what counts for a good marriage.
You sound insecure...understandable because of your background....are you marrying someone who helps you feel more secure, and understands you? That is pretty important .
You cannot allow "fear of what might happen" rule your life.
Thank God for the fiance He has given you and move on with your life. That is what your brother is doing....and it won't be long before he'll be back.
2007-04-16 17:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sherrin,
Congrats on the wedding!
Matt should be fine, the USS Nimitz is a aircraft carrier, the prize possesion of the Navy..that more than likely will be at sea the duration of the time he's over there, he's alot luckier than some soldiers that are infantry.. He'll be fine, and you can rest assured he's probably thinking about you and your wedding too.
2007-04-16 17:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by "Rabbit" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matt is one of our heroes here in the US. Be proud of your brother, I know it must be hard knowing that he is in the Middle East, but he is doing what he loves and is following his dreams. Prayer helps, especially when you have no control over his safety or the outcome of a dangerous job such as his. Many people have lost their lives to this war, but it has not been in vain. Pray that he will return home soon. I think Matt would like for you to be happy, and he is fighting for many people's happiness and better life in the Middle East.
If you are not able to contact him via email or letter... Start a diary and write in it when you feel lonely or depressed about his situation and how it is affecting your every-day life. Then, when he returns home, you can have the option of giving it to him if you wish.
Take Care ~
My thoughts and prayers go out to the men and women in uniform and to their families and friends who have also been affected in many ways by the war on terror...
2007-04-16 17:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Time4Tivo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an ex Navy Veteran myself, and the one thing I can tell you is that it is very doubtful if your brother will step foot on land. He is sailing and blocking, both out in the seas and oceans a long way from the main battle. Have you went to the Red Cross and seen if there was a way you could call him? Maybe the Navy itself will help. Or try a local base near you. Just a call or an email may help you a lot. Keep writing him.
2007-04-16 17:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by wiz1jtc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not foresee that the troops in the middle east will be there in the same numbers and capacity as they are now.
Well before the middle of 2008, way before in fact, we shall see a tremendous decrease of American armed forces if not a full and complete re-deployment back to America for good.
In any case, second to this, your brother is Navy, not Marine or Army or somewhat Air Force, the first two of which are the primary branches carrying the brunt of harm's way in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Third, do not again vote for the likes of individuals we now see in the Executive Office, those who put us in the middle east and who still aspire to keep us there -- 'was and is a grave error indeed.
2007-04-16 17:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-29 03:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by macky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on the Nimitz, no doubt he's coming home in on piece and I'm sure he'll be home before you know it. Just keep yourself occupied and the time will pass by all that much faster.
2007-04-16 19:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by free_eagle716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your love for Matt, your life is partially on hold, until he comes home.
Take one day at a time, that's all any of us can do.
Miss your wedding? Plan that for after Matt gets home.
2007-04-16 20:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kay F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry too much for his safety. The Iraqi Insurgents dont have a navy. He might miss your wedding though. Most likely he wants you to be happy. Keep that in your heart forever.
2007-04-16 17:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...he is on the Nimitz...much more safer than living in Tampa, believe me...is he in the Navy? If he is, he will be home soon...and your wedding can wait..you can be sure the Navy won't...God Bless You Both!!!
2007-04-16 17:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋