I live w/my best friend of a long time who is the epitome of a meathead...attractive, tough, horny, quick temper...but he also has a good heart. His girlfriend has also lived with us for as long as weve lived together, and she is an absolute doll...nurturing, smart, just the nicest thing youve ever met and Ive become very close with her too. Not by choice, I am in between them often because he can be hot-headed and it's not always easy for her/anyone to talk to him. Today she confronted me about him lying to her. He hasnt actually cheated, but there have been plans to meet with other girls/texting/phone calls, expecting me to assist. I broke under the pressure but I care for her as much as him & shes been cheated on before and lost her mother to cancer 3 years ago. I didnt have it in me to lie for him, although usually probably would. I know technically I acted ethically, but now shes moved out, he's gonna too, and he's disowned me. She's thankful but I feel dreadful...was I wrong?
2007-04-16 17:15:31 · 8 answers · asked by Matthew L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"NO" you are not wrong for telling her this. I would wreath loss a friend over seeing another friend get hurt over someone cheating.
2007-04-23 23:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in her situation, I would have liked for you to tell me the truth, too. It would have been wrong to let her go on in a relationship where it was a huge possibility that she would have been cheated on. You did the right thing. If you give your friend time, I'm sure he'll get over it and start talking to you again, but I'm not saying for sure.
Just be grateful that you saved someone from a lot of heartache.
2007-04-24 15:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is easy.. ask yourslef what was more important to you.. your friendship with the guy or the friendship with the girl... if he's been a long time GOOD friend then you prob should have let what would be.. simply be.. but if he was an OK friend and you felt it was more important to tell her then you did the right thing.. but what happened happened.. there's nothin you can do to change it.. if you want to try and fix any relationships then try .. just know.. you're not going to get both back... so figure out which friendship is more important and run with fixing that one... good luck!! =)
2007-04-24 16:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by the critic!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u were soooooooo right!!! it doesnt matter if this is ur best friend, cheating is sumthing that he cant take back and it can really hurt sum1!! The right thing to do was to tell her even if it resulted in them splitting up!!
Good Job!!
2007-04-24 13:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No what you did was the right thing. That just shhows that you didn't want to see her get hurt. Wish there were more guys like you!
2007-04-24 12:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Diana♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes yes your wrong
bros before hos and all that
i mean ur friends should be
more precious to you then
a girl
2007-04-24 15:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kelley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO U WERE NOT WRONG TO SPEAK UP AND SAY
WHAT U FEEL. AND I THINK U WOULD HAVE
APPRECIATED SOMEONE TELLING U THAT UR
GIRL WAS PLAYING U FOR A FOOL. . . U HAD
HER FEELINGS AT HEART AND THERE IS NOTHING
WRONG WITH THAT..........
2007-04-24 14:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I think you did the right thing.
2007-04-17 03:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by chizzylene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋