Hello All,
My girlfriend and I broke up last week and I am desperate to fix things. She is scared about the future, about the kind of person I am, the fact I'm not religious and about her maybe wanting move back to Brazil.
When we broke up I cried for 3 straight days. I don't know what I'm going to do without her. Today she agreed to meet up with me and talk (after I have been trying almost everyday for this). What should I not say?
I want to tell her everything I want to say that "I was scared of completely letting my guard down!", "That I will change my negativity about things." I want to say that "I would risk everything and move with her if that's what she wanted!" That I'd support her in everything. "That the only thing I'm now scared of now in my whole life is not being with her!"
Will these things be too much? Should I go more as a friend and listen?
I'm confused I don't want to lose her. It's a dark room loneliness
2007-04-16 16:51:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heyy! buddy dont freak out! i can tell that you ovbousily LOVE this woman and that you should tell her how you feel. how ever i do have some pointers,
1- dont sound desperate
2- stay calm and explian to her why she means the world to you
3- be romantic
4- be just as prepaired to lissten as you are to talk
5- find out why you brok up in the first place and explain to her why it wont happen agian and how it will be different in the 1st place
6- BE YOUR SELF she fell 4 u once! she wants the same you back
7- show he how much she means to you
8- be old fashioned, bring flowers (do you know her favorite) be romantic, sweep her off her feet.
9- dont rush things! after the break up you dont want to hurry back together give it some time maybe you have to have several meetings before it works out agian
10- give her time to cool down. this is huge that she is goimg to meet you this is huge
11- allways rember "what is ment to be will always find its way"
12- also allways rember " nevr stop smiling because you never know who might be falling in love with your smile"
good luck!
2007-04-16 17:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by &&Kaytee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is clear that you care deeply for her, but be honest with yourself. Is she a Christian, and you have no religious foundation? If she is young, her parents might suggest she be with someone with the same religious grounding. It may sound trivial to you today, but in the future it does make a difference. You also state that you'll change, and move if you can just be with her. More importantly that you will change your negativity. This is easier said than done, and it is done over time, not over night. I would only causion you to be honest with yourself and really evaluate why the relationship ended. It seems you are promising a great deal that you may not be able to do. Last, often times when someone comes across desperate, as you are sounding, it makes the other person have less respect for them. This may not be true in your case, but I'm just sharing thoughts with you. Why not step back and listen to what she has to say ... then, take it slow. Try not to make promises you cannot keep. You sound so in love, and I hope it works out for you, but if it does not just remember, someone new will come into your life in time. This is not consolation today,but it is reality. Good luck to you.
2007-04-16 17:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Hello All,
My girlfriend and I broke up last week and I am desperate to fix things. She is scared about the future, about the kind of person I am, the fact I'm not religious and about her maybe wanting move back to Brazil.
When we broke up I cried for 3 straight days. I don't know what...
2015-08-10 16:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Donni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be you...don't bend to what you think will make her happy because eventually you can not bend any more. You need to be open and honest about all your feelings...the feelings we endure with moments of sudden loss sometimes cloud what we really think and feel. Yes you want her in your life but you also can not pretend to be what your not going to be comfortable living up to a few months or even a year from now. Do not overwhelm her with undying affections...you need to calm down and take a deep breath...take small steps with your honesty to her....above all listen to what she is saying to you. If your future is together then the two of you will see it as you begin talking again...and sometimes we painfully realize that maybe the future you had wanted and planned on so heavily....will not work for the both of you. If it is ....then embrace her and never let go again. Good luck.
2007-04-16 17:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by LESA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww well those are some of the sweetest things I've ever heard and as much as I'd LOVE it if a guy cared about ME that much, I'll have to go with the fact that maybe it's not the best time to tell her all that stuff. If she's already sketchy and broke up with you, I'd just listen to what she has to say before you judge whether to go into all of that stuff. Feel it out and see where her head is at before you tell her that stuff.
Good luck!
Sarah
2007-04-16 16:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by McLovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a family of *******. Call the cops back. Show them that the Dad-dud admitted to having your stolen property and sk if they can help you get it back. They will. He has intimidated a witness in a criminal complaint. He has threatened someone for doing nothing illegal. She stole property with a value over a hundred dollars and probably committed a felony in most states. Dad wants so badly to be hero instead of the zero he always has been, he is only making the whole situation worse for himself and he princess. As long as you try to be civil with these clods you will be A.) unsuccessful and B.) get bullied around. Call the cops and then really be done with this.
2016-03-14 06:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you that is a sign she wants it to be over. Don't make her be with you. words you can say .... i will be here for you if you need me, i will give you time to your self and i understand. leave it with that. listen unless she's meeting with you to hear what you have to say then is when you talk don't be needy and don't ask a bunch of questions for her to answer. Just state why you feel the relationship needs another chance and then hear what she has to say if it ends up being over then except it and move on.
2007-04-16 17:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by haterage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a girl, and I would be flattered to hear a guy say that to me. You really have to wait and see what kind of a reaction you're getting from her. Start out slow and easy, and if she backs off or just shuts you out....then I would back if off because she's probably not interested in hearing anymore. But if she's really listening, and is thinking about what you're saying....then spill your heart out. You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain. I hope it works out for you and you get her back!!!
2007-04-16 16:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens everyday, people part after they have finished their life experience with each other. Please go meet her with an open mind, knowing your love for her will go on. Do not loose sight of the will of God. Staying friends and going on with your life but directed by Jesus not by you or her. Accept change. This is easy to write but I just can't see not writing it, as I have lived it but I did it all wrong. No one told me this, what I'm telling you now, too bad, I would have saved my self a lot of unnecessary anxiety and depression.
God bless us all...
2007-04-16 17:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-26 14:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋