I'm a really nice guy, smart, kind of attractive physically i guess. Its like I can't win with women. I get rejections ike one gets mail. Its frustrating but I try to keep myslef together. I feel there is a women out there for me. I'm fairly young not even nineteen but that seems insignificant to me. I just want one to love forever thats all. Rejection sure is getting in the way.
2007-04-16 16:20:24 · 20 answers · asked by Ronell B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well. Lots of guys have rejected me and I am not a loser. You're not a loser. You have to have more confidence in yourself.
2007-04-16 16:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser! Rejections should be looked upon as learning experiences, don't take it personally. You are only what you let yourself to believe............. Do some inventory and see what your good qualities are and allow those to shine through when you meet women. Are you being yourself or are you trying too hard to be someone you're not? Women can sense this and it's very unattractive. Have self-confidence, this is appealing to anyone. Yes, there is someone for everyone. If you're not meeting the right one, then they're all wrong for you. Don't always think it's YOU. Can't blame everything on yourself. We all have different preferences and taste.
2007-04-16 23:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're defeated before you even try. Wipe away that piss-poor attitude and start fresh. You throw enough pooh on the wall and some of it's bound to stick. It's all a numbers game. Keep trying and smiling. Nobody wants to be with someone who's down. So don't worry, be happy. It's corny, but it works. Zig Ziglar says the best salesmen take 7 no's before they close a deal. It's the same thing. Keep trying. You will have success if you just believe in yourself and put forth your best effort. And don't start off telling the girl you're looking for "one to love forever, that's all". That's a bit much for a first date. Try a movie & a bite to eat frist and see how that goes. Don't be too clingly. Just be yourself. Be confident, not cocky. Be a gentleman, not a wussy. Keep me posted, I'm interested in the results.
2007-04-16 23:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly 2.
One is a test, the second is a highlight of what you did wrong.. So.. correct your mistakes. Learn from them.
You pursued. Don't chase.. Be mysterious, not a stalker.
She'll come to you. If you focus on yourself, and screw your head back on, then you'll notice that someone is paying more attention to you since you began to get your life back in order.. Things a reasonably smart and attractive woman wants:
1.) Structure.. Organize your life, personal belongings, the way you dress, get a haircut, Etc. etc.
2.) Manage your money, your friends might be partying, but believe me.. later.. that 20.00 you spent on smokes, or soda.. is 20.00 toward a 249.00 Mustang GT or what ever you like..
3.) Listen. A reasonable and intelligent man knows that a woman says exactly what she wants.. Understanding what she says is the key.. If she's complaining about her last boyfriend, back up.. Cause she's not ready for you..
4.) Patience. Good things come to those that wait. If she passes you up, and dates a jock.. most likely she'll look back and regret it, and it wasn't meant to be..
Don't worry about the "what if".. Focus on the "This is".. And remember.. THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
2007-04-16 23:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by "Rabbit" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, well, you sound all right..but there must be something wrong with this picture you haven't noticed about yourself...do you come on too strong? You're only 18 - do you meet women and find yourself infatuated with them, and you think things are perfect, and then you mention that you're ready to settle down? Or do you get too serious too fast? I'm not trying to be harsh, just trying to get a fix on you here. Why not get out a notebook ( I'm serious ) and write about your rejections- and write about how each relationship went from step 1 to 3- think about what she said, and think about what you said. Then maybe you'll start to see things for the way they really are. Right now it seems you are not seeing the forest for the trees. Focus on yourself, and look deep within yourself, and see what's going on in there! You can fix it! Or it may be that you are choosing the wrong women to get interested in, and then you get shot down. Whatever it is, try writing about it. It's what I always do when I want to find out the answer to something personal. Good luck!
2007-04-16 23:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being rejected dosent make you a loser, now if your ignorant or you come on wrong when you approach them that would make you one... but your young and its fine to look for love, I`m also young and know that love has alot of things that come with it, and it usually comes when your not even looking for it, I am sure that you will find the one that loves you and she will show you that your definitly not a loser, so dont think of yourself in that way I`m sure your a nice guy you dont have to try so hard, enjoy life, I mean besides your not the only one looking for love
2007-04-16 23:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I know that who said you are being rejected. You may be searching for the right one to come along I know it can happen. Cause I went through about seven or more internet romances before I found MR. Right. We have been together three years now it can work out.
2007-04-16 23:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by cackle_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys never get rejected. probably u just want to believe that u re nice. next time u get rejected ask why. honestly. at least u will know what's wrong with u. and if this bulls'h'i't "there is§always smbdy for everybody" was true there wouldn't be so many single miserable losers out there. there someone out there for nice people, not just for everybody
2007-04-16 23:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, you are still young, you will find your princess at the right time, everyone is a loser and everyone can be a winner someway. I think the girl you pursuing is high maintenance or too much for herself. I had x's who cheated on me so many times, i don't figure it why? maybe im not good enough for them or not pretty enough. but still, i believe in love and i believe there is someone for me and i found him. goodluck!
2007-04-16 23:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get you down. Don't count your rejections. It sounds like you might be a little unsure of yourself, and it's true that the more self-aware and self-confident you are, the more attractive girls will find you.
Find yourself and she'll find you too, I promise.
2007-04-16 23:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋