okay, we have been really tight for many years. we went to school together our whole lives and started to be really close in highschool. after we got out and went to college it was really hard for me to see her with other guys. We now live and work within minutes of eachother and we are able to see each other daily. we are very physical and flirty but its not enough for me. she dosent show intereasted in me in that way. but i havent asked. i want her to be happy so i tell myself that if she wanted it, then it will happen. she always says that we will wed when we are older but its kinda a joke. Ive never told her how i felt bc obviouly i dont want to lose the friendship but its tearing me apart. i want, need and have to tell her how i feel but when, where and WHAT do i say. damn i love this chick and its killing me.....
2007-04-16 16:05:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let her know. When u two are alone, tell her that there is something you need to let her know. Tell her how you feel but also tell her you don't want to ruin the friendship if she doesn't feel the same way. Just let her know how much you care for her and be prepared in case she may not feel the same way, but since u said you two flirt with each other, she may possibly feel the same way you do but don't know what to do about it either. Let her know you will stand by her decision and let her know you will always be there for her as a friend. The results may be worth it. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-04-16 16:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Phyll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure she is worth the risk of losing a friend before you say anything. Not that relationships that start out as friends isn't great, but if it doesn't work out then it can be heart breaking in a couple ways. I dated my best guy friend after years of being close friends. We didn't date long, but our friendship hasn't been the same since. Now I barely talk to him, and Ive seen him a handful of times since Sept.
If it's meant to be I wish you the best. I can't tell you what to say(or when, how, where). If you don't say anything then it won't happen.You have to make the first move, but it also is a risk. If you guys are really friends then she will stick around no matter what happens between you to. It might be awkward for a while after if she says no or if you guys break up.
good luck
2007-04-16 16:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Laurel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to also consider what it will do to your friendship if it doesn't work out.
Maybe the best thing is have her come over to your place. Have a nice dinner prepared, have flowers on the table, soft music in the background and just tell her that you value her friendship greatly, but you find your feelings for her go deeper for her than just best friends. Simply ask her if there is any chance that she could have the same deeper feelings for you.
Be prepared that she may say no that she would prefer to keep your friendship only.
Personally I think it is great that you value her friendship. I believe if people developed their relationships from true friendship many, most marriages would last better.
2007-04-16 16:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what, buddy? That's exactly the kind of woman that you want to have for a wife - one who is your best friend. Too many men fall for some pretty and sexy babe. However, at the end of the day, you should ask yourself, "Is this girl the one I could live with for the rest of my life?" If you have much in common, so that you are best friends, then go for it! Seems to me that you could benefit from improving your communication skills. Just tell her what you think and feel, in a tactful and diplomatic way. Also, be a good listener. Open communication and mutual trust are both critical to a successful relationship with anyone, whether such a relationship is romantic or otherwise.
2007-04-16 16:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 02:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. If you two are true friends, she will understand, even if she doesn't feel the same way. Though I wouldn't be surprised if she does have feelings for you. As a female, I know how easy it is to fall for your good friend, and no one ever knows. So give it a shot. Maybe you will find your happily ever after. Good Luck.
2007-04-16 16:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date if she's not taken. Tell her that you really care for her, a lot, and have for many years. You'll always be there for her, especially as a friend if that's what she needs. Take a chance--that's how all other great discoveries happened.
2007-04-16 16:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Emiline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her! what have you got to lose! if your at the age where ur living on your own, theres only a few years from where your both going to be looking to start a family and get married, the chances are she feels the same way. just talk to her about it casually to see what kind of reaction you get
good luck!
2007-04-16 16:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by phatswinn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not uncommon 4 people to fall in love with their freinds.in my experience,intamacy will ruin everything.cos you should ask yourself why it took so long 4 u to be attracted to her,when other people you have met in the past the attraction is instant the first time u meet?u will usually find the answer shortly after u start to sleep together.some peoples freindships are worth much more lovers are.see i love a freind of mine too,but its hard to find good close trustworthy freinds,lovers come and go.
2007-04-16 16:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel or when she makes jokes act like its true. I know how you feel a couple years ago i liked my best friend. he liked me back. i dont like him anymore but he likes me...and he acts different..coming from what might be the point of view of the chick i want a guy to be honest i wouldnt really care if he was honest and he admitted he liked me it would be better...i think.. so ya i hope it works out for you and best of luck!
2007-04-16 16:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by ksnaucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋