Prom GIRLS ADVICE PLEASE?

Question

ok so i asked this girl to prom and she said i dont know i might be going with someone else. what does this mean? and what should i do? We have known each other for a long time but are more of aquaintences then good friends i asked one of her really good friends if the girl was going to prom with anybody and her friend said no she wasnt and that i should defintly ask her. I asked her last wenseday and I havnt talked to her since then  Since she is shy i didnt want to do anything big or public idk i just thought she'd perfer i not so i just asked her "if she would like to go to prom with me? and she said idk i might be going with someone else i said thats cool if you want to think about it and let me know and she said yea she would. sooooo im just a guy so i need a girl to interpret this for me. she is really beautiful but shy but she isnt the type thats got a ton of guys after her and prom is only a month away exactly o and we're both juniors. so what does this mean? and what should i do?I don't want her to go with me if she doesnt want to and just thinks she is doing me a favor or somethin like that wouldn’t be right and I don’t want that. I asked her Wednesday and today is Monday but I don’t really see her that much at school we don’t have ne classes together…sooo idk what should I do and its really too late for me to find somebody else to go with so don’t tell me that…..

Answer 1

Heres the deal. Its not that she doesn't want to go with you, she is just really wanting to go with someone else. She has her eye on someone and is hoping they will ask her. That is why she said she "might" be going with someone else. She doesn't want to tell you "no" straight out because then you will find someone else to go with and she would be stuck not going at all. I would suggest that you start thinking of someone else. And if she hasn't given you a straight answer by Wednesday after school, then approach her and ask her what she decided. Just tell her that you really want to go and if she doesn't that it is no big deal that you can just ask someone else. Don't make her feel quilty - just be very matter of fact about it. If she say "yes" then great, but if she is still undecided then just tell her that you aren't going to wait any longer and you are going to ask someone else. By the way, as long as you ask someone else by this Friday it wouldn't be to late - so you still have a few days.

I know that she is giving you the run around and that it really sucks, but atleast she didn't say "yes" and then a week before the prom cancel on you to go with someone else.

Good Luck and have fun at the prom!

Answer 2

If she didn't want to go then she wouldn't have said yes in the first place. Just be yourself, be careful not to try to go any father then she is confortable, be a gentlmen. If she's shy then she is probably also self conscious, tell her how great she looks when you pick her up, introduce her to your friends, if she's uncomforable around them then go off by yourselves and talk. Maybe you should make a point to see her a little more often before the prom.

Answer 3

Give her a deadline. That's what my son did with his GF when she told him she wasn't sure she wanted to go anymore. He also has a backup date from another school who will go as friends. It's so political! Try not to get all caught up in uber-attraction and all that. In my experience, with all the stress, very few people are truly, or still, "in-love" by the time prom comes around!