How can should I break up with someone who is too attached and crys about it? What should I do?

Question

everytime i break up with my boyfriend i want it to be 4 good, i dont wanna go back to him. but 4 some reason he will call my cell and leave me soo many voice messages crying and stuff and idk how to end it. i always go back to him and im sick of it, and when i dont talk to him , he will go cry 2 his younger sister and then she will come and talk me into talking to him and going back out with him. idk what to do anymore.

i do love him, dont get me wrong, and i do want to be with him but hes just changing like hell....hes not who i fell in love with and hes becoming so mean and such an a** and im sick of it and hes cheated once or twice...i cant keep up and idc to anymore

Answer 1

hey well i am kinda goin thro the same thing but we havent broke up or anything and went back together but my boyfriend is changing too and im not gonna tell you to break up with him but im also not telling you to stay with him. Sit him down and ask him exactly how he feels about you at that very moment and just tell him "if you dont change back the way you were when i fell in love with you then im sorry I love you but we cant go any furthur and im not coming back no matter what you do" and keep it in your mind and say it over and over again that it is the end and just go with the flow and move on it will take a while but move on the best you can. Hope everything works out. Good luck.

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation a few years back. If he really wants you, but you guys keep on breaking up obviously there is something missing in the relationship. There is no point on you going back to him. It is obvious that you are the stronger one in the relationship, and it will be up to you to put your foot down. Don't take him back, no matter how much he cries or begs you. As much as it may hurt you to see him "suffer" over your rejection, it will be best for both of you. It is not fair to you or him to stay in the relationship. Tell him, that he'll always be your friend, and if he can't accept that, then that's too bad. You have your love life to think about, and it is obvious you don't want him to be a part of it.

It is a tough thing to do because you know you'll be hurting the other person, but trust me; the sooner you do it, the sooner he'll begin to heal and move on. And you can move on too, by ignoring his messages, calls, etc. He'll get the hint eventually.

Answer 3

If you don't want to be in a relationship, then you must end it, it is as simple as that. Write your boyfriend a letter, dont be harsh, but just give him the facts. Let him know that you are sorry to upset him, but it is just not working for you. Ask him to stop leaving you voice messages, and crying etc because it makes you feel guilty, and that is the wrong reason for you to get back with him. If his younger sister tries to talk you into getting back with him, just be firm and explain calmly that it is not working out, and it is not fair for her to keep getting involved. Don't listen to any of his voice mails! Do not reply to any texts, and do not agree to meet him or get into any conversations with him over the phone or otherwise. Be consistent, firm and keep calm. Eventually he will get the message. The majority of us don't like breaking up with anyone, but if you feel that it is the end of the relationship, then you must move on. Even if it makes you feel awful, do not feel guilty about it. All the while that you keep going back to him all the time, he won't take you seriously; and he will be left with hope that you will get back with him. Start as you mean to go on now. He will get over it, just like the millions of others who are involved in break ups. This is life. You do what you want to do, and don't be convinced otherwise. It is your life and you are entitled to be with who you want to be with. I wish you all the best! :o)

Answer 4

Stop taking him back. You have a big heart and you obviously care when you hurt someone, but what is over, is "the end". Stick with your decision. He knows how to pull your strings and get you to make a U-turn. That's him manipulating you into not leaving him. Don't fall for it. He will only lose respect for you. If you truly want to move on, you must be firm. He will only think you're wishy-washy and easy to control through your emotions. If you keep allowing this to happen, it will continue and are you being true to yourself by doing this again and again??

Answer 5

stand your ground, who wants to be in a relationship with some one who is forced to do.

Try to think of it this way: its actually really very selfish of you to carry on seeing this guy if its not a good sound relationship. Its an insult that says he cant do better- and not even letting him try as you are still with him.

His younger sister is probably afraid as she is watching her big brother who has always been the stroner one, fall apart. She is likely to do everything in her power to fix him and is doing so. She need to learn how to stand on her own two legs and cope by herself and will need to realise one day that life isnt all peaches and cream- she may hate you for it but unless you are so selfish you would rather screw with your ex-s feelings in order to not feel bad after his little sister has spoken with you, you need to listen, tell her you can understand where she is comming from, but also explain that you are doing the right thing and your brother needs to find some one more suited and some one who can truely love him back insted of staying in a half hearted relationship with a girlfriend who feels miserable as shes only in it out of guilt.

And get some of your friend on your side to back you up, you dont need to be manipulated like this!

Answer 6

If you don't want to continue with your relationship then you should just dump him as fast as you can and don't let his sister to interfere with your decision. Tell his sister that it is you that have to live with him and that you don't want to live with a person that is no longer the same person you fell for. Tell her that you have made a decision and for nothing in the world you will change your mind about it.

As for his calls and the voice messages, if I were you I would stop answering his calls and don't hear his messages, delete them instead hun.

Hope this helps and good luck dear.

Answer 7

You've gotten in with a manipulator who knows how to play you. He's probably not doing this on purpose. But you're being a wuss, too.

Your first responsibility is to yourself; do NOT take him back after you've broken up with him UNLESS the reason that you broke up no longer exists (i.e. has been addressed, fixed, rectified). If he's the same guy, you will continue to have the same problems. Tell the sister it's none of her affair. They are manipulative, and you need to free yourself from them. So do it.

Being wishy-washy is very bad for you. Trust me, I know. I used to do it, and will NEVER do it again.

Answer 8

change your number. you need to talk to this guy and tell him "look i am done with you" be rude if you have to cuz he doesnt seem to get the point you are trying to make and you arent helping by going back to him, i know you do it to shut him up but you need to have a talk with him.

Answer 9

Well...... if it is OVER for you... and if it is ONLY bf/gf relationship...

Just ignore what ever calls and message.... don't even peek at the message that he sent.....

After a while... he will disappear .. give him 6th mths... guarantee disappear.....

SEE NO EVIL HEAR NO EVIL...... Life will be peaceful...

take care my dear..

Answer 10

Talk to him and tell him not to bother you anymore. He has to move on and be firm, I mean stand up on your decisions.