I fell for my best friend. It didn't work out. We stayed best friends. He got back with his ex. I was cool with that. Then we started breaking the rules. He told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. He said to give him time and that he only wanted me. We hung out everyday all day with the exception of work and sleep. We were perfect. Just as soon as things were as good as possible things went wrong. My cousin went to his house one night to talk to him. He wasn't there. It turns out that he was with the girl he said he didn't want. I told him I knew the truth. I am crushed. He thinks we should still be best friends. This isn't the first time he has hurt me with her. He keeps saying that I promised him we would always be best friends, but is he really my friend? It's hard!!! We were lovers like the in movies. We took pride in learning about each other. I was his spice girl and he was my chicken nugget face. Now I am his fool and he is my heartbreaker. Should we be friends?
2007-04-16 15:49:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
T,
A major betrayal, such as this, marks the end of friendship. You had been spending so much time with your lover that your common sense and feelings are staggering to catch up with the new reality.
Your brain is willing to do anything, right now, including considering his "friendship," to keep you in the game.
"There is a great deal of pain in life. Perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain."
If you do not accept ,and act on, the new reality, doing so will become harder and harder, as you begin to compete with this other girl. This is not a place you want to be. Don't assist him, further, in creating a triangle.
We've all had our addictions. We know how hard this is. We are all righteously indignant for you and we are all rooting for you! Lean on us and others until you regain your equilibrium.
Take some time to nurture yourself. Focus on what makes you "you." You are smart and strong and will pull through.
Meanwhile, don't give this fraudulent friend one more second of your time. He's taken enough. Time for you to reel in your heart strings and the power that you cast out with them. If you need to love him, T, do it from a distance. I'm sure there is a lot about him that is special but one thing is for certain: To not have been content with all that you are, and all that you gave, is both stupid and unbelievably selfish. He doesn't rate you.
2007-04-19 09:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Dove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No wonder that person said that you two we're a Mcdonald's happy meal I so agree... GROW UP MATE!!!! This is the 21st century here....Who gives a ****!! If you were his whatever and he was you mc-chicken combo who the **** cares!!!!! GOSH!!! If life we're that simple you should just go back to Mcdonalds and ask them for a refund or a BIG-MAC combo instead. For ****!!!!! sake....Grow up!!!!!!!!! Seriously!! Do you wan to keep hurting yourself??? Then stick with the bloody guy otherwise you gotta brain use it!!!!!!
You can be friends with him but do you think that would be wise???
Just forgive and forget
The best thing to do is to just cut all loose ends now and just move on mate...and if you two were meant to be friends again it'll happen but you need to figure out what the hell it is that you want cause obviously you still dont know and you wont be able find that out until you move on completely so move on there are other guys out there who are way better for you and who will treat you way better. Dont settle for second best!
And grow up for a change!
2007-04-17 00:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for the relationship to change. Stop allowing yourself to be hurt by him; instead, you need to put up a wall for just him. He may have been an experience you needed, so that you can test your endurance. Use the experience to your advantage and take away from the relationship a lesson: those you love are the keenest at hurting you.
When you open yourself up to the relationship, you are open to the pain, too. It is a risk many are willing to take, including myself.
Remember what you want in life. Remember what your dreams were when you were young(er).
2007-04-16 23:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by I can only imagine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to see the clear picture here, seeing that you still have feelings for this... loser. That's all he is. A loser. Get over him, fast. Trust me, I know it's hard, I've been there. You'll be better off. There is someone out there for you that will treat you the way you need to be treated. Good luck, and seriously, whatever you have to do... make a clean break. He's really not your friend.
2007-04-16 22:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are the happy meals at Mcdonalds. It sounds like you are about 10 years old. You have know ideal what a real relationship is. You think you know everything in the world. You are playing each other for fools. Why don't yiou start growing and act like the little girl that you are.
2007-04-16 22:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I'm sorry to say this but he sounds like a total piece of s***. Hes just deceiving you. But its up to you for being friends with him again. Just do what your heart tells you, dont let it break again. Remember this, life goes on. Dont look back at the past look at your future and focus on your present ;) good luck.-
2007-04-16 22:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bogdan 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hell no. If he broke your heart and all, you would be hurting yourself by hanging out with him because obviously he doesn't give a crap about your feelings or anything. But you should remain friends just not as close as you used to be.
2007-04-16 22:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No!
He's trying to have it both ways. He's not being honest with either one of you.
Forget it.
2007-04-16 22:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb like yesterdays trash you deserve far better than that. what a jerk!
2007-04-16 22:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is not ur friend, he's using u, get him out of ur life
2007-04-16 22:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by Catdogpigfish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋