What do you tell your child when he or she asks if you love him best (more than bros or sisters?)?

Answer 1

I say you are my best *9 year old. I say whatever number fits that child or some other unique characteristic. Or I say to my only daughter I love this little girl the very most out of all the little girls in the world. You get the idea..........

Answer 2

You always say you love all them just the same God made each of them very special in different ways you could tell them how you love them what is special about them my kids are 4 and 1 and have had no problem with them asking that not yet any way but I try to show them the same amount of love and I always tell them I love them all the time also kids are very different and like different things find out what they like to do the best and take turns doing that with them and my daughter likes to color so I color with her and my son loves to play ball to I do that with him they both love to cuddle and watch movies with me so we do that together I think if you always show them love they won't ask if you love them more or not I don't know I'm not the best mother in the world but I try just read your Bible Gods word has all the answers to anything you face in life And only by Gods grace will children turn out right but remember they learn form there parents so what you practise is what they will practise good luck

Answer 3

Well certainly not this " I love you all equally" rubbish. Kids are not stupid and do not fall for it. It will alienate them.

I ask why the kid wants to know and it's always an uncertainty about something going on at school (so far) - they need reassurance. I do my best to throw the problem around with the child until we have hit it from enough sides that it isn't scary any more.

Answer 4

I tell my daughter Phoebe that she's my favorite Phoebe, and my daughter Stella that she's my favorite Stella. I tell them that I love them both to bits. And I complement each one, separately, about their individual strengths: "You're the best three-year-old puzzle-doer I know!"

But my mother did the "you're my favorite but don't you tell" trick. And it worked until we were all out of the house and didn't fuss about stuff like that anymore!

So if my current tricks stop working at some point in the future, that's what I'm going with. :)

I don't say that I love my girls the same. I love them both with all my heart, and I tell them that, but I don't love them the same. I love them very differently. Equally, but differently. We DO talk about how love isn't like a cup of sugar or something; it doesn't run out, and you can always make more. Kids are smart. They get that.

Answer 5

My oldest has asked me that question before - and I just tell him that he is awesome, how smart he is, and that out of all the Logan's in the world - I love him the best. When he has asked specifically if I love him more than his brothers - I tell him of course not - I love them all the same - all the way to the moon and back! :)

I don't play games when it comes to my kids knowing if and how much I love them!

Answer 6

I tell my girls that they are my favorites in their own way. For example, I tell my oldest that she is my favorite 7 year old in the entire world, or my favorite Kaylin ever. And I tell my youngest (for a few more weeks) that she is my favorite 3 year old in the entire world, or my favorite Kyndell. That way, they are satisfied that they are the favorite and you also don't have to hide what you are saying in front of the other kids because they don't have the same ages (unless you have twins), and they sure don't have the same names (unless you didn't have much of an imagination when naming them). This seems to make my kids happy, not to mention it's the truth

Answer 7

Great book on this exact subject: I Love You the Purplest by Barbara Joosse. Mom is anwering this question to her two sons. It's VERY sweet. I got the book when my girls starting trying to play the favorites game. They got the point and started trying to figure out what color they were! Even at almost 12 and 10, I still love to sit and tell them what I love about them. They'll even do it with us... tell us that we are both their favorites and why! :)

Answer 8

Of course you love them all the same, but you love them differently too. Just like you can love chocolate bars and grilled cheese sandwiches. They taste completely different, so you can't really compare them, but they are both very yummy!

I only have one child, but I have pets too. Of course I love her more than any animal but she still used to get jealous. I told her that the more love I give out, the more I get back. And the more love we give, the more love our hearts can handle and are able to love. There's no reason to get jealous because my heart can handle a whole bunch of love! And I told her she could do the same.

If you have a faith, you can relate it to that. I told my daughter that Jesus loves everyone on earth and he loves us equally. I try to be like Him, so if he loves equally, so can I.

Hope that helps!

Answer 9

I would tell him I love all my children the same, but, I love a certain trait best about him ( his sweetness, humor, good company, etc) and have a favorite quality about each child that can be just theirs

Answer 10

I tell my kids I love them each the for different reasons, which makes me love them more and more everyday. I don't tell them I love one more than the other and I don't tell them I love them the same. The love and bond I have with each of my children is completely different because they are each completely different. They know the love I have for each one of them is the same amount of love and my heart overflows with love for each of them. They know they each hold a different spot in my heart. GOOD LUCK!