My son's first birthday is coming up and I got him a cabbage patch doll because it looks just like him, and he loves to carry around a curious george doll that he has, so I think he'll like it. My husband, however, strongly objects to the idea of our little boy having a doll. Is it ok, or is it too girly?
2007-04-16 15:47:31 · 25 answers · asked by hellojamie2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, it's perfectly fine. My boys each have a CPK that looks like them. When my oldest was younger he would pretend to nurse his stuffed animals and dolls - lol - now he is 4 and he understands that only mommies can nurse their babies - that daddies don't - but at 18 and 20 months - ya know - who cares. I personally thought it was adorable. Basically they stripped the clothes off of them as soon as they got them and my youngest was fascinated for a while because his had a pacifier and so he would take it in and out of the dolls mouth a million times - but even that got old after a while. Dolls are fine - little boys will be daddies someday - all these gender restrictions are just a little much if you ask me - my boys have a play kitchen and they play with that a lot!! I think it's great role playing for them. Stifling a child's creativity is the worse thing you can do - give them opportunities and access to try out lots of different things - and it will be better for them in the long run. :)
2007-04-16 16:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son got a doll for his first birthday too. Its a perfectly wonderful gift! They imitate what they see, and do. It will not make him a sissy and its not girly at all! Tell your hubby to get over it. I am sure he will get lots of "boy" stuff too. 1 years old is the perfect time for a doll. He will love it! Your great mom for thinking of and finding a doll that looks like him. My mom gave my son his little doll for his 1st birthday, it had the same coloring as him. He kept that doll for a long time too. And he is now 10 and ALL boy! Good luck! Have fun on his birthday he is only 1 once! :-)
2007-04-16 16:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by K M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think giving him the doll would be fine. Children learn through playing. I'm sure he would love to pretned play with him. My son has a diego doll that he role plays with all the time (he's two so a little more ahead). The point is a doll for a boy is fine- it's not like you're getting him hair ribbons and a pink dress!
2007-04-16 15:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by kelly v 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it fine. He will develop his own personality. Some boys like dolls. I wouldn't buy him a pink barbie or anything. My brother had a cabbage patch doll and he is now married and expecting a baby next month. He will be just fine!
2007-04-16 16:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by *Kimmie* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with your son having a Cabbage Patch doll.He will learn that it is ok to play being a dad. Boys play with dolls but they are called action figures. My grandson played with Rescue Heroes.My nephews played with Star Wars characters. Don't stereotype your child with only "male toys" .I played with both dolls and dump trucksgrowing up.I consider myself well adjusted.Don't worry your son will be fine, boys are permittted to show a gentler side they are not just about bugs and dirt.
2007-04-16 16:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have girls but I do have grandsons. I dont see any problem with boys carrying dolls around. Is there some kind of fear your husband has about your son having a doll. I dont believe it will make your son feminine because he carries a doll around anymore than it would make a little girl masculine to play with trucks.
2007-04-16 16:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by mssazzy2u 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is fine. Some boys have dolls, especially at that age. Why is it ok if it is a monkey, but not a doll that looks like him? Your husband needs to get over it.
2007-04-16 16:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Starshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would. Boys should have dolls too. It helps them think of themselves as future nurturers and parents. Girls babysit and play with dolls and therefore know what to do when they get pregnant. Boys don't. Boys shouldn't be scared of fatherhood, they should be as much involved in it as girls. My twin sister just bought her baby boy a boy doll for Christmas. If I have a boy, I'll do it too. Especially since your son is actually asking for one, it would send the wrong message if you denied him the doll. I'm sure he will grow up to be a perfectly masculine person. Kids are not as confused by gender ambiguity as adults think they are. They get plenty of external messages about how to "be" their gender, even if they don't get those messages at home, which most do. Don't worry!
2016-05-17 05:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by lavera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At one, he is associating his toy with Life. If the toy has eyes and ears and hair, it's an association to him. Just like a teddy bear has eyes and ears. I say yes, give it to him. I am sure you will find as with most kids, they tire of that "toy of the moment" very quickly. You can always save it for him for when he is an adult. Pack it away, even though he is a boy, that does not mean that having a cabbage patch is "girly", allow him to show "love" and affection towards his comfort toy.
2007-04-16 23:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he can't pull off little buttons and swallow them, then that's fine! i played with legos and dolls when i was younger, and i'm sure your husband played with his GIJoe DOLLS as a kid. your son is not going to turn gay over a cabbage patch kid doll. your husband needs to stop that macho crap before his son feels bad about himself. there is no diffference between the doll and the curious george doll he's used to carrying. congrats on being open minded.
2007-04-16 16:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋