Just 3 days ago my bf and broke up after almost reaching one year of our relationship..... I love him so much and he loves me to.. the reason he broke up with me is because he thinks i can do better and he wants us to be happy.. plus he thinks its for the best :'( i don't id rather be dead! he still wants to be friends but i want him more then that...! I havent left him alone since, i have been constantly calling and texting him telling him i need him, the msgs i wrote and he wrote make me cry everytime i read them....!!! I want him back and im fighting but he keeps saying no.. Do i have any chance with him... what do i have to do to get him back???? Please help everyone and some males advice would be good...i wish i was dead i honestly do but im gutless... i need him so much!
2007-04-16 15:24:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try and distract yourself from him; go out with friends or something, and try to avoid contact with him for awhile. maybe one day it would b better for you two to get back together.
2007-04-16 15:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by bubble wrapping 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE DOIN U A FAVOR BY NOT DRAGGIN IT ON ANY MORE. HE REALIZE UR N2 DEEP AND REALLY ISN'T READY 4 IT AND U KEEP INSISTIN AND PROBABLY HINTED 2WARDS MARRIAGE. NOT GONNA HAPPEN. HE'S WITH SOME ONE ELSE NOW, SO STOP MAKIN A FOOL OF URSELF. WHILE HE'S SHOWING THE BOYS THOSE MSGS. U KEEP SENDIN AND HOW MANY CALLS U MAKE. HE'S NOT THE LAST MAN ON EARTH. U SOUND TURNED OUT. WAS HE THE FIRST 2 GIVE U ORAL SEX OR SOMETHIN? WHAT U NEED IS TRUE LOVE FROM WHOMEVER IS WILLIN 2 GIVE IT 2U. IT'S OBVIOUSLY NOT HIM ANYMORE- SO WOMAN UP, MOVE ON. HAVE SOME DIGNITY AND PRIDE ABOUT WHO U ARE. STOP BEING A CHUMP ABOUT. THERE'S PROBABLY 3 OR 4 GUYS WAITIN AND BEEN WANTIN U; BUT U WERE STUCK ON STUPID. THE SIGNS WERE ALL THERE, U CHOSE NOT 2C. REMEMBERRRRRRRRRR. THEN ASK URSELF Y IT TOOK SO LONG 2 ACCEPT WHAT HE CONSTANTLY SHOWED U.
2007-04-16 15:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by kelsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, dear, but there is absolutely no reason he would break up with you because he wants you to 'be happy'. He knows that a break up will not make you happy. He probably wanted to break up with you, but afterwards got confused and came up with something.
I've broken up with a guy and I told him the same thing but I realized later it was just an excuse because I didn't like him anymore.
I know this is not what you want to hear right now but at the same time, maybe you need to hear it. Wait a couple weeks and see if you feel the same way about him; then attempt to piece together your relationship. You may find out you are better off without him.
2007-04-16 15:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by S. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girl, don't be so heart broken! It's not the end of the world!
Is he having a mental problem? or he just making excuse to break up with you the coward way? Either way it sounds very dificult! My ex boyfriend has problem with self-esteem and always say that I could do better, but at the same time he never let me go either... Sounds like yours making excuses to break up with you... Find out the truth, then move on if need too. But you must first calm down else you won't be doing any good. Calling him all the time is not the way to get him back either....
2007-04-16 15:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have been through it before. You have to look at the good things about the break up. At least you don't have kids with the fool, that's one good thing. If he really loves you, he will go back to you. But I know exactly how you feel when you love somebody so much and you can't get him back, no matter what you do. You don't need anybody so much, you can live without him, it will get better, it just takes time. Try doing things for yourself to make you feel better about yourself, and stop worrying about getting him back, if he absolutely does not want you back, it's only going to keep on hurting you. You are better than that to depend on somebody else for your happiness.
2007-04-16 15:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by gwendleg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry he has second thoughts about you too. Im a guy, i know it from experience. You just be friends with him and just show him in those little ways that you still need him. You still have a pretty big chance depending on how long this has been ago. If he has no feelings towards you at all, then i say hes a jackass for dumping you for "the best". Anyways sry to hear that :\ .
2007-04-16 15:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bogdan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you need to go to a public place and talk to him. Ask him why is he not considering your feelings. Also let things cool down for a couple of days. Also a support network of family and friends sure does help. Nobody breaks off a relationship without the other person noticing a change in the personality of the other who severed the relationship.
2007-04-16 15:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by sergio d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happend to me. It sucks I know :( you could try waiting it out and stay friends with him and show him how he is the only guy you want to be with. Now if it turns out that he finds another girl then the only thing you can do is move on. It's hard I know but there still is a 50/50% chance you could get back with him. Relationships are weird that way.
2007-04-16 15:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Blueee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him , let him go. If it is meant to be, he will come back. Guys are a dime a dozen. Jealousy is a sign
insecurity and insecurity is a sign of imaturity. Go on and have some fun and enjoy life. Be happy that you are alive and healthy , have food in your mouth and a roof over your head.
The boyfriend- girlfriend thing is way-way overrated along with a bunch of other things in life.
2007-04-16 15:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't break up with you because "he thinks you can do better," sweetie. He broke up with you because there's nothing left in the relationship for him. Stop clinging to him; stop calling, stop texting. The relationship is over. If it starts again... well, good luck, but bothering him every five seconds won't make that happen.
You don't need him. Not at all. Life goes on. You'll live, believe me.
2007-04-16 15:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by dee_pwns_you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can probably do better, but if u don't think so guilt trip him...........
"say way are u saying i can do better? is it that u just don't love me? u can tell me if u don't love me! just tell me its the only way i can let u go!!"
he seems like a nice guy since u all are still friends
sometimes nice guys may not know how to get out of a relationship so maybe u should tell him as well
"it hurts but if u want us to be just friends okay, just know as long as i'm single if u chance ur mind about us...yadda yadda u'll still love him"
bcus if he wants to break up n just doesnt know how to with out hurting u he may still say he loves u when he doesnt and u dont want to have that be the case...but if he does love u and u know u love him tell him to stop his foolishness
2007-04-16 15:34:53 · answer #11 · answered by i hate mosquitoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋