Have you ever thought you would be better by yourself?

Question

Not excluding family, but to not be in or ever be in a relationship....

Some days I think I would be better off, I also think some times I think I might be happier to be free....not to have to answer to anyone but myself. But to do whatever I wanted with out giving explaination....

Anyone else feel that way & why?

Sex doesn't mean too much to me. The only thing about it is, Children.

I don't have any children....it was just the thought of maybe one day I might and I would want to have them naturally....

Answer 1

Yes I feel that way sometimes. I never feel more free and more alive as than when I am free from the burden of a relationship. I have my own time, I can do what I want, no telephone calls interrupting me or being nagged...it's great. Then again, I miss the closeness. So it's a Catch-22.

Answer 2

I think its a good experience to have loved and when the flame is gone, move on. I had been in a 10 year relationship, 3 kids, but somehow, that question revolved in my head, that I am better off. I tried to stay for the kids, but when I left, my 2 oldest came with me and I really enjoy having them in my life, without a partner. I stayed single for 2 1/2 years, then met an older woman, 6 years older, but it wasn't the same. Having no one to answer to for that time period was challenging and did affect this relationship. I am currently single now and I do feel better, but I know that lonliness will always be my partner and having at least tried to love again, puts me in a different perspective of what it is that I truely want in a relationship. I believe that I will meet my partner and right now, I am not worrying about it. A 2 1/2 year break really does settle into the system. It will take a strong, dedicated woman to enjoy life with me and my kids. I am a Social Worker by profession and did see the manipulation, time away from my kids bothered me. So right now, I know what I want and just haven't met this woman, however, I enjoy time with friends and do go out occasionally and just don't see the bar or lounge as a place where I will meet her. Its good for time with friends, but dating? Booze is nice for a one night stand, but that was when I was in my 20's. I'm not that old, early 30's and just enjoying life.

Answer 3

I think most people feel that way. But if there are children involved, wow, you really have to consider the fact that they cannot change that you all are their parents. They can't just abandone ship any time, but we as parents can. Learn to take some time to yourself and do things you enjoy without any of the family. Then learn how to do things with them that you enjoy. Some times my husband takes the children for the day. He is worn out when he returns, but it gives me the house to myself and some time to myself. And there are times when I do that for him. Try to work things out with the other person, if you can't then you do need to be alone so that you can be a better person for your children. But everyone needs a break and needs time to themselves. And in a loving relationship, you should not have to always give an explanation. Hang in there and be strong.I hope you make a decision that everyone can live with.

Answer 4

Oh my goodness, I feel this way, like all the time. Like part of me wants to be in a relationship, but more of me doesn't. Sometimes I tell my boyfriend this and he gets really pissed at me and says that if I break up with him because I just want to be independant and alone, then I'm selfish. I just like the idea of me being an independent woman, but he thinks that there's something wrong with that. But I say, hey, if that's how you feel, don't let anyone tell you different. You do what you want with your life. But I'm right there with you. This world needs more independent females, so right on, girl!

Answer 5

Yes because I'm tired sometimes of my parents always in my way...But as we grow older we get more freedom. So yeah, sometimes I feel that way. I'd probably feel a little happier, stopped being ordered around all the time, I wanna do stuff on my own kinda thing. Yeah I've been there multiple times. =)

Answer 6

I debate it more than I'd like to admit. Relationships.... It is such a messed up ball of fur; if you try to nourish it and make it all nice you choke on hairballs. Ignore it; end up looking awful and nobody wants to pet you. Hah! Matters what kind of misery you'd rather deal with. Frustration of not getting what you need from this person that "loves" you, or the pain of not having anyone to love you. I think we need to lower our expectations of love. They should make it a mandatory class in school. That way we can prepare for what is to be expected, to teach us our roles as committed couples, to help us realize who we are and what we want from our lives here on earth, and to give us other options than to look to others to provide our happiness. It should be mandatory to apply for a license before we can have kids, too!

Answer 7

Well we all have thoughts about the grass being greener on the other side, or in this case being by yourself occasionally. But if you have thoughts like this all the time, then its not good. Just think about how it would suck without someone to love and support you.

Answer 8

I don't nessicary agree or disagree. I see where your coming from.. you can save alot of heartbreak and stress. But you also miss. I guess you give up a little and gain a little.
Or if the relationships right you get a lot. :-)

Answer 9

i feel that way sometimes too. you have less to worry about, you have more time, and your happier. you have alot of "you time". i like being single

Answer 10

yes that's why I'm single.a relationship is to stressful.i have no time to babysit or take care of a man im not there ******* mother