look i need advise.there i a rumor going around that says my boyfriend is cheating on me and i'm no tsue if it's true or not should i break up with him or not?
2007-04-16 15:00:24 · 17 answers · asked by sunsetsweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How to Catch a Cheating Boyfriend
If your boyfriend is cheating, it can be very hard to take if you find out from somebody else or even worse, yourself! Use the following steps to secretly investigate a suspected affair.
Steps
1. Realize that if it's gotten to the point that you seriously suspect he's cheating, your relationship is already on thin ice.
2. Remember that honesty is the best policy. Talk about it. Don't try and catch him secretly. Just ask him up front. If he won't tell you the truth, then even catching him - ed won't save your relationship. Ask him to explain his whereabouts or whatever else is troubling you. Don't take a simple yes or no answer.
3. Remind him that you've entrusted him with your heart, and how much he means to you. Tell him how proud you are of him and your relationship - how strong and honest it is. If he gets uneasy or quiet, he might be hiding something, and the guilt will eventually push him to the edge.
4. Tell him that you would never keep secrets from him, and mean it. Share with him a secret that you've kept from him; it might encourage him to admit any secrets he may be keeping, and will deepen your relationship.
5. Hiring a private investigator can be the easiest way to gain proper evidence, but can be very costly. LOl
6. You can use spy software or monitoring programs to catch him in the act to get real evidence.
7. A friend of mine called her boyfriend knowing he was home. When he didn't pick up his phone, she borrowed his crush's cell to call him, and he picked up the phone. She dumped him. Lesson learned, if you're really dumb enough to be cheating on someone, at least be smart enough to always pick up the phone.
Warnings
* Don't make accusations until you gather the proper evidence.
* Private Eyes are expensive and probably not worth the money for non-marital relationship.
* There is a risk if you follow him or invade his privacy. This may ruin the relationship even if he is not cheating.
If you want more information or ever need anything else email @: godsbaby42@yahoo.com
*Much Love* **God Bless**
2007-04-16 15:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tell Mariee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rumors tend to come from some place so don't break up with him just yet. First ask a few people about the rumor before you plan to confirm with him. Mainly what they know and how they found out, and who was that girl. Than you can ask him in a calm voice if its true or not. If he says its true than he has a hell of lot explaining to do, if he says it is false he must explain himself anyway. Just be true to yourself and take a deep breath before you investigate because you cannot leave such things ignored, rumors originate from somewhere even though they don't tend to necessarily be the truth. Whatever you do or say realize that its upto you completely how you want to handle the situation and if you should break up with him or not. Talking to him and confronting him is much better than just believing those rumors. Be true to yourself because, this only concerns you and him. I will not wish you good luck because there is no luck involved in such a situation however, I will state that as a girl who has dealt with situations similar to yours its best not to trust either party because in the end its your opinion and its your life.
2007-04-16 22:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by anonydipity_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him about the rumor and ask him for the truth....don't break up with him just because of the rumor though! You need to give him a chance.
2007-04-16 22:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by habemf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you jump to conclusions, you must consider the source of the rumors, is it from a reliable source or is someone just startin' sh*t? You have to ask yourseIf, "what would this person have to gain from making this up?" If your sources are reliable, or if the rumors are coming from multiple people, then you should confront him about it and if he denies it then break up with him. After all, you must not trust him that much if you're already considering breaking up with him.
2007-04-16 22:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by EL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to listen to the other end of the horse. The rumors you hear are coming from the fertilizer end. You need to get it from the horse's mouth.
If you trust him ask him and go from there. If you don't trust him, call it quits and find someone you do trust.
2007-04-16 22:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask him first. Rumors are only true about half the time.
2007-04-16 22:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Spearfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he deny it? Don't break up with him on just a rumor.
2007-04-16 22:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out from him if the rumour is true. There is no point jumping to conclusions until you know everything.
2007-04-16 22:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont always beleave rummers! look through his phone get on to his e mail go through his texts and if you find something call it or ask him and be like look what the hell is this. Dont be a fraid to ask him about what is going on!
2007-04-16 22:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not. Someone might be jealous and wants you to break up with him.But you should ask him about it.
2007-04-16 22:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by omg. why they jeans so tiqht? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋