Question for mothers?

Question

How involved is your significant other in taking care of your children & contributing to household chores? Ex: bringing kids to & from school, bathing & clothing them, feeding, knowledge of their homework & schedule etc. cooking, laundry, etc

Answer 1

he works 2 jobs and i work at our store and care for the house and kids

Answer 2

My husband is an over the road truck driver and is out for 3 weeks then home 5 days most of the time. The arrangement sucks because the majority of the child care falls on me. But when he is home he helps some with our daughter but still all the housework falls on me. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and some things such as cleaning the bathtub are getting difficult for me to do. Thank goodness my parents live 2 miles away and are very willing to help me do whatever they can! I think once my husband finds a job driving locally he will be much more involved in the child care and house work!

Answer 3

My husband helps out quite a bit with chores. He does the dusting, starts the laundry & dishwasher, and helps keep things tidy. He helps with the kids pretty well. He gets our 3 year old breakfast every morning and tucks him into bed at night. I take care of the baby fairly exclusively. My husband doesn't do any of the cooking; he's so-so knowledgable on schedules.

Answer 4

My kids are still too young for school, but my hubby helps more then most men. He will change their diapers, make them bottles, do dishes, wash, take out garbage, clean up toys, make dinner if I need him too, watch them if I need a break.

This last week, he took 3 days off so I could go visit my family without the kids!! He watched them for a day and a half until I got back, then my sister and I took the next day to go to the scrapbook expo here, then we went back to our families and he slept in the same bed as our youngest so she was sleep better there, and then he watched them for most of Saturday morning so I could go to my sisters baby shower.

What a great guy!! He's always doing things for me and doesn't hardly ever complain about things. It's great!!! He said before our first was born that he would never change a diaper. Well, our daughter was born early, and in the NICU for a month. I showed up on the first day after I got of the hospital, and he was there before I was. He was changing her diaper!! Since then, he has always helped. I think he really enjoys being involved with them, most of the time anyway.

To top it all off, he works at least 40 hours a week, usually more, and still will get up with the kids in the night if they wake up, he even lets me sleep late Saturday mornings while he gets up with the girls!! If all men could be like him, there would be so many less stressed moms out there!!!

Answer 5

I have a 1.5 year old and a 3.5 year old, both girls.

Their father goes to work at 5am, so I get them up in the morning, feed them, dress them, and pack them up for school/daycare. (That means I'm also responsible for making sure everyone has a change of clothes, stuff for show and share, etc.) Daddy picks them up at the end of the day, and starts dinner.

I play with them and talk about their day while he finishes cooking, and then we all eat together.

I clean up.

We take turns giving baths. And we each read one kid stories and give cuddles before bed. Or we one of us reads to both of them while the other has a night off.

We both do laundry, and we both clean.

He does the grocery shopping and meal planning.

I make all the doctor's appointments, get prescriptions, and track milestones. But if I can't GO to a doctor's appointment, he's totally capable of and willing to do it on his own.

I'd say he's as involved as I am. It's a total partnership.

Answer 6

My husband works 3 jobs so he isn't all too involved. That's not to say that he doesn't care. He loves our daughter very much and he cares a lot. He talks to her, asks her questions about school and friends and her day. When he does have time off, he does try to do fun things with her. He has never bathed her, never takes her to or from school, never gets her dressed. He helps with homework when he can and he does do some housework when we get behind. Even if yours doesn't do any of that stuff, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about your child. Just do your best to keep in involved and interested by communicating with him. Do your best to focus on his positive/good points. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I am not married myself, but several of my friends are. Their husbands vary indefinitely--from sweet and generous to downright lazy. However, the majority of my married friends make it clear that their husbands certainly are going to take on helping take care of their kids. They split the responsibilites of children right down the middle when possible, and the husbands are very involved in the children's life.

Some of my married girlfriends are working very intense jobs that keep them late into the night at their offices or business firms. Because of this, their husbands are the main caretaker of the children, feeding them, driving them to school and sports, and helping out with homework. Their husbands also do the majority of the housework, as they do not work steady occupations themselves.

Hope this helps!

Answer 8

We have a 2 1/2 year old boy. My husband helps out whenever he see's me starting to get stressed out, only because right now I'm in school full time and looking for a part-time job. Other than that he wouldn't help me out. He takes our son out on the weekends and gives me a break for a couple of hours...he also helps feeding, bathing, clothing, and folds some clothes (if I ask him nicely) :-)

Answer 9

Well as far as everything you mentioned aboved I am the one who provides all of that care on rare occasions my husband will help if asked, but I am a stay at home mom and he is a business owner who is very busy with work mon-fri... We decided when we got married that this would be the way things would work for us and so far so good we have 4 children and have been married for 8 years.... My husband is very involved with my children on the weekends and he is ALWAYS there if I need him this is just the arrangement that works for us and we are both very happy with it!!!!

Answer 10

When he is not working then he is involved. He helps out alot and has just discovered that unloading the dishwasher and foldin laundry turns me on!!