Should I 'fess up?

Question

Here's a good one: My ex and I broke up 2.5 months ago. We work together, by the way. Anyway, I experienced a moment of weakness last week and decided I was going to try to win her back. I thought better of it shortly thereafter, but not until I'd ordered her a dozen roses to be delivered at work. I signed it "From a secret admirer" and FTD wouldn't tell her who ordered it when she called them. SO.... Should I confess to sending the roses and apologize, or should I just let it die on its own? She seemed happy enough to get them, so I don't think she'd get me in trouble or anything.

Answer 1

isn't there some guy of rules against dating your co-worker. you're on thin ice. if she doesn't like you, she can charge you with sexual harassment. before you tell her, try giving her something else and see how she responds.

Answer 2

You should tell her. I mean what do you have to lose? Life is too short for letting stuff "die". Yes you should apologize but also take her feelings into consideration. She may say yes she may say no she may not say anything at all. You can't really win anyone back with just an apology and a dozen roses.

Answer 3

coming from a woman if you having seconds thoughts dude let sleeping dogs lie something in your heart made you send them buuuuuuut something made it not work the first time to the fact that you work with her may have not been a moment of weakness so much as a security blanket we as humans covet what we know therefore you seen her and were around her so you felt a spark after sending the flowers your internal uh oh went off once you realized you may have started something you didnt want to finish which is a big red flag about how you really feel i say leave it and let her revel in thinking she has a secret admirer

Answer 4

Ok...you have a decision to make! Do you want her to know that you still like her? Are you prepared for her to fall back into you once she finds out you sent them? Do you want to work it out? If you answered no to all all of those questions then you shouldn't tell her. Telling her will lead her on and you said you changed your mind after the roses were sent. If you are trying to spark things back up then go for it. If not pretend as though nothing ever happened!

Answer 5

Keep it your little secret. Dont ruin her euphoria.
Its so mysterious. Let her have her moment.
Ur a pretty good guy by the way. Roses were a nice gesture none the less.
Good luck to u.

Answer 6

hmmm tough one. anyone would be happy getting the flowers. she might be happy because she may think she has someone other than you liking her - maybe that's the smile.

for now, i would send her something else, maybe a teddy bear or something and sign it the same. try to over hear the conversation and see if she says anyone other than your name, do this now actually. and if you do confess do it with the bear first.

Answer 7

if you still want her back, then tell her.

if you are comfortable with just being friends with her and telling her the truth AND still being around her at work (wow thats a toughie) then tell her.

if you feel like you'ld be embarrassed and it hurts dont tell her.

you seem like a sweet person and i hope it all works out for you. best of luck.

Answer 8

Don't tell her. Since you did this in a work situation it might be seen as harassment. Protect yourself now and do not do it again

Answer 9

well if i was you i would tell her to see if she would think its sweet to get her a dozen roses. If a guy did that for me i would def. think that was sweet good luck to you and your girl

Answer 10

aww roses?
how cute. if u still like her tell her. if not then dont get her hopes up just to tell her u really dont like her.