So I met this guy Frank. He is an amazing person & we always have a good time together when we hang out & I like him.
But the thing is we both have completely diff. Schedules. While im in school hes jst hanging out at his house and When im out of school I have prac. & hw 2 do and he goes to wrk and dsnt get off till 11 & im usually asleep by then.
So we dont talk much during the week unless he gets off early and asks to hang out (& I usually have to tell him I cant) but he does call on the weekends and thats when we generally hang out(ps-when he calls he says hi beautiful and sweetie and whatnot)
But about 3 weeks ago we had sex. But things have stayed the same b.t us (I think) except he dosnt say the nice things he used to. He has told me though that he likes me but we cant date b.c we wrk together and he cant jepordize his job b.c he needs the money(he walked out at an old job after getting in fight w. ex there)
So I mean I guess my ? is what do you think is going on b.t us? Do I just need to give it time or should I accept the fact that there just may be nothing? I don’t want to give up on it but I don’t want to be used or walked all over?
Should I bring it up w. him ((and if I do, what do I say?))
2007-04-16 13:42:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Say goodbye, you're a confused mess
2007-04-16 13:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me that since the moment you had sex, you are **** buddies lol. When he said "Hi beautiful" or whatever he said, he probably liked you or was just trying to get in your pants. I don't think you need to give it time, because I doubt it might get to be "something". See, you had sex before even dating, so what would be the point of dating AFTER having sex?
You should just ask him straight up what's up between you two. 'Cause if you don't, things will stay the same, because if HE IS interested, and you don't ask him, he'll think YOU are not interested. And if he's not, then he will just keep on having sex with you. Cuz damn, what guy doesn't want some for free.
2007-04-16 13:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be that you are stuck between a rock and a hard place.THe question here is how come all of a sudden the fact that you work together is an issue?He oviously knew from the beginning that dating you could cost you his job.SO I would think that something is up.HE may be using the "work place"as an excuse for something else.SO now the only thing that you can do is to confront him on it.MY advice is to be prepared to walk away empty handed.Rejection is the hardest emotion we feel.Keep in mind that all experiences happen for a reason.A lesson was learned.Future advice....never date someone who you work with.Good luck
2007-04-24 12:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know that things arent the same between you as they were before.and you would like to know why? You deserve that. You also deserve to be in relationship that is off value not one of convenience for him. If the feelings were there besides the sex he would make it a point to point out how beautiful you are or make sure he did whatever he could to let you knnow that he is so overwhelemed at work right now but didnt want you to feel that you werent important to him.
At least thats me. And no not all guys are in it for one thing only. Its a great part of the relationship but not all guys are jerks as others have said. good luck
2007-04-24 09:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him where he is coming from. What changes are either of you willing to make to see each other in the future and more often in the future? Working at the same place and dating is not good idea. Can one of you change your class schedules at the end of this semester? Was he just looking for a one night stand? Were you just looking for a one night stand? Do the two of you want to try to make something of this relationship or is it just a fun for now type thing? Make up your minds.
2007-04-24 13:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he everything you are looking for in a bf? Was the sex good? Is he making good money at this job? Or is it a job that will place him in a better position/better pay? It's obvious this isn't "just nothing". He pursued you all this time...Even if it just was to get into your pants - he can't help that - he is a guy. You have to figure out if he has redeeming qualities that would make him worth keeping? All guys are great in the beginning of a relationship, it's how much of that greatness they shed once they have you that you need to determine whether he's a keeper or not. Choose well! He won't be your last...
2007-04-16 13:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry but it sounds like he used to 4 sex!
and dosnt want to be be with u or go out with u!
dude dont give in to him hes a jerk!
2007-04-16 13:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might hav 2 say alex.... the only guy or woman i actualy kno 4 authentic...we are acquaintances and or suitable acquaintances in authentic existence XD..... no longer alot of pplz who r my Y!A acquaintances communicate 2 me plenty >_< ....the only way is like thro digital mail and or IM yet yah....
2016-11-24 23:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by gallop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow dis one up to u wat do u think
2007-04-16 13:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by maderagurlhottie01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋