My girlfriend is really uptite about things..Like I try not to force her into anything...were only in HS, and im not just talking about sex, but anything like kissing or just playing around or anything...anyway to loosen her up?
2007-04-16 13:28:29 · 20 answers · asked by shaunjohnson101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's for her to solve and get to the bottom of. Not for you to figure out. If she is uptight, there are reasons why. Probably has nothing to do with you. Give her some space. Tell her how you feel about her, but don't push her into doing anything she doesn't want to do. Good luck.
2007-04-16 13:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the sex part but if she is not letting you kiss and stuff like that then is some problems here or at least that is what I think I guess the only thing you can do is talk to her about it
2007-04-16 20:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone, if she wanted to do that kind of thing, she would. Making her loosen up is forcing her. Let her do things in her own time and when she is ready. You said yous were just in high school, so just let her be.
2007-04-16 20:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its probably fear of the unknown. I take it she's pretty inexperienced, and things like that can be really scary if you've never experienced them before.
Take it slow, and try talking to her about what she's worried about? Not too sure what your exact situation is, but its pretty much up to her really.
You can probably make things easier from her by letting her know she can be herself around you, and once she is perfectly comfortable with you it should be alright.
Hope that helps somewhat =)
2007-04-16 20:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Amz F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming she does not have much experience, so she might be nervous of the unknown or scared of diseases or pregnancy or whatever. Maybe see if she would be interested in educating herself that might help.
Either way don't push your luck you should be happy she is with you and if you don't like taking things slow than for both your sakes move on before you or her get hurt.
2007-04-16 20:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by ACW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to make her trust you.
make her know thats not all your in it for.
do the little things like open the door for her and pull out her chair, and impress her parents in order to gain her respect and make her feel a lot more comfortable around you.
start out in private for awhile cuz doing anything in public might make her feel weird/uncomfortable at first.
the longer you keep this up the more comfortable she'll get
and the more likely she'll loosen up
2007-04-16 20:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by allydally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is obviously nervous. Try to make her comfortable and get her to trust you by not trying to kiss her. Wait until she's ready. Let her kiss you. Or tell her that you understand she's not ready for kissing or anything like that so just tell her to tell you when she's ready.
2007-04-16 20:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Emily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop and see if you two are on the same page here. if not get back to shopping, but if there is a real bond and its very fulfilling (which it apparently doesn't seem so) stick with it. but for bein in high school i would definitely considering looking around for something else.....for lack of compatibility if nothing else
2007-04-16 20:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by pharmd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you shold just wait girls need time to get use to things and even if you have been dateing for awhile she probly needs to know you a lil beter if she is adventeres show her the wild side in you!
2007-04-16 20:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your pusing her too hard. take it slower. if your asking her to loosen up, you probably won't. she will be less trusting of you. not everyone is into kissing or touchy feely.
2007-04-16 20:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋