Because of religous beliefs he, doesn't want me to wear nail polish, cut my hair, wear pants or jewelry, he made me take out my belly ring, and doesnt like me wearing makeup. I feel annoyed. Is he right to want me to change for what he believes?
2007-04-16 13:24:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh dear.
Run. Run far, and run fast.
You need to find someone who accepts you for who you ARE, not who he wants you to be.
If he is this controlling when you are dating, you are going to find yourself completely isolated from friends and family when you are engaged and/or married.
2007-04-16 13:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be annoyed!! I don't think it's his decision. He's not the one wearing the nail polish, pants, jewelry, or belly button ring so why does he care? You are allowed to have your own beliefs so if he can't respect that then he's not worth it!
2007-04-16 13:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Emily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're too youthful. while you're grew to become twenty and have been nonetheless with the same guy, then there is an threat that the two certainly one of you ending up mutually. i do no longer choose to sound propose or something, yet relationships that take place for the duration of youthful a protracted time (alongside with while the girl is 17 or youthful) infrequently final. There are patently exceptions and that i even understand some ladies who went to severe college with me and have been 15 and started relationship their boyfriends, and now on the age of twenty-two they're engaged to the same guy. each so often you may think of you incredibly love somebody, yet as you get older your recommendations relatively transformations. i substitute into constantly relatively mature for my age and at 17 i theory i substitute into so clever. Now that i'm older, I understand how immature i substitute into for some issues and how in any different case i might have acted in some circumstances if I had the recommendations I actual have now. My suggestion is to attend it out. do no longer rush into something. you have your finished existence beforehand of you. My suggestion might additionally be to take a seat down and picture approximately your destiny and objectives. in the beginning, once you're 17 which ability you're nonetheless in severe college. Do you have any positioned up-secondary academic plans? once you're making plans on going to varsity or college, which will take in 2-4 years of your existence. no longer basically that, yet going to college is incredibly severe priced. are additionally you waiting to be a mom? Do you incredibly need toddlers on the age of 17 or every time quickly? are you able to work out your self coping with that duty? How long have you ever been relationship your boyfriend and how previous is he?
2016-11-24 23:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by gallop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can see/believe the rationality of these changes to be what is a "better way" then it sounds kinda noble. Sounds like he's trying to get you to be someone he can ask to marry him (in his religion's eyes). If you are planning a future with this guy and are planning to switch to his beliefs than it doesn't sound like he's asking these things for just himself, it sounds like he's trying to get you to give up petty material things. It's up to you how you want to live life, if doing without these things is not going to make you happy, then you should get out while before it gets too serious or there is more at stake - like kids. You need to do some soul searching and figure out if your love for him outweighs your love for material things. Sounds like he is a pretty good guy and he is willing to accept the real you, without all the pretty ornamentation.
2007-04-16 13:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all right for him to ask you to change, but it's not all right for him to force you to change. There's nothing wrong with asking someone to change for you, but if they are not willing to do it, then you have to decide if you can live with it or not. It's not fair to keep nagging and nagging when the person has already told you that he/she is not willing to change these things.
Likewise, if you don't agree with what he's asking you to do, you're under no obligation to do it. The alternative in this case will probably wind up with the relationship ending; he doesn't seem very flexible on these points from the little you've said.
2007-04-16 13:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not give up all of that for someone. When you got together he should have respected your rights and beliefs. Making you change all of that sounds very possessive. That goes beyond someones religious beliefs. That's a warning sign in a relationship. Be careful.
2007-04-16 13:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by WillsBroncoGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello - do you want to change these things AFTER you are engaged. Before or after, who cares. The question is if YOU want to change these thing ever? He can want you to change. He has a right to want things and you have a right to want to stay as you are. If that is a problem, you two will have some big issues to deal with.
2007-04-16 13:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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It sounds to me like he could at one point be controlling ,if he is starting that already .
Nothing wrong with beliefs . If he is so strongly about this , and there is no way you want to change , then maybe he is not for you . Things will not get any better if it is not straightened out .
2007-04-16 13:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not right. I understand that he has his religious beliefs, but he should've found someone that fits what his religion calls for, instead of finding someone and then trying to change them afterwards. It's not fair to you. He's taking away everything that you are. It may make him happy, but you're no longer going to be yourself, so how long do you think you're going to be happy??? If he is such a religious guy couldn't he have met someone at church to fit his needs??
2007-04-16 13:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should find someone that is more compatable to you and your belief's. Love is really a powerful emotion, but it does not conquer all. People that are having issues before marriage, have those same issues after marriage. Good Luck To You Dear
2007-04-16 13:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by glorianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some sort of commitment (ie: exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend) he has some right to make suggestions. He doesn't have a right to tell you or order you to do anything. Heck, not even fiances or husbands should have that right. That's controlling behaviour.
He has a right to suggest changes, but you also have a right to smile and say, "nope!" If you don't want to change, don't do it for him.
2007-04-16 13:28:59 · answer #11 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋