Sex question.?

Question

So me and my bf have been together for 2 months now but i've known him for about a year now. I have fallen in love with him and lately we've been talking about having sex. What are some things I should know beforehand? (I'm a virgin and I'm on birth control)

I am not asking what your opinion is on me having sex; I’m asking is there anything I should know about beforehand. So therefore if you have a stupid ******* comment on how "I shouldn’t be having sex" then kiss my *** and don’t answer my ******* question. Get it? Got it? Good.

im 19, im no longer a child thank-you very much!

Answer 1

Nobody can tell you that, just use a condom and take it slow.

Answer 2

I would make sure that I wore a condom. Birth control is not always effective. You are not on any antibiotics like penicillin are you? My sister was on birth control and still got pregnant because of this. Also like everyone else said make sure he is the right one. I thought my bf was the right one and I gave something away to him that I wish that I had back. I am not saying this bad but from experience. I know your an adult and can make your own decisions but when you are young you know everything and I was that way to. I am not saying this to belittle you. Also are you ready to possibly raise a child. Nothing is 100% and you have to be ready for anything that comes. Are you able to make the financial commitment of raising a child? I looked it up one time and it cost something like 25 thousand dollars just to see them through to high school. After weighing all of the pros and cons and you do decide to go ahead and go for it take it slow. The first time hurts. He needs to be very gentle and slow. My first experience my guy was not gentle and I hurt for a while. Just take is easy girl you got your whole life ahead of you. Good luck. And make sure this is something that you really want to do and there isn't any pressure from anyone.

Answer 3

Why not wait? If he truly loves you, he'll respect you and your decision. Are both of you mature enough to successfully raise a child, work through the emotional pain of a miscarriage, or deal with sexually transmitted diseases? If you hesitate before answering any of these questions in the positive, then it's too soon. If you can't talk about these issues with your "bf", then perhaps its too soon. Sex is more than a potentially pleasurable experience with your significant other...it's an adult act that deserves an adult decision.

If your boyfriend is truly your mate, then waiting a year or two won't matter. If he's not, then why give him that gift?

To more directly answer your question, stay on birth control, require an additional barrier (condom and diaphram with spermicide), think about what agreeing to do this means to you, and talk it over with the boyfriend, and finally, decide between you how you plan to deal with unexpected pregnancy or disease.

Answer 4

While you are going feel numerous of different feelings after having sex. Being that you are a virgin, it might hurt at the time and most likely you will be sore for a few days. You are already taking birth control good job. If you want to protect your self against any diseases you might want to use condoms. I know it doesn't feel the same but it might prevent any long term pain. If you still plan to have sex with your bf, have fun enjoy it. And good luck.

Answer 5

Protection protection protection!!!!!!! Make him wear a condom! Ask him how many partners he's had. If he has had sex already I'd tell you to ask him to have tests for STD's,.A good friend of mine was 19, lost her virginity to this guy, who she was madly in love with, the guy was having sex with other girls and she didn't know about it... he gave her gonorrhea. Once all the precautions are taken, then I’d suggest wear a Cowboy hat and enjoy the ride. Oh and I aggree he needs to be gentle, it will hurt the first couple of times. Put a towel on the bed b/c you are likely to bleed a little.

Answer 6

Birth control is not alway effective, those little sperm are tricky and can still find a way through. Make sure he wears a condom. Make sure he is gentle if this is your first time, as you will probably be sore afterwards. Most importantly make sure you love him though, you cannot take your viginity back. Don't be in a rush to have sex, it is a great thing but not if you aren't in love or not ready for it.

Answer 7

Make sure you're prepared. I lost my virginity back in September, and I do not regret it at all. Don't listen to others telling you to not do it, if you know you're ready.

It's a big step, so be prepared emotionally. You can only give your virginity away to one person, so if you know he's the one, I'd take the step.

Make sure you talk about it too, and he knows that he needs to be gentle. You could even be on top of him, so YOU could control it at your own pace.

Seeing how you're already on birth control, and I'm sure your well enough prepared from sex-ed and condom commercials, so all I can tell you is to be completely sure of your decision. And good luck! =]

Answer 8

First of all, if you are a virgin, it will probably hurt the first time. Secondly, tell him to be gentle and to proceed slowly and carefully. Thirdly, most women, in order to get excited down there need to have their nipples played with first; that will bring them to the point where they want to be penetrated and he should wait until you give the okay. Fourthly, as it is your first time, ask him to be willing to stop if you want to stop before either of you reaches a climax. And finally, don't be surprised if you don't particularly enjoy it the first time as most women don't enjoy it the first time. And sometimes women have to do it many times before they begin to enjoy it. As for the part about being gentle, many young women find that their clitoris is too sensitive to be touched so warn him that you might not like that. If he is willing to give you oral stimulation, some women don't like the idea, but if you like the thought of it, that can be a way of introducing the pleasure of the sex act. Women, themselves know a lot more about this subject than I do, so talk to them, but take what they say with a grain of salt. An older woman who seems to be happily married an comfortable with her sexuality may be a good person to talk to. But above all, don't listen to those who tell you not to go ahead, just listen to yourself as no-one knows your situation better than you do. If your bf is a kind person, then your chances of it being an enjoyable initiation into adulthood will be maximal. You have my blessings whatever you decide.

Answer 9

Try to relax, don't make a big deal about it all you'll be doing this for a long time to come. the best thing to do is have a nice evening first its very important to laugh together. i'm really trying to stress the point of relaxation first because you need to relax otherwise it can hurt, not alot but it can be uncomfortable. Hope this helps and have a good time. Good luck.

Answer 10

Take your time. Make sure you have plenty of foreplay. Your first time should be special and if you love him and he loves you it will be. Make a night out of it, do the whole romantic thing, with candles and massages. Most importantly, be safe and have fun! Know that your first time will hurt a little, so go slow and it will be enjoyable. Good luck!

Answer 11

Since you blasted us before you even got any answers.....why did you even bother to ask the question?


You see, that is the point of this site - to get opinions - if do not want them, then do not ask.

You are very young.
If were so convinced it was right, then why were you questioning yourself and others?