Last night I screamed so hard that it made me light headed for a few seconds, and my arms began to tingle...
I tried talking things out, but I just couldn't get through to my girlfriend... I got upset about something I shouldn't have gotten angry about. I apologized for misinterpreting what she said to me, but I tried explaining how I felt at the situation. All I want from her is to tell me that what I thought was absurd, and that she doesn't feel that way at all... For me, its not enough to hear that I misunderstood what she meant. I need her to back it up by saying that she feels the opposite of what I thought she was feeling. But when she tells me I'm wrong, she leaves it at that. It's like "you misunderstood again, get over yourself"... As opposed to "you misunderstood, I don't feel that way at all, I think you're (opposite of what I thought she meant)"
2007-04-16 11:59:39 · 4 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyway, it wasn't a big deal, and she just stopped talking about it. Actually, we just stopped talking the entire evening. She likes to deal with problems by getting over things, by not talking about the situation and coming to a resolution. I can’t let the littlest thing go unresolved. I tried getting her to talk to me when I’m upset about things, but she just left the room. So I said fine, I’ll try her little no talking method… It doesn’t work for me. We went the entire evening not talking, and then I saw her in bed about to go to sleep. That just put me over the top, so I left; still trying her no talking theory. I couldn’t do it, so we got on the phone and argued…
2007-04-16 12:00:01 · update #1
I know it wasn’t a big deal, and I shouldn’t have gotten angry. I apologized for it. At that point, it wasn’t about the misunderstanding, I just couldn’t stand that she didn’t care when I was upset. Fine, it wasn’t a big deal, I just wanted to hear some comforting words, and I couldn’t get that… So I blew up again… I am trying SO hard not to… But when she doesn’t talk things through with me I get so angry! I hate it so much… I hate how angry I get… I don’t know why I can’t just let the little things go. How do I let the little things go??
2007-04-16 12:00:36 · update #2
Get therapy. You need help.
2007-04-16 12:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal sometimes to have anger feelings,
the difference is how YOU respond to those feelings.
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1. Anger. Recognize you are angry.
2. Restrain yourself from Reacting. (Don't yell, etc.)
3. Explain why you are angry.
4. Action. Come up with an action to resolve your anger. Don't depend on someone else to do it as they may not. YOU have to resolve it. Go for a walk if you feel you can't do #2.
REPEAT the above as necessary. Get counseling or take a class.
2007-04-16 19:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Someone who cares 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was looking for and didn't get. What a delima. Maybe she dosen't have it, or maybe you can take it. Either way screaming like I've done and breaking things like I've done just gives them more power over you and THEY love it. STOP STOP STOP. You are who you are and they sre who they are. Not getting what you "need"? go on down the line.
2007-04-16 19:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by josh03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this anger problem too... The only way you can help yourself is YOURSELF! Try to set your mind that you shouldn't scream, shout, curse at her. Chill out
2007-04-16 19:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋