Do you think that a woman should wear White at her wedding?

Question

Been divorced and have 3 kids...45 years old...White?
I don't think so..what do you think?
I have never been that into all of the big wedding stuff anyways!

Answer 1

White is sort of harsh on most people anyway. Wear
what you want. It's not about the outfit!

Answer 2

Well everyone is going to say It's your wedding, but I kinda agree with you. After 3 kids, and being older--

But I think the real thing is style. I think its tacky when older women wear big poofy ballgown dresses. It can be white or off-white, blue or pink--as long as it is tasteful. Something that looks like a mature woman.

I personally love the light gold that is so popular now. I think that is a gorgeous color. And there are many straight wedding gowns out there--Grecian inspired and more simplistic design. I think those are perfect for a woman in her 40s with 3 kids.

Like this
http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?line=m&pageSize=64&page=1&style=A609

Answer 3

I don't think white is a good wedding color paid. Its my first time getting married and I warring red and black Chinese silk. As for divorced 3 kids doesn't matter wear what you want to wear. Go all out or be conserved it up to you really.

Answer 4

"Old tradition" says no, you shouldn't wear white in your case. However, no one is going to gasp and fall over dead if you do.

A nice option would be a nice skirt suit. You should be able to get a "Mother of the Bride" dress suit for less than the cost of a dress, and they are made to look people in your age group look good! You can match it to your wedding colors.

You can still wear a dress, of course. There are many simple gowns to chose from. Most bridal salons have dresses made for people in your exact situation. You want something that is streamlined and simple.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

I think the woman should wear any color she wants at her wedding. If she wants to wear white, she should wear white; I don't care how many divorces or kids she's got "under her belt". And if she wants to wear hot pink - more power to her as well. It's up to her!

Answer 6

Ivory is a nice color. It really all depends on what you want the event to be like and what you will be comfortable in! I don't think a full 'wedding' type of dress with a train and all is necessary. Just something simple and elegant. You don't want people thinking that you're to old for the big puffy white dress either. You want to be elegant and classy. What will you groom like on you?!

Answer 7

I think it's totally up to the bride. I mean, tradition or strict etiquette might say different, but in this day and age who cares. If you wanna wear a polka dotted dress that should be up to you. If you wanna wear white I think you could. If anyone asks, say it symbolizes a fresh start, a new beginning. If you don't wanna wear white then go for it. It's your big day.

Answer 8

A Wedding is all about the Bride, whether it is the first time getting married or the 5th. If the Bride wishes to wear white, then her wish shall be granted.

Answer 9

Second weddings (and third) are quite common in today’s society. Charles and Camilla had some new things to consider, so help your children, future children, friends and family how to accept the upcoming event.

You might not be the twenty-something, blushing bride, yet are probably more mature in taste and style. Remove those “old myths” a bit and make your wedding the way you want and with your own special flair. Some couples choose to step out of the “traditional box” and plan their wedding more freely. They know who they are and know what they want much more this time around.


Ex’s and Children
Its always a good idea to inform the former spouse of the pending nuptials. Most second marriages will involve children or possibly event grandchildren. And, don’t forget to include Godchildren.

Involving children in the ceremony can to a wonderful start depending on the child’s age. Here are a few ideas that you might offer:
• Reading scriptures
• Best man, usher, ring bearer
• Maid of honor, flower girl
• Lighting the Unity candle
• Special Toasts
• Deciding small details about the ceremony, food, flowers, colors, etc.
• Helping put together wedding decorations
• Have the children also walk down the aisle
• Greeters
• Guest Book attendant


If the child(ren) are still feeling a little pinch about the union, the parents might assign a favorite aunt or friend to shadow them on the wedding day. The parents might include the children by telling all of them that its “our wedding day” to make them feel a part of it too.


Walking Down the Aisle
The ‘again bride’ might consider having her children walk her down the aisle or she may walk alone. Her parents might walk before her as an alternative. It is not necessary for the father to “give the bride away” as she has already been given away (to the now, former husband).


The Family Medallion Ceremony or Family Vow Ceremony

"Marriage is often viewed as a union of two individuals. In reality however, Marriage is much broader than that. It is also the coming together and merging of family and friends. With children present, the wedding ceremony becomes the proclaiming of a new family." One way to incorporate the acceptance of a blended family is the insert of a small tribute during the ceremony. Special touches can be added to include children and the gesture recognizes the fact that all are becoming a new family. During the wedding ceremony, the couple's children join them at the altar.

Family Vows
After the exchange of wedding vows, each parent can recite a small phrase of words as a vow of acceptance. For example, "I, (name), solemnly promise that I will care for you, love you and honor you as my own."



Family Vows Certificate (see below)



Family Tree
A “new” family tree print is a special touch that adds all the new names to the family tree and can be presented during the ceremony or displayed at the reception.

Jewelry
This tribute can include the giving of jewelry (necklace, charm bracelet lapel pin or ring). The Family Medallion® symbol includes three equally merged circles: two circles represent the marriage union; the third symbolizes the importance of children within the family. Jewelry can be given after the exchange of rings as a pledge of their love to them and their importance within the new family.

Unity or Family Candle
The lighting of the candles where all members of the new family light the candle can be a great experience. If one (or both) former spouses died, a memorial candle can also be included by having the children light this one as well.





2nd Time in White?
Of course! There’s no problem with marrying in white as it symbolizes a new beginning. Some brides may lean toward winter white, off white, ecru or pastels. The dress may be more simple and elegant. No Southern Belle and fluffy sleeves this time, perhaps, but a design consistent with the bride’s more mature taste. Some will still want the floor length while others will choose the tea-length, cocktail dress style, or even pant suits.


Gift Registration?
The bride might not register opening for gifts as this is usually reserved for first marriages and those just beginning to set up a household. One would think that the mature bride already has household items, yet gifts are hoped for as a sign of new times and a new beginning. There may be one item that the new couple want such as china, for example. They might make these wishes known by word of mouth. Some set up honeymoon registrations instead.



Bridal Shower?
There again, it would seem that the couple already have household items, so a second time around bride might not expect showers. Of course, there will be those who will insist. A unique themed, cocktail party or co-ed shower might be appropriate.


Who Pays?
Generally, the couple split all expenses, not expecting the parents to chip in for second weddings.


Guest List
Some ‘ole relations’ may still pay special homage to the former spouse of either the bride or the groom. You want to encourage the each other to only invite those who wish you well and not harbor old or mixed feelings. The guest list still follows the traditional rules, yet ex-spouses and “former others” might be something to think about.


Invitation
The invitation should only include the names of the couple. Some are also including their children’s name as a symbolic gesture as uniting two families into one.


Rehearsal Dinner
This isn’t really necessary, yet some prefer having a Dutch-treat dinner out for all family members, special friends and out of town guests.


Do’s
• Place engagement wedding announcement in newspaper
• Engagement party

Don’ts
• Marry at same location
• Wear the same dress or rings
• Carry orange blossoms (sign of purity and virginity)




Children-Family Event
With the prospect that many guests will have children in attendance, be sure to coordinate a children’s area (or room) at the wedding reception. Books, coloring books, puzzles and games at a special table area will keep the children occupied. A special helper assigned can volunteer or be hired for this task.


Home Weddings
Planning a home wedding for the second marriage can be a quaint experience. Most likely on a smaller scale, the ceremony and reception can be a formal sit-down dinner, garden wedding or even a barbeque. See the At Home Wedding Guide


Reception
--as elaborate and big as you want. Some keep it simple, yet the celebration afterwards should reflect your personal style and be a family event.

• Mid-afternoon cake, coffee and champagne only
• Mid-morning breakfast buffet
• Evening dessert-only reception
• Light finger food luncheon buffet



If you have been engaged for a second wedding, make the focus on the family as an entire unit. Center the planning around the couple and what they have in mind. Special family touches and ceremony additives can make it a special time for guests as well. Treat this as if it were your first wedding since it will be their 1st marriage to each other.

Answer 10

i feel you should wear what you feel comfortable with if you feel you can pull white off then go for it i am 26 never married an will never have a white dress i always dreamed of a colored ballroom gown like a splash of red on a white dress or a sweet 15 dress spanish dress hope that helps