This may sound like a question coming from a high schooler but I assure you its not. I am a 22 year old woman and I just can't figure this man out. I have an acquantice who I will call T. I have only met him a few times. Everytime we hang out we flirt constantly. We have gotten drunk together a few times and wound up messing around-never had sex-just little things. The thing is I am seeing one of his friends-its not super serious between us. The first time we ever messed around he never called me then I didnt see him for a few months. I just saw him over the weekend and he said he just didn't know what to do and how to handle the situation-that is why he never contacted me. We had a really good talk and things were going good. We wound up going out to a club and getting drunk, my boyfriend was with us. Anyway, T told me that when I was ready to say the word and we would be together. But now he won't answer my calls. Whats going on with this guy?
2007-04-16 11:31:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump them both.
sounds like you're not into the guy you're currently with and the new guy is just waiting for you to dump your BF.
2007-04-16 11:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
T was probably just being polite. How would you have handled it if T told you that he wasn't interested? Some people have a hard time saying what they really want to.
Plus you have a boyfriend, you shouldn't be worried about T. If you are always thinking about T, then you need to reconsider why you are with your current bf. Maybe you need to take some time out for yourself and figure just what you are looking for and if that is realistic.
2007-04-16 18:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by pecksun8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's afraid of a relationship and how that may obligate him. This new guy you are seeing (his friend) probably sparked a little courage in him since he fears losing you to another, but is really unsure of his intentions. Only time will tell, but if he keeps this up, you need to tell him to step up or move on. Who has time for such games.
2007-04-16 18:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by J Dubble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys hate to sell out their boys...its an age old adage. You just don't do that to a friend. If you want to give him the opportunity to step it up, you need to tell your current boyfriend it's over.
Don't be like so many other women have been stereotyped to be and be a "monkey". -not letting go of one branch until you firmly have hold of another-
If you are willing to date other guys instead of your current guy, tell him so and break it off, and tell him about your feelings for his friend so that he won't blame his buddy and cause more problems for the three of you
Good Luck
2007-04-16 18:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tikkun Olam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't mind having you when he's drunk and it's convenient. I doubt you will ever get anything more out of him. Move on.
2007-04-16 18:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not know what to do or how to handle things. so he uses a tried and true guy approach....he simply avoids it. Problem solved.
2007-04-16 18:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he wanted to see how far he could go its a man thing I'm sure it boost his ego.if you like the guy your with don't mess it up for t
2007-04-16 18:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by lonley1960 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested...he just wanted you for a good time.
2007-04-16 18:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but did you ever hear, he's just not that into you? Move on...I'm sure you will find someone else.
2007-04-16 18:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Micheleci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's got you on a leash
2007-04-16 18:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Oh My 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋