Why is SEXX everything today for both Men and Women??

Question

Being intimit with the person you love is a great feeling. I have nothing against that but few of us are not interested in sleeping around.

But today I feel most men and women only want sex and nothing else.finding a nice decent guy to date and wants a long term relationship is just next to imposible.
If you are very attractive they assume u can't be single. If u are attractive but not interested in going out with every other guy these guys atomaticlly judge the girl by calling her arragont and a Bitcch...
Just because some of us are selctive it is regarded as a problem...
For those of you who are still single and looking for decent long term relatioship .. How do u over come all this?

Answer 1

well honey I'd say stick to what your are doing and wave your '*****' flag proudly! There is nothing wrong with being selective and not sleeping with every guy you date and intamacy comes in so many forms, sex is only one of them. So keep being picky and selective and ignore those who don't like it!

Answer 2

I think it's all about the trust thing. EVERYBODY almost has a horror story about some ex - And they just have a hard time letting go and starting over. Or forgiving the opposite sex so that they CAN see the good ones out there. So most of them keep their feet wet with the "relationship thing" by sleeping around until they find someone "nice" and that's the one they stick with. Go to a dating service or a good singles club and you will find someone who doesn't necessarily have to "sleep around to find someone" it takes time and you have to have the right chemistry. Try a dating service because you can sift through the prospectives with a series of questions like an interview to see if you can find someone that can wait for a while and not pressure you into having sex. But remember with most guys it is sexual attraction first and brain second so make sure you do look your best when you go out with a guy if you are going to make him wait awhile! :)

Answer 3

This Empty-Nesting Single Retiree just IGNORES the mess, and just keeps on working and ENJOYING my SINGLE-NESS!

I've been single for most of my life -- long term single before a short disaster of a marriage, then Long Term Single Parent, and now Empty-Nesting Single. Given that I have a pension, benefits, and ... most importantly, EARNED through MY Hard Work MY own HOME, I do NOT feel obligated to either listen to or deal with any form of harassment at all ...

And ... most importantly -- it is a person with very little self-esteem that has to resort to calling another Human vile names or to make fun of that person or show their prejudices openly and flaunt that poor behavior in public.

Me ... I'll treat each person like I would want to be treated -- as a WORTHY HUMAN BEING who deserves respect and not to get hassled for nastiness or sexual contact.

Answer 4

It sucks that the dating world thinks sex is casual, :( For me when i talk to a guy for the first time and he talks about sex right away, i let him go. So just keep looking, and don't waste your time-first impressions are usually right!
Sometimes when you are attractive you have to approach a guy, I know i do. You are right when you say they always think you are taken. When I walk up to a guy and ask them to dance they figure I am already here with someone, lol. So be brave and try going up to a person.
The only thing you can do is keep looking!

Answer 5

Okay Julia. Had you not been a nice soundin lady i would've thought you aint gave none in a minute. But sonce you not i'll jus tell you this. All men aren't jus in a relationship to have sex. If your lucky enuff to find a decent man, he'll want just as much as you do. Which means more than sex. Tho sex does feel good we jus want it every now and then.

Answer 6

It is impossible to understand and the guys that are willing to be monogamous are already in a relationship or giving you the run around to see how far into your pants they can get. My problem with guys is that they are only willing to commit with the fact of knowing their greater reward out of the relationship Will be sex. Preconceived notions.

Answer 7

It doesn't bother me. I don't care if they think I'm arrogant because I'm selective. I have all the right as any other girl to be selective. Don't let it bother you so much. You'll find that guy you're looking for. There are guys out there who are having a hard time finding a girl like you. You'll find eachother with time. And you'll be so glad you got through all this!!

Answer 8

girl u kno what its the people that call u a ***** they the ones thats a *****. sex does seem like everyhting to people these days and they're starting younger & younger. All you have to do is turn on ET or MTV and u hear bout this girl shakin her a$$ and thatGurl suckin d*ck 2 get n a viDeo...lyke its nothing. The only person who can judge u is God, nd to all my girls out there who r not hoes, but lok good....please remember that!!!! Oh and I didn't mean to offend ne one religously or ne thing :)

Answer 9

Sometimes you really need to look at what type of people you are going for and see if maybe you are being too shallow, or not looking for the right person.
And if you are young, you need to just keep trying until you find the right one, and find yourself.
You really need to know who you are and what you want, and to make sure that what you want is realistic.

Answer 10

its probably easier for most people to get to the sex then it is for the relationship exspecially if you have been burned and don't want to get hurt again. Atleast with sex you know both the people are both getting what they wanted or else they wouldn't have engaged in an act. I know for me it would be easier to just have sex, instead of having my head messed with. because girls can be vicious.