I dont know what to do! my fiance's brother is a big cheater and is now taking my man out to clubs where girls are interacting with them, he says he will never cheat but i dont trust the girls and i really dont trust his brother. im scared the dog in his brother will rub off on my fiance. i get all upset and start fighting with him when he says hes going out. what should i do? and how can i let him go out without stressin out and callin him 50xs a night?
2007-04-16 10:53:07 · 10 answers · asked by BLUE2269 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only thing that stops a man or woman from cheating is the love they have for you. If he is going to cheat nothing in the world will stop that, he will lose more for a piece of booty than you will. I hope it works out for you and he does not cheat.
May I suggest going out with the girls and dressing real nice but not slutty and when he asks where you are going just say out and go. I would not cheat but maybe he needs some of his own medicine.
2007-04-16 11:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to take a lot of trust and patience on your part to deal with the situation. First off he is his brother and no matter what he is blood relation so their is going to be some connection between them. However i think you should sit down and have an open and honest heart to heart talk with your finace. So tell him how it makes you feel that he's going out and what that does to you. Try to make a compromise like only going out once or twice a month on the weekend to make a compromise. Try not to call him as often that way it shows that you trust. there is nothin worse in a relationship where people loose that trust. when it happens even the best of relationships can fall apart. If you call him so much he may feel that you dont trust him no more. But no matter what the key to handling any delicate situation is COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION.
2007-04-16 11:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by strtrcr4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, calling him 50 times a night will actually give him more reason to cheat rather than prevent it. You mean well, but in order to have a true relationship, you need to trust him. Jealousy is a natural but irrelavent emotion. Jealousy is simply insecurity in a new coat. If you trust him to be faithful, you need to let him go where he wants to go. Not trusting his brother and the other girls doesn't mean anything. If you believe they might influence him to cheat, that means he can't be trusted. It doens't have anything to do with his brother or anybody else. It's solely your fiance's decision. Reevaluate the trust in your relationship first and then try out a solution. Let me know if you'd like to talk more about this.
2007-04-16 11:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem in my last relationship...and it ended. Trust him not to do anything. I understand if it's 3 in the morning and there is no word from him. Then I would call simply for the fact of his safety. But PLEASE don't call him 50x because the relationship will end as disaterous as mine. This new guy I'm with is a sailor in Florida right now. But ya know what the more you worry the more he's gonna push you away until your out of his life...
2007-04-16 11:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being selfish and suspicious, for one. He has a right to enjoy himself once and a while, and if he says he won't cheat, trust him on it until he gives you a reason not to.
Without trust, and with about fifty calls a night, YOU will be the reason for a destroyed relationship.
2007-04-16 11:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anubis's Right Wing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust him, but he should also respect your feelings. I personally don't think going out to the club all the time is something a man happy with his realationship would do. I asked my boyfriend to tone it down and he did. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and try not to argue.
2007-04-16 11:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by vas_girl_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust your man you have nothing to worry about. Your fiance is your finace- he is not your brother. If your hubby wants to cheat..he will but it would not be your brothers fault if he does cheat on you.
2007-04-16 10:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you see if he will stop and stay home with you? these clubs have naked girl dancers is that right? Married men dont belong there or engaged ones either...
2007-04-16 10:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop calling him
if he WANTS to cheat- he will... his brother has nothing to do with it
calling so much will chase him off
2007-04-16 10:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you obviously don't trust your fiance!!!
if you did, it wouldn't bother you...
you have trust issues you need to get sorted... and probably dump him!!! :D
2007-04-16 10:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋