He is 25 and an alcoholic and is prone to unpredictable and violent outbursts. He lives with my mom and last night he flipped out at about 3am because she wouldn't give him cider. He beat her up and smashed up the house (and there is a 1 year old baby, my sister's living there too although he didn't go near her). I called the police and my sister warned him that they were coming and he headbutted her and ran away. The police came and found him but my mom doesn't know what to do as she is scared of what would happen to him if he went to prison, and he has nowhere to go if she kicked him out of home. My dad passed away a year ago. My brother went to rehab once but drank while he was there and after 3 weeks they said his treatment was finished, there was no follow up and the social worker doesn't want to know, she said "what can I do about it?". He was meant to go to counselling but he said it was no good and stopped going. He doesn't work, just sponges or steals money from my mom
2007-04-16 10:46:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
When he goes to trial for assault, tell the judge that he is violent and has hurt your mother and sister. Ask the judge to order him into detox and a 28 month drug rehab program, and ask the judge to require that he complete both programs successfully...or go to prison.
2007-04-16 11:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most guys that have become addicts have done so as a result of losing their self-respect and belief they are worth anything in life.
You should do some research yourself for a rehab clinic which gets results on individuals where less than 10% reversion rate occurs and talk it over with them. Normally they have people available who've come off alcohol or heavy drugs themselves and know what to do in these instances.
They're sure to be able to find out the exact moment where the guy fell off the waggon and get him back on again!
2007-04-16 11:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to get him some SERIOUS help!
Jail isn't the only answer for someone like that but in some cases, like this one, it might be the best thing. if the police were called they have record of his behaviour. Anytime he comes by the home around family enraged or drunk, call the police. being violent towards your sister was assult and that alone is enough to have him put in jail.
People like your brother only get real help when they're ready for it, and obviously for some reason, he is on his own path of self-destruction. Family can only do so much.
2007-04-16 10:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mom needs to understand that he is abusing you all. Call the police. Let him go to jail. He needs to dry up either by sitting in jail or getting into detox. Let your mom know that if he ends up in jail at least he is not drinking or abusing. He has food and a roof over his head along with clothes. In time he can get visits too. I am a mom and my son went to jail for drug addiction then got out used again went in and out of detoxes until it finally worked. Mom needs to stop enabling him. So what if he sleeps out side. She can still feed him. I did with my son. Good luck and try to convince her of how serious this is.
2007-04-16 11:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 04:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother that is34 yrs old...still lives with our mom he is highly addicted to crack!!! He steals from her, pesters her for money, and when she tells him no...he get's violent, trashes the house calling her some nasty things...yet she still wont kick him out...It is the motherly love a mother holds for her child...and they are soo afraid of letting them hit rock bottem...but that is what needs to let happen before they can get any better! As for your part...be there for your mother...support her and give her guidence...talk to her about getting thearpy for herself...keep calling the cops on your brother! I hope for your mom's sake and everyone elses that he goes to jail for a long time
2007-04-16 11:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by crazeymazey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, for starters, if he is a danger to society, he needs to be removed from it until he no longer poses a danger. People can get rehab in jail, and while it's not an ideal recovery situation, you can't drink while you're in jail.
Also, he is a grown man. He needs to take care of himself, 25 is way too old for such reliance on his mother, no matter how sorry she feels for him, or how guilty she will feel.
2007-04-16 10:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to kick him out of the house, He's 25, an Adult and has ro right to be living there...tell him to get a job and start taking care of himself or he will lose everything.
2007-04-16 10:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tabitha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to the courthose and get a peacebond on him , and make it so he will wind up in jail if he comes with in a mile of moms house, until he can control himself some else has to he has no busniness touching his mother and deserves to be locked up indefenately, needs to learn respect for his elders too, a take on some self respected, theres nothing written a mother should have to take any abuse cause kids havent grownup
2007-04-16 10:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may have to go to jail for a short time or else the court will order him to get treatment. For your mom's safety he needs to be out of the house.
2007-04-16 10:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋