Should I and how would I?

Question

I'm a 24 year old virgin. Yes, by choice. No, I'm not ugly. No, it's not a religious thing. It's been a moral choice to not be a "friend w/benefits" or "one night stand" and most of the guys I have dated, I wanted to wait to make sure our relationships were more than just sex (but none of my relationships made it over 6 months, and most likely for that reason at least for one of them)

Anyway, I am seriously considering just meeting some random good looking guy, and sleeping w/him. Just to get the whole mountain out of the way.Then a friend suggested I sell my virginity on ebay. But I dont think that is legal? What do you guys think about all this? And do you know if it is legal? :)

Answer 1

Do not sell your virginity? Bad idea. But like you, I did the same thing, and unfortunately it is a curse. When i was your age, I never dated a guy longer than 6 months too. I figured it was in my best interest because thats all they wanted, untill I got older and understood....
Alot of Men/boys don't think you really like them without intimacy. Thats how they associate your feelings for them. Women don't necessarily view it that way. When i was 23, I did the same thing, hooked up randomly( with a friend) one night and it happened. I didn't know why I held out. It was no big deal.
I believe you are old enough now to deal with it and you need to move on from this. Definitely do not sell it on ebay, but next time you like a guy, go for it. I think the real reason you held out is fear, fear from everything to rejection to having your heart broken. I think everybody has to have their heart broken to find love...........
Good luck

Answer 2

It IS illegal to put it on e-bay, besides it's already been done, it was on the news a few years back.

You are lucky, I'm a 30 y/o guy that's been around. And everyone TOLD me not sleep with a girl before marriage, but no one ever said WHY.

Well, here's why:
Once you're married, you know they are the right one for you - you're compatible, not just hitting the hay. You know they want to be with YOU, not just your parts, and you know they stayed around long enough to think you're worth waiting for. There's no tricks, games, or jealousy, only love - and that makes everything better.

And for a girl, virginity is a wine that improves with age... until it gets REALLY old. (For guys it's like a congenital disease that has no symptoms until puberty, then becomes more and more uncomfortable, and the longer you wait the more desperate you become... it kinda sucks really).

I can't go back. But you don't have to cross that line. Once it's gone, you can't get it back. It's a wonderful gift to give to a man. A girl once went and slept with someone so she could be good for me - she didn't understand. Another one gave it to me, but I could not return the favor.

If you're worried about not being good, it is ALMOST impossible for a girl to not be at least satisfactory. Use something on yourself if you're worried about pain or not being able to finish, (a vibrator I mean), (that actually IS an issue for some), but that can take away from the gift too.

However, if you've made your choice and there is no way I can convince you otherwise, swing by upstate NY and I'll make sure you get done right.

Write me privately if you need more.

Answer 3

You've stuck by your "moral choice" for 24 years, why ruin it now? Think of how you'd really feel about yourself afterwards. Not only are you cheapening the whole act by doing it with a stranger as a one night stand, but you're using the stranger as well. And it doesn't sound like you are the type of person to go around using people. Do you really think its worth that and all the risks of a one-time thing, just to move that 'mountain'?

My first time was very much a "Let's just get this over with" kind of thing. I did love the man I gave my virginity to, and thought he loved me to. But it felt more like a forced 'breaking that barrier' kind of thing, and it shouldn't be like that. Sex should be much more giving and natural than that, even your first time. And believe me, you don't want to remember your first time as anything less than beautiful.

I don't know you, I don't know why your relationships didn't last any longer, but don't blame it on sex, because any man worth his salt will respect the decision you've made, and will even love you all the more for it.

Answer 4

I encourage you not to give up!!! I know a few girls, including myself, that have found good guys, who love and respect them. Remember that if you give up your virginity there's no going back. If you end up regretting it you'll never be able to be a virgin again. If anyone encourages you to go for it and give it up they most likely are not virgins themselves and are probably jealous!!! There are few girls like you and they should and deserve to be treasured! Don't change that!!! You're virginity is not something to put a price on!! That would be so cheap!!! Please don't even conider this, if you are considering it then you ovbiously have no idea how special your virginity really is! I encourage you to ask girls who have been in your situation and have given up, why they regretted doing it. You made a good decision by asking for advice! You're a smart girl. At one point you wanted a man who loved you for who you are not for sex or lust. Now you're considering giving up your virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it!!! (especially since you've waited so long). Don't settle for less! The only man who deserves your virginity is a man who truly loves you!!!!! And you deserve nothing less than that! :)

Answer 5

have you ever checked the statute of limitations interior the regulation for rape the place you reside? in the journey that your nonetheless interior of that shrink you could and ought to have him charged. some worldwide places haven't any statute which skill you could fee him at any time after he commits the crime and a few have a time-physique that it must be performed interior of. your loved ones feels like a nightmare no longer status at the back of you once you mandatory them even yet evidently such as you have risen above it and survived. That shows how sturdy you're. in the journey that your aggravating approximately him attempting to come again into your lives at a later date get him to sign a sworn assertion giving up all parental rights and agreeing to stay faraway from the two you and your toddler. If he's keen to try this then you certainly ought to choose in case you opt to enable it bypass or have him positioned into penal complex for raping you. you ought to have had him charged while it got here approximately no remember what your loved ones pronounced, you have been the sufferer, even yet it remains achievable. that's finally your determination what you opt to do yet first examine the guidelines the place you reside and then determine the thank you to proceed.

Answer 6

First of all selling your virginity on Ebay, come on think of something else. That's ridiculous. Just find someone you like, and overtime, things should work out for you. But don't sell "it", only if ur desperate (which I'm guessing ur not). Just think about it before you do something you'll regret. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sweetheart you've come this far. What's another few years? I think if you wait it will be the best thing you could do for yourself. When you fid the right man, you'll know and if he's willing to wait and respect your wishes the he just might be the one. Be proud that you are not like most women and have waited to be w/the right man first.

Answer 8

I don't think you should sell yourself because girls that do that kind of thing get a label and I'm sure you know what that label is. Just try getting a boyfriend and if you feel ready to do it with him, then go ahead.

Answer 9

don't sell it on eBay.... i think that you decision is good!!! someday you will find a man that loves you for you and wont run away because you wont drop your pants... i know exactly what you are going through except for that whole selling it on eBay crap..when i met my fiance and knew right away he was the one ... so just be patient.... what was your friend thinking?

Answer 10

thats not legal!
but you should save urself for marriage. seriously you dont need sex ur just going to be upset with urself if you do