Second Date Issues?

Question

Hiya. I am a 25 year old man who asked a 32 year old lady out on Friday night in her town to go for somthing to eat and to go to the cinema. Not sure what we are going to watch yet. The problem is i have not had many outing with women and What do i do on the second date to show her I am intrested in her. The word date is not used so not sure if she sees it as a date, she wants to go out friday with me and we had a good day out at a gallery 3 weeks ago, few awkward silences as shes shy and quiet.

I feel i have to kick start convos and do lots of work but hopfully she will overcome the barrier i know shes shy because shes in my college class and know her nature. ok with girls but shy with boys. Do i give her a kiss at the end of the night? walk her home? make good eye contact? 1st day out (3 weeks ago) i kissed her on the cheek and that was it. Do i bring into conversation that I like her? shes in my class at college and on placements with me so i cannot mess her around thanks :)

Answer 1

Chloe's right, but not so much eye contact that she feels you're like terminator! Be yourself and chill.... :) All the best

Answer 2

Dude, dude, dude! - a movie? Surely you can do better than that. You need to show her something she hasn't seen. Bring a picnic to your special place in the park (if you're desperate), take her to Laser-Tag ("Q-Zar"), take her to the clothing optional section of the beach (like Robert Moses in NY) and see what she does. Take her on a row-boat, or to an archery range (go there first to learn how if you don't know what you're doing).

Anybody can do dinner and a movie, she needs to see that you're special, you're different, you're not like every other shmuck out there. And I hope you're not paying for her, you ARE worth more than just a free meal, right? Cook something for her - ask if she's lactose intolerant and or if she's allergic to anything.

Take her on a bike-ride or a gentle hike - something invigorating but that won't make her feel old. Rent a kayak or something.

As for the kiss - see if she has indicators of interest. Does she smile a lot? Does she find any excuse to touch you? Does she laugh when the joke really wasn't that funny? And when you get the kiss - be cool, don't go crazy. (Although you should have kissed her on your first date). And smile and be confident no matter WHAT happens.

Answer 3

Just keep it cool. Let what happens happen, but don't force a moment if it's not there. Women actually admire a man that's not always rushed to get to the next level. Express interest in her and ask questions that are not simply 'yes and no' answered-questions. Maybe you could get her a small boquet of flowers (not roses). Do something that requires attention (movies and concerts are good), so the focus of the date isn't primarily on you and her. Then of course, do something like eating together or taking a walk or something where you can get to know each other but you're not just sitting there staring at each other not knowing what to say. Ask her semi-personal questions that aren't too pressured but get her talking about herself so you can figure out what makes her happy and what turns her off. Good luck buddy!!!

About the kiss: Nothing too mushy unless the moment is REALLY right.. But if you've kissed her on the cheek once, you need to at least do that again to let her know you still like her and are attracted to her.

Answer 4

Try not to let your nervousness show - try to act confident. - beilieve in yourself. Nervousness in men makes women nervous. The main thing is conversation conversation conversation. take a real interest in everything she says - girls love guys that really know how to listen. Before the date try to think of interesting things to talk about. Ask plenty of questions. As far as the physical side is concerned, at the 2nd date, it's still best to err on the side of caution. The kiss on the cheek is still OK. But you need to start giving her signs that this isn't just a casual go out to see a film friendship i.e. it is something special. make sure you tell her how attractive she's looking and start hinting that you have deep feelings for her. By the 3rd date, you will need to start hotting up otherwise she will start to think that you aren't that interested. As far as things to do - art galleries, cinema, theatre etc all sound fine

Answer 5

Surely you don't expect a diagram on when to kiss or how far to go on a date. Each person is different. You are different with different people.
Both of you seem fine with going casual and slow. Good for you. She knows you like her, so leave it alone.
She is shy. Honor that. Why not ASK HER whether you can walk her home, or kiss her or not.
Don't push or you will scare her off.
Take it easy and enjoy the PROCESS of getting to know someone special. Don't plan it all out in advance, like a sleazy seduction.
Good luck.

Answer 6

It's only the second date in 3 weeks... you both are obviously cool with moving slow. Just relax and let things happen... if the mood is right, kiss her. if not, wait for another time. And you ALWAYS want to make good eye contact.

Have fun!

Answer 7

Why not just be straight with her. At the end of the date if it doesnt feel like its progressed any (prob due to her nature) then just say that you really like her and would love to take her out again on a date. Actually say it. She will then tell you what she thinks. You might even get to kiss her :) She prob doesnt want to say anything incase she embarrases herself. Do it...

Answer 8

if i were you i would ask her were she would like to go if she cannot decide try and compromise to gather were to go as she is shy just be yourself tell her how you have looked forward to seeing her again & how nice she looks you will know at the end of the night weather to kiss her or not but dont be pusshie good luck

Answer 9

Hi,if at the end of your date you want to kiss her then do it & Good Luck.

Answer 10

make sure you are relaxed and having fun then the rest should come naturally if its meant to be more than friends