Where to begin, I'm a really good guy, very optomistic love to dance, have fun and enjoy life. I'm also an attractive guy, based on compliments and what people say, but I also have a good head on my shoulders and don't let anything get in the way of what I need to do. So when I'm out and about, my friends notice people looking at me and I make eye contact with people and yet no one ever approaches me. I don't ignore people, I'm always smiling and being goofy and friendly when I'm out, so why won't people come up to me? What can I do to help this?
2007-04-16 09:37:40 · 25 answers · asked by Steve S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One other thing I might add.....I do go both ways, and in both crowds its the same exact thing. I am always smiling and talking to everyone. Its weird cuz people who have the intention of makin a new friend come up to me because they see I'm having fun, but others that look don't. And in case you are wondering, it isn't obvious that I go both ways, just about everyone thinks of me only being into girls. I'm just waiting for the right one to happen, gurl or guy, but I just don't like approaching people. I've always waited for people to approach me.
2007-04-16 10:02:09 · update #1
Do you ever approach people? Its quite a hard thing to do really, people never approach me when I'm out and about, and if you like them in a fancy-ing kinda way, then there's the added bonus of shyness, but if someone likes you and you give them some kind of a reason to approach you - could just be a 'Hi, isn't it a nice day?' or some comment on what they're doing -it can just be a little comment like if you're in a queue buying ice cream 'hey, that's the flavour I always get - it's the best isn't it?'. Ok, so that example sounds kinda lame, but if they want to get to know you as well, they'll reply to any little comment you make, and you can just take it from there.
2007-04-16 09:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by v17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with some of these people. The ones that say maybe you intimidate them because of your charm. That happens to me. and if it's not that then I don't know what it could be- a lot of guys like me but none of them approach me. Maybe your like the guys that like me and your too scared to approach. Well, I think you should just bite the stick and approach the person youwant, you never know....
2007-04-16 17:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by *butterfly kisses* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my own experiences, i have never in my life approached a guy, no matter how much eye contact he gives me, particularly if he's in a group of friends. I would suggest that if ladies do look your way, you approach them rather than wait to be approached.
2007-04-16 09:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Psychodelic Chicken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the Same boat, Either im Too pretty and Guys think I'm lying about NOT having a Boyfriend, Or they don't Want to be Rejected....hmmmmmmm People like Us should hook up, LOL
2007-04-16 09:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by kittysweetie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...well y don't you approach them? I mean you are the guy. If you see a girl you are interested in and she's looking at you ... go up to her and start talking.
2007-04-16 09:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably look too stuck-up and not very approachable.
Smile more and make sure that you are not smelling funny.
Besides that...you should just wait on the right person b'cuz notten happens b4 it's time
2007-04-16 09:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steve,
Maybe it's time you turn the tables around, and start approaching people? Take the iniative. Be active instead of passive. Some good, guy-specific sites for this type of information are linked below.
2007-04-16 09:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should approach them, not wait to be approached. Then when they see you that way, things might change and they'll approach you. Good Luck Steve
2007-04-16 09:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach them deary....they may be intimidated by your hotness. Normal people just don't walk up to random strangers for no reason ya know.
2007-04-16 09:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by *~LOVE~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "people".Who are you hoping will talk to you?Girls?If that's the case then you might be disappointed because alot of girls wait for the guy to approach them.....not always,but often.As for everyone else....if you see a group of people you wanna be friends with then your just gonna have to suck it up and be the one who does the approaching.
2007-04-16 09:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by veronica l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋