suicidal thought because of my mom?

Question

ok. my mom is so mean to me. the other day she found my white shirt in with all the dark cloughs and she got so mad at me. i have no idea how the shirt got in there but when i try to explain my self all she sais is shut up i dont want to here it. if i open my mouth to try to say something she says shut up all ready we all know you did it. and that builds up so much anger inside of me. she has done this to me so many times. like the other day she found out that i had a bad grade in s.s. and thats because the teacher dosnt upload grades. i opened my mmth to say because the teacher dosnt upload grades and she stoped me when i said becau... SHUT UP. thats all she says. and she always mentions the bad stuff about me to all my family. the other day i set a world record and made history along with 600 other people, and does she mention that to my family, NO all she could say is that i failed s.s. and that i didnt make the volley ball team.

im in mariachi and i sing spanish song for my family all the time. and after i compleete the songs my mom says no what does it mean. and i dont know what to say. then she tells me of in front of all my familly and makes fun of me cuz i dont know spanish that well. all these things + alot more make e think that my opinions in life dont count and no matter how hard i try im never good enough for anybody. i told my mom this the other day (leaving out the suicidal thought part) and she slaped me and called me dramatic. im not being dramatic im on the edge alread. do you have any suggestions on what i could do to get help or is there anybody that can help me cope with this? im about to losse it. oh and there is alot more that happens with my mom not just these little details i just dont have room to fit al of this. pleeze help p.s. im 13 so give realistic suggestions pleeeeeez i am beging. im about to losse it!!!!!!!!!!!!

all the anger built up inside makes me wanna hit her or someone. i take out so much anger on my little 4 year old sister and on my friends. they dont want to talk to me and my BAD mood pleeeeez help

Answer 1

okay... takin it all out on your friends and sister, especially since she's only 4, is wrong.. you probably know that...

i know what you're going through with your mother,... i had a very close call to the same thing you have now... except that only putting me down, she bit the crap out my brothers... slapped me around nicely, but hit us nonetheless.

my entire family's in the states, while we're here in germany... the only things they heard about me while i was growing up, was that i was a clutz, i was stupid, i was mean, i was conceited.
i've got enough pride to know that they weren't true...

The hitting stopped when i was 16... i threatened to hit her back one day and that was the end of that... but it only increased her verbal warfare against me.

sh*t happens...

personally i have given up trying to make things right for her, cuz now i know that i will never live up to be of her standards... and i don't care... if she hates me fine. if she threw me out of the house, so now that i live with my brother, fine... i'll get along without her...

what does your father say? doesn't he have an oppinion on this???
it isn't right... talk to your family about it.
i did... and my family is starting to realize slowly but surley why i hate my own mother... and now they even got to the point when they see through her illusions and see her for the person she really is...

try talking to your family... tell them about your accomplishments and ask did my mother tell you that, i bet she didn't.. or this and that which i achieved last month

get my point?
you'll be ok... get your grades in a line, go to college, work your way up that damn hill, move out and begin your very own life.

a fresh start... but you might as well make it a good one ;o)


oh ... and suicidal isn't the answer... take it from someone who knows...
nothing there's gonna end your misery... crush those thoughts of death right now... it'll get you nowhere...you'll die soon enogh, but it's not for you to decide when.. you'll die when you're meant to, and if you're lucky, you'll have a long long and healthy life...
you'll be fine

you'll always be alright. no matter what fate and the world throws your way.

Answer 2

I know your pain. My mother was exactly the same.
I was blamed for everything and beaten quite a few times - once with the metal vacuum pipe.
She pissed me off so badly last night that I picked up a glass to throw at her, but ended up shattering it in my hand from squeezing it in anger.

She probably really doesn't notice she's doing it. Or she gets a kick out of putting people down.
I asked my mother one day if she liked, all the people that she told all the negatives to, that they thought all the children that you brought up are inconsiderate and rude and can't finish anything?
It doesn't really say much to their parenting skills when you say something like that to them - cause it's because of your parents that you're the way you are (or the way she perceives you to me).
I made the Soccer team and the Softball team in high school - that didn't please her - she complained about the money she had to spend on the uniform. (They were the same for each sport) She wasn't proud that I'd made it passed 50 other people to get on each team.

She may also not want to have a child that does better then when she was at your age.

I've had plenty of suicidal thoughts myself because of my life and the way I was brought up - but I always end up thinking, I'll end up missing the rest of my life, I'll leave my sibings and nieces and nephews behind (when they're older they'll wonder why?) - a I wont get to marry my boyfriend. I always think of how hard deaths hit family's too - especially when somebody takes their life - it's not good.
So i've stuck it out and I DON'T regret it.

You NEED to go to your school Guidance Counsellor, even your principal (if they're higher figure you can trust - that wont call your mother and report to her everything you've said) Have them call somebody that can help you, that can come to your school and talk to you.

Answer 3

Your mother is so negative that she isn't able to be positive and probably has forgotten what it is like. She sounds like she is pretty miserable and has decided to take it out on you and possibly others. I'm sorry that you have to be at the brunt of her anger. She isn't angry with you although it comes across that way. She hates herself and she hates her life. In future, don't try to defend yourself as you have learned that she won't listen to you anyway. Let her rant and rave and keep in mind that one day you will get to leave that home and move on with your life and be happy and positive and she will remain there in her negativity and unhappiness.

This is not the best situation but from it you have already learned that negativity is not worth it and you will go forth in the world and be sure to compliment others on their achievements, especially your own children one day.

You're going to be okay. Just let your mom's rantings go. Don't respond - just listen and then walk away when she has finished flapping her lips. The less you say the faster she will shut up.

Good luck. And congratulations on setting a world record!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I have seen this happened to people before if you really look at it it makes her look bad what kinda mother would down her
child all the time. some time constructive criticism is OK but not all the time. some times you have to learn to tune your mother
out and except that is the way she will be. It sounds to me like you are turning out to be a fine young adult keep your head up and stay in school make some thing of yourself and move out when you graduate. do not let any one break your spirit. sounds to me like your mom is a little jealous. P.S. I cannot speak Spanish and I am a Chicana sounds like you are better then I was at that age. prayer always helps. pray to soften her heart.

Answer 5

Baby, you need to pray about it, whenever you include God in your problems, he helps take them away, he takes all the pain, all the stress, all the anger away. what you and your mom need is counselling and some anger management for you both. also u said u felt like hitting her, may i draw ur attention to a chapter in Ephesians where it says that children should honor their parents, it also says that parents should not mistreat their children. if your mom &u cannot stay under one roof then u should stay with a relative who u can trust, i think ur mom does not show u enough respect and both of u need to work things out before things get so bad u end up not wanting to speak to each other again, and hating each other for life. bring God into your life, pray about your problem, go to church and talk to the pastor ask him for help, when u put christ in the midst of all your problems, he will make a way out of no way.

Answer 6

Please don't think of sucicide over something like this. I know it is very hard on you, I hear that she is hurting your feelings, and actually degrading you. Soon you will be old enought to get a job, and move out. Then if she continues and you can't get a word in edge wise, don't have nothing to do with her. LIfe your adult life for you and your future spouse. Be as happy as you can be, forget that lousy past life with you mother, and look towards the future. And please don't copy her with your children. what you discribes really sucks. When I was older, I finally confronted my mother, and explained how she was hurting me. She stopped doing it. she didn't realize it at the time. I love my mother so much, all my life. Its a shame you can't do the same with your mother.

Answer 7

Never let anyone... even your mother make you feel this way. You can't be responsible for whatever happened to your mom to make her this way. The best thing for you to do is just ignore what you can and keep moving on with your life. You will be old enough to move out soon and be the best person YOU are, no matter what your mother was like. Chin up and keep going.. .don't look back.

Answer 8

Well first good for you for breaking the record!!! Don't be mean to your little sister, then your acting the way your mom is to you... She looks up to you and your making her feel the way your moms making you feel. I'm sorry maybe your mom is stressed out, maybe she doesn't know how to show you affection? What ever her reasons she sure is showing you tough love. I know its hard and it sucks feeling like no one cares but stay stronge and be positive, as far as spanish goes, well I know how you feel there too, and good for you for even being able to pronounce the words, you have talent and thats all that matters!! Be stronge!!! And don't be mean to your little sister........ Hang in there mija..Thanks to you I will pay more attention to my little girls and wont say "shut up"
Monkey see monkey do....Its true.

Answer 9

Because you are 13 and mention school subjects I will assume that you go to school. How about making an immediate appointment with your school guidance officer? Many students don't realize that the guidance officer is there for more than academic issues. I had a very difficult childhood and my guidance officer was a lifeline for me. I wish you the best of luck and God's blessings.

Answer 10

I like Three Days Grace...and that i LOVE Fall Out Boy, and I love Panic At The Disco much more than that, I pay attention to Evanescence, and The Medic Droid. Im no longer suicidal........good i used to be.