I got engaged last week to someoen i'v been with for four year well my best friends comes to the house the next to tell me that shes engaged to and wants the wedding a month after mine (even though they have only been togther 2 months) should I be upset?
2007-04-16 08:34:46 · 15 answers · asked by missyjesika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should be happy for your BFF and not ruin YOUR wedding because of her. If she isn't in love with this guy then she probably won't go through with the wedding.
2007-04-16 08:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Upset...no. Worried for you friend...yes. It sounds like she is rushing into the marriage. Could it be that she is envious of your relationship and the attention you are going to be getting from the wedding? Until she has set the date and reserved the locations, there is no guarantee that she will have the wedding so close to yours. To persuade her to have a later date, you could always say something like: "Oh, its too bad you are going to have your wedding so close to mine. I was going to have you be my maid of honor, but you are going to be so busy planning your own wedding that I am going to have to ask someone else." If she wants the role of maid of honor, she just might rethink her date. Don't worry about the attention being taken away from you. Most people probably won't be too thrilled about her engagement considering she hardly knows the guy. They will have more confidence in your marriage and will want to be supportive of you. I hope everything works out for you! Congrats on the engagement!
2007-04-16 15:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least hers will be after yours. You'll be back from your honeymoon. You can't expect the focus to stay on you much longer than that! Besides, she probably won't go through with it anyway (I read part 2). If she's already been engaged 4 times, she's probably not the kind of girl who follows through on anything. Enjoy your wedding, and if hers is still on, go to it, and have a good time.
2007-04-16 19:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) I'm smiling b/c I was faced with a similar situation. I also got engaged and shortly after my sister does't get engaged but says she wants to have her wedding 3 months after mine. I too questioned how I felt. But I think you are valid in being upset. This is a time in a Bride's life that you want to focus on YOUR day. I completely understand. It's hard. If you want to talk about your day...of course she'll want to talk about hers.
2007-04-16 15:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by ljoc421 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There really is no reason for you to get upset. You start to plan your wedding and let her plan her wedding, if there is one to occur. Only time will tell if she will be getting married a month after your wedding. If she really is going to get married and has found her one true love, be happy for her as you want her to be happy for you. Best wishes to you both!
2007-04-16 15:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will realize once you are married that trivial things like your friend also getting married really do not matter. If you really think it's going to be a problem, get married earlier or later to separate out the wedding dates, but in reality (which is the non bride mind) it really isn't a big deal.
2007-04-16 15:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by exj132 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I would enjoy planning your wedding and be glad that you waited I had a friend that waited four years they are happily married and have a son and the other friend of mine is getting married in less time and is miserable be glad she wants to be like you and think about it your first I wouldnt let it ruin you plans
2007-04-16 15:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be upset? Sounds like you wanted the spotlight all to yourself. Should she have said "no I won't marry you because my bff is getting married." I don't know why she'd marry someone after knowing them 2 mo, but that's a whole other question.....
2007-04-16 15:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Why would you be upset? That's kind of selfish. Do you think she got engaged just to upstage you? And if she did, do you really think her marriage will last? It doesn't sound like you and your B.F.F. are really that good of friends.
2007-04-16 15:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I THINK U SHOULD FOCUS ON UR WEDDING AND DO'
NOT WORRY ABOUT ANYONE ELSE. U BE A BIG PERSON AND WISH HER THE BEST OF LUCK AND
ALLL THE HAPPINESS IN THE WORLD. AND HOPEFULLY
SHE FEELS THE SAME FOR U. AND NO DON'T BE
UPSET.... NO ONE WAS HURT............. GOOD LUCK
AND BEST WISHES ON UR WEDDING..............
2007-04-20 15:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋