my big sister was in a car crash and had a miscarriage. ever since then shes been under a lot of depression and this really worries our family and her boyfriend.
she refuses to speak to us and is very moody and snaps at her boyfriend all the time, though he is very patient and loving
how do we help her out of this?
she cries so often because she lost her baby?
2007-04-16 08:33:04 · 12 answers · asked by lizzie h 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
she can also not walk properly she limps and she feels embarrassed
2007-04-16 08:33:55 · update #1
because of the car crash
2007-04-16 08:34:17 · update #2
im sorry i forgot to mention she is getting professional help, for the past one week. i just want to know what we can do to help her heal faster
2007-04-16 08:47:11 · update #3
Just love her unconditionally and give her all your patience, and then some! My heart goes out to you and your family.
2007-04-16 09:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to lose a baby for any reason, but its even harder to watch the mother (or parents) deal with the greif. I would suggest taking her to some sort of therapist or if you think she is a danger to herself to the ER.
Greiving is a long process. She is going to try to push everyone away, she doesn't mean to do this, its just part of the greif and depression. If this has been going on for more than a few weeks (or a month) the I seek her professional help. Seeing a therapist will help her work through her greif and eventually move past it.
She is never going to get completely over it, this is from someone who knows, but she can move on with the right help and time.
good luck
2007-04-16 15:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Christal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may not seem like much but one of the most important things you can do is consistently show love to her. You may not think it is having any effect but the fact is every person who shows they care about her helps her hold on.
She would probably benefit from counseling and possibly medication, depending on what her body personally needs. See what resources you can make her aware of, such as different counselors, support groups for grief or depression, books to comfort the grieving or those recovering from other loss or adjusting to change--be careful it is a book that comes across as a comfort and a help, not as "You're really screwed up and here's what you should do about it."
Invite her to church. She will benefit by developing a greater connection with Jesus, who is able to heal all hurts.
Invite her to whatever she will respond to--a picnic, a movie, just over to play a board game, over to help you out with a project, invite her to everything and don't spend the time preaching at her about how she should snap out of it and get her life in order; just BE with her. Sometimes just being with a person is the greatest help you can give them, especially when their emotional pain is so raw they can't bear to touch it.
If she refuses to be around you or talk to you, pray for her and send her greeting cards that say how much you care. Say it in a variety of ways: serious, funny, spiritual, friendly, etc.
Would she be receptive to receiving positive materials such as jokes, cartoons or humor books? Maybe with a little note to say, "I know you're dealing with some very serious things that can't be healed just with humor, but I thought at least this might brighten up your day for a moment and bring you a smile...Every time you smile is precious to me because you are precious to me. I hope this brings you a laugh and the reminder that I care. Love..."
Hope this helps. God bless you.
2007-04-16 15:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lose of a child is so profound. i think the only thing that is going to help your sister is time and the love and support of you her family.If you really feel she is really in need of help you may want to contact grief counselor. In the mean time let her talk about the lose and by all means don't say " your young you can have another" You can't replace the lose of a child with another. My prayers are with you.
2007-04-16 15:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's going through a hard time, which is totally understandable, there's very little anyone can say to make her feel better, I'm a great believer in time heals, so just give her time and space until she feels ready to talk, as you say, the boyfriend is patient and loving so he'll stick around and give her the support she needs.
2007-04-16 15:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just love and be there when she needs you.Time is the only thing that will help.And she may need to get help from Dr. med.s also a support group.I will pray for all of you.Keep strong.
2007-04-16 17:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by cheri p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't already done so, her first port of call should be her GP, who should be able to advise her, help her with some temporary medication or refer her to a professional (possibly a psychologist) who she can talk to.
2007-04-16 15:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Crikes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was 7 and 9 years old my mother had miscarriages . if you get counciling i think that should help and some physical therapy.try another baby?
2007-04-16 15:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she need professional help...get her to a psychiatrist and on some meds to start the healing
2007-04-16 15:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for goodness sake she needs psychiatric treatment so get her to your doctor without waste of time and I'm meaning tomorrow morning Good Luck to you it will be OK they are great people in the hospital
2007-04-16 15:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋